Seeing the Aura Did you know most people don't actually see subtle energy with their physical eyes? Even well-known psychics and healers who track subtle energy accurately do so from the part of the brain that uses imagery. They call this the mind screen. Many people have success by picking up the subtle energy information through their hands by touching an object or a person or by using their gut or heart senses and then bringing the energy up to their mind screen to see. The mind screen is close to the part of the brain connected to the imagination, which we are taught to shut off as we grow up. So you may question at first if you are making it up in your head. That's okay. You don't know who Gary Vee is? Gary Vaynerchuk? What is the first step, or better yet, the first door you should try to open in order to achieve your desired lifestyle and the success you envision for yourself? Hey, I'm not saying this will be the right door. You may totally get it wrong. Just like Steve Jobs totally got it wrong when he recruited John Sculley as the CEO of Apple, which later backfired and left Jobs without a job--pun intended. And he still made it, because he kept on trying, he kept on learning from his mistakes, and most importantly, he never allowed the fear of failure to get in the way of success. One thing I know for sure: once you open that door you will be one step closer to happening to things. This takes us to a very important set of fears--the personal fears. Personal Fears But if you pulled up a random year from the Dark Ages, you could probably find as much, if not more, to worry about. It's impossible to know how worried people were back then, but our sense is they weren't as nervous as we've become.

Maybe they just expected less from life. We do have great expectations, and that may contribute to our high levels of worry. But I think our high anxiety has a uniquely modern cause. As Thomas Friedman says, the world is now flat. We're all connected electronically with few barriers of time or space between us. That's great, except when it isn't. As we've mentioned, at the core of our electronic matrix lies a paradox. While they've been connecting electronically, many people have disconnected interpersonally. If that is the case, I think it would be useful to develop many more of these handy applications for many other areas of life. The Liar's Brain Most of us think that some people are especially good (or bad) at deception. If this is indeed the case, what characteristics distinguish them? A team of researchers led by Yaling Yang (a postdoc at the University of California, Los Angeles) tried to find out the answer to this question by studying pathological liars--that is, people who lie compulsively and indiscriminately. To find participants for their study, Yang and her colleagues went to a Los Angeles temporary employment agency. They figured that at least a few of those who were without permanent employment would have had difficulty holding a job because they were pathological liars. The researchers then gave 108 job seekers a battery of psychological tests and conducted several one-on-one interviews with them, their coworkers, and their family members in order to identify major discrepancies that might reveal the pathological liars. In this group, they found twelve people who had pervasive inconsistencies in the stories they told about their work, schooling, crimes committed, and family background. They were also the same individuals who frequently engaged in malingering, or pretending that they were sick in order to get sickness benefits. Over time you will be able to fine-tune the difference and distinguish between the two. Initially you may see only one color around people.

As your ability to pick up different colors in the light spectrum increases, you will be able to see more colors. For example, I saw only clear, purple, or yellow in people's auras for a long time. If this is the case for you, pay attention to the shapes and where they are located. It's valuable information. These were the easiest colors for me to see and connect to initially because my third-eye and solar plexus chakras were the ones I used most. As I developed a deeper relationship with my root and sacral chakras, my whole visual world opened up. All of a sudden, I could see all the colors of the rainbow. If you want to see vibrant colors, I recommend using the exercise here . We don't take care of many things in our life as much as we take care of our self-esteem. I mean, if we protected our bodies as much as we did our egos, dental hygienists would go out of business, rates of skin cancer would drop, and we would all be in perfect shape. But it's not the case. In fact, we go to great extents to prevent failure and rejection, because no real pain hurts as much as emotional pain. Every day millions of people settle for jobs that give them enough to feed their families but too little to feed their souls. Many settle for a husband or a wife, instead of looking for the right partner who supports their dreams and makes them part of his or hers. Others settle for a lifestyle that may be convenient, but not fulfilling. And while in article 3, I talked about how most people settle as a way to be accepted and easily belong in society, this time I'm talking about settling because it would be just too hard to knock on the wrong door and hurt our ego. According to Freud, our psyche is divided into three parts (and this totally blew my mind): the id, the superego and the ego. The id refers to our instincts, those signs our mind sends to our body without much rational explanation. As a person disconnects interpersonally, he tends to worry. The more isolated a person becomes, the more worried, even paranoid, he usually gets.

We believe the spike in toxic worry we see today derives not so much from the problems of the world--problems have always beset us--but from our relative disconnection from each other. The effect on a marriage can be acute. A person who is married to distraction is at risk to become married to worry as well. Here's how the vicious cycle runs: A person becomes distracted. Distraction gradually leads to disconnection from intimate engagement. Disconnection from such support begets toxic worry. Worry itself becomes a preoccupying distraction. Next, the team put the twelve pathological liars--plus twenty-one people who were not pathological liars and were in the same pool of job seekers (the control group)--through a brain scanner to explore each person's brain structure. The researchers focused on the prefrontal cortex, a part of the brain that sits just behind our foreheads and is considered to be in charge of higher-order thinking, such as planning our daily schedule and deciding how to deal with temptations around us. It's also the part of the brain that we depend on for our moral judgments and decision making. In short, it's a kind of control tower for thinking, reasoning, and morality. In general, there are two types of matter that fill our brains: gray and white. Gray matter is just another name for the collections of neurons that make up the bulk of our brains, the stuff that powers our thinking. White matter is the wiring that connects those brain cells. We all have both gray and white matter, but Yang and her collaborators were particularly interested in the relative amounts of the two types in the participants' prefrontal cortices. They found that pathological liars had 14 percent less gray matter than the control group, a common finding for many psychologically impaired individuals. What could this mean? It is specifically dedicated to grounding your root chakra and also deepening your relationship with your sacral chakra and the emotional layer of your aura. Practicing with a Friend

Now that you are a bit more familiar with feeling subtle energy in your hands and your aura, it is time to try to see an aura. This is going to take practice and presence. The more present you are in your body, especially in your lower two chakras and aura layers, the better your odds. In the next few sections I will take you through the steps to perceive and see the aura on your mind screen. At first it will be easier to see another's aura. Then you can work up to seeing your own. You will be creating an ideal viewing environment indoors, but after you have practiced a few times, you can then practice viewing wherever you go. Great places to try are in an audience while watching a speaker or presenter on stage, in a park while people watching, or on the sidewalk while walking and viewing the tops of people's heads in front of you. Like when we feel like eating a piece of delicious cake we see on the menu or buying a pair of shoes that are way outside our budget, or even when we feel a desire to kiss someone who looks attractive. Those are impulses that we constantly need to control or limit; On the contrary, the superego is heavily influenced by external factors: our parents, teachers, friends, and community. Our superego is the ideal image that society put into our heads, all those expectations we feel pressure to meet. We are expected to behave well, be kind, be successful, have money, have a stable relationship, procreate, celebrate certain holidays, and believe in certain things. Our ego is the one stuck dealing with our id and our superego. It's like the middle brother trying to satisfy everyone in a way such that no one gets hurt--not too much pleasure and not too much pressure. Your ego's job is to find balance and make the best choices according to your priorities and goals. The biggest threat to our success is when our ego is not strong enough to keep our superego under control. We have so much pressure (internal and/or external) to appear as though we are okay at all times, that we'd rather not take the risk. Such distraction intensifies the disconnection. The ongoing disconnection intensifies the worry.