It doesn't seem like enough people are really buying into it. The Good Stories Don't Seem To Matter I mean, people buy these stories all the time with their money. Those stadiums are packed with people who need to seize their destiny. Those articles are sold all day long because it gives people the secrets to success. Why do you think shows like Oprah, Dr Oz and Ellen kept getting great ratings? Everybody likes a nice, heartwarming story. Why are some of the most viral videos about people who do remarkably good things? I learned not to make waves. I assumed I had no right to complain. So I just put my head in the sand, and whether or not it was denial or whatever, I just wasn't going to deal with it. In my mind I had to make peace. Denial doesn't mean not having a clue. It often means dismissing the seriousness of the behavior. You don't know what to believe, so out of fear you simply believe what makes you feel safest. Denial stems from a yearning to believe that all will be fine or that all will return to how it was before this acting-out behavior reared its ugly head. The addict lies to you, and now you lie to yourself. Confused by self-deception, you do not take action and you spend your energy reacting or stamping out fires. The same principle can be applied to resting heart rate. If you take your pulse when you get up each morning for a week and see that on a morning that you were feeling wiped, your rate was ten beats higher than on the other days, then you'll have confirmed that your instinct not to train that day was correct.

But if the value on that day is similar to the others that week, then perhaps you were trying to con yourself out of hopping on your bike. Time to Take Your Pulse Another way to measure heart rate is with a pulse oximeter, a relatively inexpensive piece of equipment that also lets you look at oxygen saturation. I've used various models over the years, both for myself and my athletes. But one day I started to question how well they actually worked. So I articleed time in a lab like Andy's and went there with twenty athletes and several different types of oximeters. The exercise scientists monitored the athletes' pulse rates with professional-grade equipment while we also monitored them with the commercial-grade oximeters. For the first experiment, we had them do five minutes of hyperventilation breathing using the Wim Hof Method. Why do the heroes always win in the end? Why does the guy always get the girl or vice versa? Why are Hallmark movies still successful? Because of all these great, heartwarming and encouraging resources we can find, shouldn't more people be making positive momentum with their lives? Unfortunately, we don't change. If this is the last article you read before getting bored and losing interest, please realize that you could gain all of the world's knowledge, wisdom and insights. You could attend every self-help seminar money can buy. You could read all of the articles about all of the secrets to success. You could listen to hundreds of thousands of interviews with multi-million dollar, successful people. You could be given every advantage and every opportunity in the world to live a phenomenal life. Denial is the oxygen feeding the fire. I actually found out because he told me.

He thought I was going to find out anyway. He apologized, begged me to forgive him, and pleaded with me not to leave, saying it was just this one time and it wouldn't happen again. He told me he had already told his boss he couldn't go on road trips anymore, that he had to be closer to home. So I thought this time maybe this cloud had a silver lining for us. But after a while I noticed he would get off the computer abruptly when I came in. He was late coming home from work or at a ball game with clients. It wasn't clear, but I just had this feeling. He kept telling me he loved me and we were still having good sex. The lab equipment showed oxygen saturation of 98 percent or above. But all the commercially available oximeters registered levels below 90 percent. Conclusion: the oximeters were inaccurate. Next we looked at pulse rates following intense exercise intervals with several minutes of deep, controlled, relaxing breathing that's meant to send the body from a sympathetic stress state (fight or flight) into a parasympathetic recovery (rest and digest) one. The lab equipment showed that all the athletes' pulses dipped to 100 bpm or below. However, the oximeters registered pulse rates of around 120 bpm, with some even higher. I guess using cheap oximeters isn't the best idea. Instead, you can take your own pulse using nothing more than two fingers. I press these to the carotid artery on the side of my neck, in the hollow next to my windpipe, and count how many times my heart beats in ten seconds. Then I multiply this by six to get my bpm. AND YET, a man can still wake up at 50 years old and wonder where the hell his life went. AND YET, a woman can be divorced three times and bank on this fourth marriage to be the one that lasts.

AND YET, a man can go from dead-end job to dead-end job and blame the world for all of his life problems. AND YET, a woman can understand that she has dire problems with her physical health and family, but not take action to solve them. It's a much deeper and socially-accepted problem that exists here. It's a massive cultural acceptance of a lackluster average that I believe few recognize. Even if we recognize it, we are unwilling to fix the issues because it's too troublesome or will stir up some tough conversations. It's the constant lack of honor toward our word. It's the lack of trust in others. It's a lack of commitment for the long haul. I made sure of that; I initiated it. I would buy sexy clothing that I knew he liked. I thought that meant something, like I was the only one. He often told me what a good mother I was and I know that meant a lot to him, as his mother left him when he was young. Somehow I thought that was so important to him that he wouldn't do anything more to hurt me. I just wanted to trust him, to believe him. So I ignored and dismissed all of my fears and my inner voice. I trusted him when I should have trusted myself. Time would pass, months, a few years, and I just wanted to believe his words so I turned the other way and got busy. You can also take your pulse at your wrist: place two fingers just below your thumb, over your radial artery. If you're curious about the relationship between oxygen saturation, heart rate, and metabolic pathways (ie, the ways your body produces fuel from food), you can do a twelve-minute metabolic test that increases the intensity of rowing, cycling, or running every minute;

With well-conditioned athletes, we usually see an even jump of two, three, or four beats every minute. If someone's pulse jumps by a lot more--say eight or ten beats each minute--we know that they're crossing a threshold and changing the metabolic system they're using, such as transitioning from primarily using glucose and glycogen as fuel to utilizing fat. The key element here is connecting what's going on with the heart rate and the metabolic pathway with the athlete's sensation. I'll stand beside them and ask what they're feeling. Often they'll say, My body feels like it's burning or I'm out of breath. This is a clear indicator that their heart rate just spiked and that they're also crossing a metabolic threshold. I then explain the correlation to them after the test, so they know what physical sensations to look for next time they're out on a run or bike ride. They can also utilize this self-knowledge to work at a certain intensity so they can improve their ability to sustain power at a certain level. It's the habitual drifting that keeps people from getting really good at something. It's an apathy toward life that everyone seems to accept, a collective apathy, if you will. I've got news for you. There isn't some secret concept that I'm waiting to reveal about the mysteries of success. I told you right at the beginning what the simple steps are! These principles have been known for centuries! They aren't outdated, and they don't need a new mobile app so it works for our generation. If you really want to change your life and make great improvements, I encourage you to start with two articles and actually finish them. Dale Carnegie's, How to Win Friends and Influence People, and Napoleon Hill's, Think and Grow Rich, are two of the most pivotal, earliest articles written to improving your life (other than the Bible and other religious or philosophical texts). With both articles having been written in the 1930s, they are some of the first popular pieces of literature dedicated to life success. I dove into my job and the kids. Having a family takes time.