Sit in a comfortable position. Appreciating what those feelings are is what will help you to understand them. How do you appreciate and emotion, even a negative or bad one, while you are experiencing it? This tool is another part of emotional intelligence. If you can appreciate the emotion you are having, then you are able to comprehend why you are having it, which will lead to its eventual resolution. What does emotional appreciation look like? Let's continue with the example of having a quarrel with your partner. Through the identification process, you have determined that you are angry because you do not feel heard and validated by your partner. By identifying the why of the matter, you can understand your partner as well as yourself because you are offering yourself perspective at the moment. To appreciate your emotion means to say to yourself that it is okay that you have that feeling. It is okay that you are angry because you don't feel valued by your partner, and thusly, it is okay that they are expressing anger toward you for the same reason. When your estrogen and progesterone are out of balance, you might experience cramping, bloating, breast tenderness, mood swings, and a host of other symptoms. What throws your estrogen and progesterone out of balance? A wide variety of factors might be involved, including diet, lack of exercise, environmental toxins, and the current or past use of birth-control pills. Imbalance might also result from excessive stress hormones flooding your body, perhaps in response to an overscheduled life, the press of too many deadlines, or an unrelenting set of emotional demands from the people around you. Once again, restoring balance to the estrogen-progesterone relationship is relatively easy. As we'll see, diet, lifestyle, supplements, and, occasionally, bioidentical hormones can make a world of difference. So can looking at the sources of stress in your life and figuring out new ways to minimize, cope with, or even eliminate them. Painful periods may also be the result of endometriosis. The transition from fertility to menopause is known as perimenopause--a gradual hormonal shift that usually begins in the late 30s or early 40s and extends into menopause.

Perimenopause might be a relatively smooth transition as hormone levels adjust in preparation for the time when the menstrual cycle will end and a new era of life will begin. Follow your breath while listening to this music--breathing long, light, even breaths while remaining aware of the movement and sentiments of the music. You follow the breath where it is most distinctively felt by you, often at the tip of the nostrils. Enjoy smooth, relaxing, beautiful music, no words, a gentle instrumental. Use this exercise to take a break from your busy life. What is effected is a certain ennoblement of matter, a transformation produced not merely by the hand of the artist, but by his or her thought or knowledge. The arts serve primarily as a medium of spiritual communication. Creating art is a magical form of meditation. To do seated breath stretches, sit in a comfortable position--on a cushion or in a chair. Close your eyes and concentrate on breathing into the front of your body while raising your arms to the side and over your head, then breathing out, bringing your arms down. This is sun breath. When you appreciate the emotion, then you are able to give space to its existence and acknowledge that it is always okay for us to respond to something or someone in our own way. When you give yourself permission to feel, then you grant yourself the gateway to having emotional intelligence and mastering the way they rise up and create more intensity in any experience. Accept that you are angry and resolve to understand the feeling. Acknowledge that your partner is also angry and that you are both involved in this emotional experience. Allow yourself to feel your emotion so that you can begin to heal the feeling with understanding. These three, simple steps can be used with any emotion, even good ones that need understanding. Accept, Acknowledge, and Allow: these are the key points of appreciating your identified emotion. Once you have this step in the formula covered, you can begin to understand your emotions. For the empath, it is crucial that you are able to understand your own feelings so that you are better able to understand the feelings of the other person involved.

You may want to be right all of the time, but when you identify and appreciate your emotions, then you can understand that your partner or the person you are speaking to has the same needs as you do. Or it might be a mini-preview of the worst aspects of menopause, including brain fog, mood swings, decreased libido, weight gain, night sweats, loss of vitality, and even hot flashes. By paying attention to hormonal balance, you can sail through your 40s and 50s as an energetic, sensuous, and sexually alive woman, reaping the benefits of age and experience while enjoying the vitality of youth. Again, this is a perspective that many conventional practitioners miss. They offer perimenopausal women antidepressants, the birth-control pill, or pharmaceutical hormones made from horse urine, failing to see the big picture and ignoring the importance of diet, lifestyle, and modifying stress. I successfully treat countless women who couldn't get help elsewhere. I work with them to change their diets and their lifestyles, offering them topical progesterone (a skin cream that contains small amounts of progesterone) and prescribing such nutritional supplements as evening primrose oil, essential fatty acids, and a high-quality multivitamin. I also use such herbs as black cohosh, red clover, wild yam, and chasteberry. I've witnessed firsthand how these natural treatments have given women back their lives as their painful symptoms disappear and the health problems that have plagued them since their teens resolve. This is the kind of help I'd like to offer you, too. Although this article is not dedicated to men, I want to take a moment to mention that men can have serious hormonal issues as well. Then breathe into the back of your body, meaning you will focus your concentration on your back and visualize breathing there, raising your arms over your head. Breathe out, lowering your arms. Breathe now into the right side of your body, raising your right arm over your head. Breathe out, lowering that arm. Finally, breathe into the left side of your body, raising your left arm over your head. Breathe out, lowering that arm. In a seated position, close your eyes. As you inhale, pause to sense and envision the billions of atoms of air soaking into your bloodstream and being carried to nourish and energize every cell and fiber of your body. As you exhale, pause to envision that through the power of your intent and imagination you imbue the energy bundles of each atom and molecule with your unique blessings.

Envision that each breath is offered as a blessing to the countless beings who are breathing. This is what being empathic is all about. After you have identified and appreciated your emotion, you can determine what it means to the situation at hand. There are, of course, infinite examples and scenarios for how to understand any emotional state or experience, and as we continue with the same example, you will be able to get the point of what the understanding phase is all about. As you welcome your emotion into the fight that you are having with your partner, you can then engage with the specifics of what you are feeling and why. You may begin to change course here and make some key points about how you are feeling to your partner in order to create a deeper understanding. When you give a name to your emotions and appreciate why they are occurring, you begin to broaden the perspective a little and gain a better view of the big picture issue. Understanding means seeing beyond the moment and acknowledging the presence of this emotion in multiple situations involving arguments with your partner in which you feel angry because you are unheard and invalidated. This gives you the perspective you need to move ahead to help the source of the issue come to light to be healed and resolved. So, let's see how that would look in this situation. You have quietly identified your feelings with Question-Answer. Environmental toxins known as xenoestrogens imitate the effects of estrogen in the body and may increase men's estrogen levels while decreasing their testosterone levels. Aging can also contribute to this imbalance. Testosterone is especially important for muscle building, clear thinking, and cardiovascular protection, while increased estrogen leads to decreased sexual function, loss of motivation, and weight gain, often in the form of a pot belly. The beauty of all this is that men as well as women can benefit from a hormone-balancing 28-day plan, which contributes to weight loss, improved sexual function, increased energy and motivation, and improved cardiovascular health. So feel free to share this article with the men in your life! The word hormone comes from the Greek word meaning messenger. You can think of your body's many hormones as part of an elaborate messenger system, dashing through your bloodstream to share information, give instructions, and coordinate functions among your organs and nervous system. Unfortunately, when your hormones are out of balance, their messages can be muted, misunderstood, short-circuited, or garbled. If you're eating a diet high in sugar or low in the right kinds of fats, for example, you're not giving your hormones the support they need to carry clear, helpful messages.

On the other hand, when you're eating a hormone-friendly diet, these messengers can be better understood by the rest of your body. Stay with this exercise for 10 minutes or more. You wish to be happy, right? Use your breath to just pay attention and be kind, unconditionally kind, on this breath alone. This will help you feel kinder and happier. No matter what the circumstances, just be kind. Everything else will work itself out. Deep breathing will cleanse you of impurities and realign your being with the energy of prana, the cosmic energy connecting the elements of the universe. After completing this exercise, take a deep breath and move on in kindness. Say, I will use my finger to point at myself, and then point away in the opposite direction. Contemplate seeing yourself outside of your bodily form. You have Accepted, Acknowledged, and Allowed that you are angry and that you have a right to feel your feelings. You are ready to understand how to make it apparent that you have these feelings so that they are ready to be resolved. You stop the argument from boiling and make a statement of your feelings, using declarative, fact-based statements. I am angry right now because I feel like you can't hear what I am saying. I am angry because I feel like you never allow me to say what I need and want to. I am angry because I feel like you are using my feelings against me, to get a rise out of me. I am angry because I feel like you don't want to hear my side, no matter what I say. Making a declarative statement or two, based on your identification and appreciation of your feelings is what creates understanding about your feelings and then opens the doorway to the next phase in the emotional mastery formula: awareness. When you understand your own feelings, you can bring greater awareness to them, as well as to the emotional state of the other person involved.