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Inhale through your right nostril to the count of four. Pause for the count of four and exhale for the count of four. Inhale to the count of four and exhale to the count of four, completing the cycle five times. Don't force your breath--if you need to take a break, breathe through both nostrils and then continue when you are ready. Belief in the child as the chief agent in his own therapy, however justified in experience, cannot in itself produce therapy. It is necessary for the therapist to communicate this attitude of respect, so that the child senses that here is a situation in which he can be his real self. The therapist does this partly by what is said to the child, although this is probably a minor aspect. Thus, in the following excerpt from a contact with a nine-year-old boy, a few words communicate a good deal of the therapist's attitude to the child. The excerpt is from the last half of the contact. Jack: I think I'll paint something. What should I paint? Therapist: You want me to tell you what to paint? What do you want me to paint? You tell me. You then live your life from a deep reservoir of abundance and peace. Remember the Penny Dance? You began with the smallest coin, too small to hand over to a banker or to put in a savings account, but it's a step in the right direction. Getting started, acknowledging and stating your dreams, and taking the first small step toward realizing them moves energy and invites the support of the Divine Spirit. Begin with a penny or a dollar. Just begin.

Does your current income allow you to fund your current style of living? Can you pay your monthly expenses every month as long as you do not increase your expenses? If yes, then congratulations! Simply add up what you consider necessary, notice when things are due, pay them, and feel grateful. Then close your left nostril with your ring or little finger, and lift your thumb to exhale through your right nostril. Then inhale through the same nostril. Close your right nostril with your thumb and lift your finger to exhale through your left nostril. Try to keep your inhalation and exhalation to the count of four. You'll do three to five rounds. You can build up the number of rounds as you practice this exercise and become more confident. Take natural and normal breaths through both nostrils and be mindful of any changes in your energy, thoughts, and emotions. I recommend starting slowly with short sessions and building up over time. If at any time you find that your stress level is increasing while doing this breathing technique, stop and breathe normally. You can also switch the hand that is holding the nostrils open and closed. Therapist: Jack, I know you want me to decide for you, but I really can't, because I don't want you to paint any particular thing. Jack: Why not, don't you care about what I do? Therapist: Yes, Jack, I care, but I think that what you feel like painting is really up to you. Jack: An airplane. Therapist: You'll paint an airplane? Jack: (Nods, and paints in silence for several minutes.

Then, suddenly, he looks up. Therapist: How many? Jack: Yes, how many of us? Therapist: Oh, about twenty. Now make it a fun game to create some money that is available for you and begin to pay yourself first, putting money into your dream fund and in your six-months-I-can-live-with-ease fund. Begin with a dollar, or ten dollars. Just begin. A good goal to work toward is using 10 percent of your inflow to pay yourself first. This may seem odd if you are just getting by, but soon you will realize that the streamlining you do in other areas allows you to play the game with more options. Just feel how wonderful this would be and feel gratitude. Now let's create your spending plan. List a category for your dreams and your six-months-I-can-live-with-ease fund, then list your monthly expenses. Add a category for your annual expenses. The goal is to set aside some money every time money flows in toward your dreams, your six-month-ease fund, and your annual expenses. Calming Breath Good for: chronic pain, releasing tension, stress relief This exercise, also known as 4-7-8 breath, is designed to increase your energy while at the same time decreasing pain and fatigue. It can also be used whenever you have any type of internal tension, especially in a situation where you are ready to react rather than respond. It's quickly mastered and easily done. When doing this breath work, I recommend setting a timer every hour or two, throughout the day.

Research has shown that this simple, pain-relief breathwork is useful in managing stress. It calms the nervous system and can be used when anything upsetting happens or when you're trying to fall asleep. Let's begin. Don't push hard; Jack: My God! How do you stand twenty? Therapist: (Laughs, before recovering. Jack: And how! In this excerpt, the therapist has tried to let Jack know that both his need to be dependent and his right to use the hour in his own way are respected. There are more subtle and perhaps more important behaviors by means of which the therapist's attitude of respect can be conveyed to the child. The therapist is ready for the child when he arrives. Regardless of the mess made in previous contacts, the room is in order at the beginning of each new hour. If delayed, the therapist apologizes, just as he would with an adult. Appointments are faithfully kept. One twelfth of the annual amount is reasonable. Remember, if you are less than twelve months away from writing a check for an annual expense, then for a while you will have to realign the balance in one area with money from another. This is the classic borrowing from Peter to pay Paul. Right now, you have just begun, and things are out of balance. Within a few months you will see a major shift. Congratulations!

Steady at the helm is the watchword. Yes, you may feel afraid or angry and may think this will take forever. You may feel overwhelmed for a while. Just breathe into and through all of your experiences. Now inhale again and repeat the cycle three more times, for a total of four breaths. I recommend that you only do four breaths at a time for the first month of practice. If you feel a little light-headed when you first breathe this way, don't be concerned--it's a new skill, and the feeling will pass. The 4-7-8 ratio is important because it's a natural tranquilizer for the nervous system. Resilient Attitude Breathing Good for: chronic pain, releasing tension, stress relief Chronic pain can affect attitudes about yourself and the world around you. The quality of your thoughts and emotions determines the instructions that your heart sends to your brain. In order to change your relationship to your thoughts, feelings, and body, you must practice shifting your attitudes and beliefs in a sustainable and consistent way. In this breathing exercise you will be reframing your thoughts and emotions. If it is necessary to break one, the child is told in advance. If the therapist is unable to let the child know ahead of time, the child receives an apology as soon as possible, in the form of a personal letter of explanation if he can read. The receipt of such a letter can be a very meaningful experience, for children are not used to such consideration. It is not unusual for a child in therapy to bring such a letter with him to the next therapy contact, and to read it aloud to the therapist with much relish. In a school situation, the child is allowed to decide whether he will be called for, be reminded by his teacher, or receive a note from the therapist notifying him of his appointment. The child's confidences are kept, in exactly the same way as are those of the adult client.