So, keep in mind that evaluating risk for suicide is not like setting up a list of pros and cons. There is no specific formula for detecting and preventing suicide. What I recommend is to look at a person's biology, biography, risk, and protective factors--as well as her or his current mental health status to determine if a suicide attempt is a real possibility. The importance of suicide prevention has developed so significantly over the last decade that nearly every industrialized country in the world has a suicide prevention program. Suicide prevention plans feature strongly in business, education, healthcare, military, and government. The World Health Organization continues to be the global ambassador in this regard, not only by championing the need for ongoing research, diagnosis, and intervention programs for suicide but also by hosting World Suicide Prevention Day every September 10. This global campaign also boasts sponsorship from the International Association for Suicide Prevention and the United Nations as well as thousands of grassroots organizations and agencies worldwide. Make a "life plan." Keep a list of suicide-intervention names, doctors, professionals, agencies, and hotlines, and their respective contact numbers near all landline telephones. These should also be programmed into cell and cordless phones and bookmarked in personal computers and laptops. Ask others to keep you informed. Don't be shy to invite trusted people to let you know if they detect any changes in how you're thinking or behaving. Suicidal intentions can be detected in how you think, communicate, and behave, so others may see these high-risk symptoms before you do. Choose life-affirming experiences. Resist reading and viewing tragic or trauma-filled books, news stories, and films. These negative experiences can worsen feelings of hopelessness and despair. Instead, embrace nature, feed your senses, and surround yourself with children and adults who brim with purpose and pulse with life. Remember to dodge isolation as much as possible at home, school, or work. Seclusion heightens the likelihood of death by suicide. Sequester lethal means. Consider having a family or friend hold your prescription and over-the-counter medications.

Keep trigger items like razors, knives, firearms, rope, and other items out of reach by throwing them out or having someone safeguard them. Sequestering such items subdues the impulse for their use. Keep away from drugs and alcohol. Substance use increases impulsivity and blurs cognition. Refrain from this fatal combination by keeping all alcohol and drugs out of reach. Avoid socializing with people who don't adhere to this policy or who push the agenda that alcohol and drugs will mellow you out. They won't. In fact, using drugs and alcohol significantly increases your odds of dying by suicide. Pay attention to signs of suicidality. Exercise your observing-ego by frequently analyzing inner thoughts and feelings. Are they positive, hopeful, and realistic? Are they becoming negative and morbid? Remember that subtle changes in thinking, feeling, and behaving not only can signal a relapse or recurrence of depression but can also set the stage for suicidal behavior. Become familiar with the seven categories of suicidality. Knowing their textures and subtleties before you actually experience them can hasten intervention. ave an "action plan." You already know that suicidal thinking hijacks reasoning and common sense. If you detect your judgment worsening, immediately contact a healthcare professional, take yourself to the nearest hospital emergency room, or call a friend or family member. Do not wait. There's no shame in alerting others that self-destructive urges or thoughts are percolating within you. Financial difficulties are one of the biggest challenges a relationship can face.

And as it happens, your credit score can be a pretty good predictor of your marriage's chance of survival. A study by researchers from UCLA, the Brookings Institution, and the Federal Reserve Board found that the lower a person's credit score, the more likely his or her marriage will end in divorce. They went so far as to put it in numbers: For every 105-point increase in your credit score, there is a corresponding 32 percent drop in your likelihood of divorcing. So now you have one more reason to pay off that Visa. Who did the dishes last? What about the vacuuming? Chores are a complex work arrangement that if managed well can encourage cohesiveness in a household, but can create the opposite if managed poorly. In a Pew Research poll, sharing household chores was rated in the top three issues associated with a successful marriage (after faithfulness and good sex). UCLA researchers looked into exactly how these issues affected marital satisfaction. They found that on average, men spent 18 percent of their time doing housework and handled just one third of household tasks, while women took on 67 percent of household tasks while spending 22 percent of their time on housework. It turned out there was greater conflict between couples who failed to lay out explicit terms of who was responsible for what than between those who made these distinctions clear. Ambiguity led to one person having to ask the other to pull their weight, to feelings of resentment, and to criticism of one another's performance of their tasks. The researchers concluded that the best way to avoid these conflicts is through "clear and equitable models" that reduce the need for partners to manage one another's chores. In turn, couples can "fulfill their household duties with the knowledge that the partner will not in fact overstep established boundaries." Lay out clear responsibilities--you do the dishes, your spouse does the cooking, and you swap the vacuuming every other weekend. "Our work suggests tightwads would probably be better off financially and psychologically by marrying other tightwads. Spendthrifts appear to be happier, though less financially stable, when married to other spendthrifts. Pairing with your financial opposite can be fun and interesting at first, especially for tightwads, who have a hard time spending on their own. But over time, the stakes get higher--you have to jointly make decisions about things like houses, cars, and kids. There are more and more opportunities for arguments, blame, second-guessing, and regret. That simple two-letter word can make a big impact on the health of your love life.

A group of researchers at the University of California, Berkeley reviewed fifteen-minute videotaped conversations between 154 married couples, and found that the use of personal pronouns such as "we," "us," and "our" were linked with positive behaviors such as affection and lower frequency of negative behaviors such as anger. We've all seen our share of corny romance movies, where the two beautiful people at first can't stand each other but are locked in a passionate embrace by the time the credits roll. It can all seem a bit unrealistic. But in fact, watching such elevated versions of intimate relationships can have a positive effect on your own romance. Through an online survey, researchers asked 275 participants about their romantic expectations, beliefs, and experiences, as well as their level of commitment to their current partner. They found that the expression of romantic beliefs had a positive impact on relationship satisfaction. In other words, if we operate with a positive, even idealistic view of relationships, then we may approach our relationship in ways that strengthen the connection. And those who endorsed romantic beliefs were not found to be more likely to suffer unmet relationship expectations. The researchers suggested this might be because "romantic beliefs lead individuals to approach a relationship in a way that fosters positive outcomes." For example, if you believe your partner to be your soul mate, you're more likely to overlook a given disagreement or temporary annoyance. Many of us do ambitious things because it makes us look good to family, friends, and on social media but as soon as it gets boring, tough, and our ego tells us it isn't fun anymore, that's when we throw in the towel and give up. That's when we find something new, different, and exciting to do and the cycle of doing something "fun" and "cool" but never sticking with it long-term begins. If it feels good and it paints us in a light that makes us look better or more ambitious to those around us, we'll do it, but as soon as we start feeling the pain, emotional discomfort, and the boringness involved in reaching that goal, that's when the ego calls the fight and decides it's too hard and not worth the pain. We let our ego run our life for us and dictate what we should and shouldn't be doing. We're not giving ourselves what we actually want - we're giving the ego what it wants. Your ego isn't your friend. Your ego doesn't have your best interests in mind. Your ego is a terrible influence and only wants to put itself first. It wants the money, comfort, and the great life but it's too good to risk anything to get it. It wants the attention and admiration but doesn't want to spend the countless hours behind closed doors working, studying, sharpening the sword, learning, and becoming better. From now on, take ego completely out of the equation.

It's no longer a tool you need. It doesn't help or contribute in any way when you're getting your act together, getting the life you actually want, and becoming the person you want to be. It actually does everything it can to stop you from improving because the ego's two best friends are your emotions and inner-child. When the ego is in distress, they come running to help out. If you know what you're doing and it will dramatically improve your life, ignore anything trying to stop you or hold you back. We start something new, start working really hard towards it, but then give up when we notice no one around us really cares about what we're doing. We give up when we notice no one is "liking" or "commenting" on our posts about it. We give up when no one is patting us on the back or lifting us up on their shoulders to celebrate our hard work. We give up when we notice no one is really interested in hearing about it. Getting your act together requires independence and freedom from the thoughts and opinions of others. 99% of the time, no one truly cares and they're so absorbed with themselves that they don't have the time or desire to look at what you're doing, form an opinion on it, and then go out of their way to communicate to you what they think about it. When it comes to your goals, stop needing everyone's support. They're YOUR goals, not theirs - and that's why they don't care. Stop looking for people to support you in YOUR dreams. Stop expecting others to stop what they're doing and pay attention to you what you're doing. Your goals and dreams are none of their business and you shouldn't expect anyone to make it their business. Stop getting on GoFundMe and begging people to give you money and support you. If it's YOUR goal, YOUR dream, and YOUR life, find a way to get the money yourself and be your own support system. Here's the truth - things are going to get hard and some days, you're going to look at your situation and it's going to be a hard pill to swallow. You will be in tears.