The differing approach of Melanie Klein (103) was independently developed at about the same period, and it, too, derived from the fundamental theories of Sigmund Freud. Klein assumed that the child's play activities, including his accompanying verbalizations, were quite as motivationally determined as the free associations of adults. Hence, they could be interpreted to the child, in lieu of interpretations based upon adult-style free associations. Klein called her approach Play Analysis. What if you let go of keeping up your persona, its costume and the other gadgets that go along with it? Can you spend this money with gratitude? If you have always done something, then now is the time to wonder whether doing it makes your heart sing and moves you toward your dreams. Does doing it less or in a different way still move you toward your dream or maybe open you up to new dreams? Review your first articles and the information from your prior spending. Somewhere in all of these dollar amounts will be things you now want less or have wanted less than your dreams. That is the place to streamline. Either reduce or stop spending your money on these items, whether it's takeout food, beverages, household items, entertainment, transportation, or clothing items. Maybe your living space no longer calls to your heart or serves your life. Notice where you feel gratitude and where you constrict as you review these items. This allows the oxygen to stay in the lungs longer, which means that more carbon dioxide can be exchanged, thereby helping rid your body of cellular waste. Another benefit of bringing breath into the lower lungs is that your parasympathetic, or calming, nerve receptors are there. They send a chemical message to your brain that helps you become less stressed and more relaxed. The short, upper-chest breathing that's common with mouth breathers can activate the sympathetic nerve receptors in the upper chest, which cause the fight-or-flight reaction in your body. Breathing through the nose forces you to slow down your breath. Your sinuses produce nitric oxide, which protects you against bacteria and viruses, boosts the immune system, stabilizes your blood pressure, and has a cardiovascular protective effect.

It also improves sleep, memory, focus, and concentration. Like any new habit, nasal breathing may be challenging when you first begin, so take it slowly, trust the process, and notice the benefits. Breathing Exercises Changing the way you breath can be challenging. Unlike adult psychoanalyses, Play Analysis was characterized by a very early launching into deep interpretations of the child's behavior. By this means, it was hoped to reduce the child's more acute anxiety, and thus to give him an inkling into the value of the analysis for him. This was to supply a personal motive for continuing the therapy, in place of an entire reliance upon parental compulsion. Despite some differences, Play Analysis was essentially true to psychoanalytic tradition, as is seen, for example, in the way symbols were interpreted. The fact that it was in the tradition is also evident in its stated aims to uncover the past and to strengthen the ego so that it might be better able to cope with the demands of the superego and id. The application of Rank's theories (155) to play therapy by Taft (209) led to certain significant changes in the aims and methods of psychotherapeutic work with children. These were further elaborated and exemplified by Allen (5). An essential feature of Rankian or relationship therapy is its conception of a certain kind of therapeutic relationship as being curative in its own right. This is in contrast to the view that it is necessary for the patient to retrace his developmental steps and to relive earlier emotional relationships in the analytic hours. Classical analysis aimed thus to assist the patient in growing up again, in a better way. You may realize that your debts are out of hand and are calling out to you to address them. And until you do face and address your debts, it's challenging to incorporate something new into your life, like a spending plan. There is no space--yet. The first step to take is to give yourself the gift of inner space. Here is where you begin to focus more energy on money so your debts will diminish. For example, let's focus on the money you owe to others, commonly called debt.

Debt has two costs: the amount you owe, the principal, and the interest that is added on each month. Many people, without realizing it, are only paying down some of the interest that is added each month while the balance grows from new charges and new interest. Remember the swamp? Debt is like a swamp--it sucks you in and makes it seem impossible to move or escape. I recommend that you record the breathing exercises so you can relax and pay attention to how you breathe. You may find that some of these techniques seem difficult to master. Start slowly, giving yourself plenty of time to adapt to this new way of using your body and breath. Once you have done each exercise a few times, you may find that you can easily remember the instructions. Basic Breath Awareness Good for: chronic pain, joint pain, releasing tension, stress relief If you watch pets or babies breathe, you'll notice that they are breathing properly--with their tummies rising on the in breath and falling on the out breath. If you're not used to breathing through your diaphragm, this exercise will guide you through basic breathwork that will allow you to breathe as nature intended. Let's begin. You can have your legs out straight, or bent with a pillow underneath your knees for comfort. That is, a permissive parent surrogate, the analyst, did not inflict the previous traumata. Relationship therapy, on the other hand, was concerned with emotional problems as they existed in the immediate present, regardless of their history. In the Rankian view, the analytic effort to recover the past was not particularly helpful, because the neurotic patient was already too much bound to the past and too little able to live in the here and now. Thus, the Rankian therapist did not seek to help the patient to repeat a particular series of developmental steps, but began where the patient was. In play therapy, this meant the abandonment of interpretation in terms of the Oedipus complex, for example. Emphasis on present feelings led to considerable reduction in the time span of therapy.

Taft and Allen stressed the need for helping the child to define himself in relation to the therapist. The therapy hour was conceived of as a concentrated growth experience. In it, the child might gradually come to the realization of being a separate person who was in himself a source of strivings, and who could, nevertheless, exist in a relationship where the other person was to be permitted to have qualities of his own. Of the various therapeutic orientations, relationship therapy seems to be closest to the client-centered approach. Eventually things will get unbearable if you stay in the swamp. Let's begin to get out. Pay attention to the interest rates. Some interest rates are set, while others, especially credit card debt, can be had at a lower interest. Knowing the rate is not set in stone means asking for the rate to be lowered, and asking more than once and of the right person. You also can move your debt to another lender where the rate is lower. Experience gratitude, remember the Open-hearted Love Process, and do it before you make the first call to request a lower interest rate. Getting out of a swamp also means not adding to your debt either directly or indirectly. Giving up the practice of living with and on more debt is the first step. Are you willing to step out of the swamp, willing to release your pattern of increasing debt? Focus on your abdomen coming up and pressing into your hand. The other hand, on your chest, should stay still. This allows you to feel your breath more deeply as you inhale. You'll feel the pressure under the hand over your abdominal area decrease. Practice this morning and evening for a few days so that you get accustomed to the way it feels. You'll then be more likely to notice when you're not breathing naturally throughout the day.

Belly Breathing Good for: chronic pain, headaches, joint pain, nerve pain, releasing tension, stress relief Diaphragmatic breathing is often called belly breathing. This is a gentle and easy breathing exercise that allows you to get in touch with how breath can easily move in and out of your body. If one considers the principles of client-centered therapy as outlined in preceding articles of this article, it is apparent that much is owed to older therapies. From the Freudians have been retained the concepts of the meaningfulness of apparently unmotivated behavior, of permissiveness and catharsis, of repression, and of play as being the natural language of the child. From the Rankians have come the relatively a-historical approach, the lessening of the authoritative position of the therapist, the emphasis on response to expressed feelings rather than to a particular content, and the permitting of the child to use the hour as he chooses. From these concepts, client-centered play therapy has gone on to develop, in terms of its own experiences. A CURRENT DESCRIPTION What, then, constitutes client-centered play therapy as currently understood? Like client-centered counseling, play therapy is based upon the central hypothesis of the individual's capacity for growth and self-direction. The work of the client-centered play therapist is an attempt to test the validity of this hypothesis under varying conditions. Thus, therapy has been offered to children presenting the most widely disparate problems, symptoms, and personality patterns. Children have been seen at their schools, in orphanages, youth clubs, university clinics, and community guidance centers. You accomplish this by putting away your credit cards, by cutting them up, or by closing accounts with a zero balance. Yes, you can keep one card for emergencies. Just remember, you are still in the swamp and your vessel can be upset at any time by the appearance of the alligator of more debt. You move forward by paying off the debt with the highest interest rate while keeping current on your other debts. Why the highest interest rate? It's like snapping jaws, eating up your money faster than you realize.