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Try and set your mind to it. Also remember, if you do not feel the connection, they are not going to feel it either. This is just as much about getting that connection for yourself as it is getting them to feel it as well. Understanding Visual, Auditory, and Kinesthetic Cues Before you begin making use of the NLP techniques that you are going to be learning shortly, you must firstly take a look at the representational systems of NLP. Adventure seekers use the cost-benefit analysis of anticipated regret which follows the same pattern as William and Michael's conversation. If I do X, I will feel Y and if I don't do X, I will feel Z. Researchers at Tilburg University and Utrecht University in The Netherlands found people regret things they didn't attempt more than the things they attempted (Zeelenberg, van den Bos, van Dijk, 2002). In other words, it is generally better to try and fail than to not try at all. This pattern of regret was found to be stronger after previous inaction that led to negative outcomes. If sitting on the couch doesn't produce the outcome you want, doesn't trying the alternative make sense? Given this data on trying and regretting less, one approach may be to make decisions so that you won't regret later even when unsure about the outcome. How often do students choose one major then change it? Answer: often. During the first couple of years of college, students often change their minds about their studies. High blood pressure Cigarette smoking The more of those risk factors you have, and the further from normal each is, the greater your risk. Risk factors potentiate one another--that is, each makes the others more potent. For example, whereas high blood cholesterol might double your risk of heart disease, if you're diabetic, the same degree of high cholesterol could quadruple your risk.

In other words, having two risk factors is not just a little worse than having one--it's much worse. Here's the good news: This also works in reverse. Having only one risk factor isn't just a little better than having two--it's a lot better. Actually, many of us eventually come up with one of those four risk factors, but most of us don't develop artery problems, at least until we're very old. Most heart attacks and strokes occur in people who have more than one major risk factor for atherosclerosis. These are the learning styles that each person has and each person is going to learn slightly differently from everyone else. No matter if you are teaching children, adults, or anyone else, you are going to want to keep these styles in mind. Generally speaking, the three most prevalent learning modules are visual, auditory, and kinesthetic. You want to follow these along as much as you can and if you can figure out the VAK (Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic) style that they use, you are going to have a better chance of getting through to them. J ust as people tend to learn differently and some people may find that they have great luck with talking to someone else while others prefer to get information written down for them instead, and others still prefer to do something to understand it, people can be influenced by NLP differently depending upon their styles as well. You will want to identify the ways in which you can better understand these people so you can then begin to better recognize their actions and how to influence them. If you can get that down for yourself, you will be able to better interact. You will be able to better guide them. You will be able to identify how to reach out better than ever before, and this article is going to teach you how to do so now. V isual Learners While time and money are factors in students' decisions during college for economic reasons, the students are using anticipated regret to avoid regretting something larger later. Anticipated regret also has health benefits. Researchers at the University of North Carolina and at Harvard University found that anticipated regret has a positive association with future healthy behaviors (Brewer, DeFrank, Gilkey, 2016). That is, thinking about a future feeling of exercising, or not, can affect today's decision to exercise. In other words, when you're unsure if you want to exercise, think about how you will feel later, then make your decision.

The next time you consider undertaking an Adventure be it large or small consider using anticipated regret. Your future self will thank you. Adventure: be an optimal hero Beyond avoiding regret, deciding to embark on an Adventure brings visceral, heart-pounding, and life-changing rewards, risks, and possible injury. But most people no matter how they define Adventure aim for an optimal Adventure experience. Of course, the best of all worlds would be to have no risk factors. Nevertheless, type 2 diabetes alone doesn't cause much trouble if you don't have any other risk factors--if your cholesterol and blood pressure levels are normal and you don't smoke. However, if you have diabetes, it becomes especially important not to have any other risk factors. Taking care of your arteries is not about just one number, your blood sugar level. It's about four numbers: your blood sugar, cholesterol, blood pressure, and how many cigarettes you smoke. Better Than Normal Here's a common scenario: Joe has always been pleased with his blood cholesterol level. It's always been normal. However, when he developed type 2 diabetes, his doctor told him that, in addition to medication for diabetes, he would need to take cholesterol-lowering pills. Why would Joe have to take medication for his cholesterol if it was normal to begin with? Visual learners are people that are typically able to understand and learn very well by seeing things done for them. They find that they are able to learn the best when they watch someone else do it first. When they are able to watch someone else's behaviors, they learn what it is that they should be doing better than if someone attempted to talk them through it. For these people, you want to model what it is that you want them to do. You want to ensure that you are developing that rapport and then acting it out for them.

If you want them to stop biting their nails, for example, every time you see them getting close to biting, you would pace and lead them away from such a behavior. You may also use the use of your own body language to change their own body language and therefore their emotions as well. T here are several telltale signs that the individual that you are interacting with are visual learners, including: They speak rapidly and jump around a lot as they speak--they are usually thinking visually and that involves a lot of jumping around from scene to scene, not unlike a mental movie on their end They tend to think about the big picture to help them make decisions In 1986, Martin and Priest developed the Adventure Experience Paradigm (see diagram below) to capture peak adventure and adventures that vary from the optimal experience. Peak adventure is achieved at the point at which personal competence matches and balances with situational risk. This is important for 6A people because your personal competence may be higher or lower so concentrating on matching your desires, skills, and experience for Adventure should guide you. If you want to do a bike race, it's probably a good idea to ride your bike around your neighborhood and do some group rides first. Graph 1: The Adventure Experience Paradigm (Martin & Priest, 1986), a model of the adventure experience. The Adventure Experience Paradigm has five (5) phases. In phase one, Exploration and Experimentation, the task is easy which is a good time to try new things. Your skill level is high for the low-risk challenge. This is fun phase for most people, and it should be an important touchstone phase for anyone who wants to pursue Adventure because there are few things as sweet as learning without repercussions. In phase two, Adventure, the task provides people an experience with some risk and an uncertain outcome. If you have diabetes, a normal cholesterol level isn't necessarily the best cholesterol. Ideally, it should be lower than normal. Here's why: Just as risk factors can add to one another, they can also subtract from one another. Having a cholesterol level that is lower than normal makes up for some of the risk of having blood sugar that is higher than normal. But isn't it best to be normal?

In medicine, normal usually just means average. However, average isn't necessarily ideal. For example, the average American's weight is high enough to increase his or her risk of diabetes and heart disease. Thus, it's healthier to weigh less than average. The same is true of cholesterol and blood pressure. They typically prefer to meet and interact in person as opposed to over email or from person to person They typically wind up speaking at a higher pitch, and when they are breathing, you see the movements in their chest as opposed to the belly. They sit upright and their eyes usually point upwards as they visualize They rely on gestures widely They are quite organized, neat, and typically present themselves cleanly and well-groomed They struggle with being told what to do; They usually use expressions related to sight (I see, I get the picture, etc) When you are interacting with someone that is visual, you, too, will want to tap into those sight-related cues; This helps them to activate their own learning and activates their attention. You will also want to incorporate body language regularly. It is as this point that the difficulty of the task and one's individual competence are nearly aligned. One's skill may be slightly greater than the difficulty of the task or the difficulty may be slightly more than one's skill, but it is the fine-line balance that creates enough friction for excitement. In phase three, Peak Adventure, the difficulty of the task is equal to the skill of the individual. Looking for this equilibrium and then experiencing it is one of the greatest motivators for Adventures. At this point, people often find themselves hooked on Adventure because the thrill from this experience spills over to the rest of their life.