They may not realize how meaningful the Sanskrit words are. The downside of this advice is that persistently anticipating these types of people, and rigorously protecting ourselves from their notorious behavior, leads to a state of constant anxiety. This may trigger our own Clotish behavior, as we preemptively overprotect ourselves. What if, as an alternative, we turn the approach on its head? Using the recovery philosophy of keeping the focus on ourselves is a powerful way to do just that. In the twelve-step recovery program, Step Four, made a fearless and searching moral inventory of ourselves, and Step Ten, continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong promptly admitted it, recommend this sense of self-awareness. It's not that we need to avoid narcissists; we have to work to not add fuel to their fire, and as a result decrease our target potential. So, to protect yourself from narcissistic Clots, avoid joining their parade. As you'll learn, the secret of any relationship is to turn off your finely-tuned ability to sniff out, detect, and confront others' bad behavior. That sort of social policing is also an example of bad behavior. You might want to consider seeing a five-element acupuncturist, Marlow replied. A what? ! An acupuncturist? I didn't see that coming. At that point I had only heard about Chinese medicine and acupuncture being used to treat pain. I had never had it and didn't know it could help with all the other emotional and seasonal hiccups we were talking about. Marlow assured me that a five-element acupuncturist could confirm if I were, in fact, more of an Autumn type and could give me a treatment to support the emotional roller coaster on which I found myself each year. So that is exactly what I did.

I saw a five-element acupuncturist every week for eight weeks, and I was shocked to watch myself become the person I used to be and the one I felt I was in my heart. More fundamentally, this DNA also has the information that creates proteins inside the cell. Proteins, made up of molecules called amino acids, are the workhorses of cell function. Proteins carry out important functions such as transport of nutrients inside the cell and synthesis of important molecules. Some antibiotics target this chain of command--from DNA to proteins--aiming to disrupt this natural process, which will lead to the bacterial cell's death. To avoid this, some bacteria have created alternative chains of command--that is, they have created alternative proteins to carry out the necessary function needed for survival and replication. The antibiotic ends up targeting the original proteins, not the new ones, leaving the bacteria unscathed. (MRSA is an example of a bacterium that has a new pathway to survive when under assault by the antibiotic methicillin. ) The multilayered bacterial defense mechanism--one of nature's oldest creations, ever evolving, ever surprising--has learned to stay a step ahead of us at every single point in our history together. The consequences for humankind have been catastrophic. The great English writer and poet John Milton (1642/ 1950) is often credited with coining the term self- esteem in 1642. He appears to have used it while standing up for his work after reading what he felt was an unjust criticism of it, a criticism that may have gone so far as to question his integrity as a person as well as an author. Later Milton deepened the concept in his epic work Paradise Lost (1667/ 1931), which discusses, among many other things, self- esteem in relation to doing that which is just and right when necessary. It may be il uminating to remember that during this period many, if not most, human qualities were discussed in a biblical context. Consequently, it might be said that the original use of the term tied self- esteem to moral issues as well as practical matters. This view of the concept considerably elevates it from the way self- esteem is usually used today and is something we will explore further from a scientific perspective at the end of the article. The first great American psychologist William James (1890/ 1983) brought the concept of self- esteem to the field of psychology over 200 years later. James was interested in the development of the self and saw self- esteem as an important part of this process, especially in regard to establishing and maintaining one's sense of identity as a person over time.

Since then, self- esteem became the third most studied covariate (variable) in social psychology during the 1990s, following work on gender issues and the study of negative affect, which includes such things as depression, anxiety, anger, and the like (Rodewalt & Tragakis, 2003. They may simply be attracted to the ideas behind the beautiful Sanskrit script. Jessica Alba is just one celebrity who has a Sanskrit tattoo. She has the word padma tattooed on her wrist. This word means lotus, and this flower stands as a symbol of spiritual beauty and also the ability to remain pure in the face of the heartache and shortcomings of worldly life. There are other famous examples. Musicians such as Tina Turner and Madonna have experienced major transformations. Celebrities such as these often turned pain and suffering to freedom, joy and love through reaching into the limitless well-spring of true wisdom with Sanskrit and meditation. There are many recordings of beautiful Sanskrit mantras, and they even appear in theme music for movies such as Star Wars, Battlestar Galactica, and The Matrix. Celebrity tattoos, wedding band engravings, and movie themes in Sanskrit are all indications of people's desire to remain connected with this deep and constant wisdom which brings meaning and fulfillment. The search continues for how to integrate this ancient timeless wisdom into our contemporary 21st century lives; It's also the equivalent of putting on a kick me sign, because when we confront Clottery with Clottery, the results are ugly. To solve the problems Clots bring on and make this a happier world we needn't obsess about the actions of others. We can't control them. All we have to do is be satisfied with the small sliver of personal autonomy we do possess and not be Clots to anyone for any reason whatsoever. Addressing the ultimate cover-up that is our sensitivity--the it's not me, it's them retort--is not only critical for dealing with Clots, but for unlearning the behaviors that cause us to act that way ourselves. It's the challenge of accepting people that pushes our buttons. But this article will show you how to stop reacting to your deep-seated hurt by being abrasive in ways that allow no chance for respite or reparation, and to be mindful of these same behaviors in others. You'll learn responses that leave room for understanding and halt the cycle of one Clotish reaction leading to another, ad infinitum. Like substance abuse, being a Clot is a self-destructive behavior that starts out as a brief moment of relief, but then becomes a problem.

I suggest using tools from twelve-step recovery to overcome Clottery because its goal of applying these principles in all our affairs, a quote from Alcoholics Anonymous, and the tenet to cease a self-destructive behavior and replace it with social behaviors represent a blueprint to live at peace with the world. I felt my inspiration, my hope, my delight, and my energy return in such a way that it was almost like magic. I was waking up ready for the day and going to sleep satisfied with myself and my life. It was a complete turnaround from where I'd been just two months prior. The following year, September came without all the debilitating grief and depression. In fact, when my acupuncturist asked how I was doing with September on the horizon, it took me a moment to realize what she was referring to! That was how far I had come in a year. Through working with my acupuncturist, I learned so much about myself and about nutrition, the seasons, herbal medicine, and practices I could do to support myself even more deeply on the path to healing. I learned about my true nature based on the Five Elements and could see how I had been living a life that, despite looking good from the outside, ultimately wasn't nourishing me. I could see how holding on to the past was disrupting my present life. I learned about my unique balance of introversion and extroversion (yin and yang) and developed a lot of compassion for myself. At the current rate, when our antibiotics are fast becoming impotent, they are likely to get much worse. Should that happen, routine procedures like C-sections or outpatient surgeries could lead to untreatable infections. 12 It may be the 1918 flu all over again. It was September 1918, and Lieutenant Governor Calvin Coolidge of Massachusetts, who was destined to become president of the United States five years later, signed a dire proclamation. Based on discussions among members of the leadership team that included the governor of Massachusetts, the US surgeon general, the health commissioner, and the division head of the American Red Cross, the proclamation addressed the horrors of the Spanish flu, which was taking the lives of nearly one hundred Bostonians per day. 1 With the state's premier medical staff in Europe to aid American troops fighting in World War I, the document asked for every able-bodied person in the state with any medical training whatsoever to offer his or her services in fighting the epidemic. All schools, parks, theaters, concert halls, movie houses, and lodges were closed indefinitely. Even appeals to God were curtailed: the churches were closed for a period of ten days, or until the situation was under control. In less than a month, nearly 3,500 Bostonians had been affected.

They represented a small fraction of the more than 50 million people worldwide who died of the flu, which lasted about a year and ultimately infected 500 million people. ) Today, of course, the term is also commonly used in the context of parenting, education, and popular culture. this very substantial background, the fact of the matter is that many people, both lay and professional alike, question the value of self- esteem as a concept and sometimes even criticize its use. For example, in the last part of the 20th century a group of social scientists claimed that self- esteem had little value because it did not predict much of anything in their work, even though they admitted that self- esteem does correlate with happiness and can act as a buffer against stress. Others suggested that self- esteem is the outcome of behavior, not a cause of it, because self- esteem is something people feel only after something else occurs, such as solving a problem or being praised by another. And still others, especially in popular media, saw self- esteem as an excessive focus on the self, something akin to narcissism or a form of self- worship and perhaps even sinful. All of these criticisms, it turns out, are both a little right and very wrong (Mruk, 2013a. ) The definition of self- esteem as a form of success, or competence as certain developmental psychologists call it (White, 1959), dominated the fields of psychology and psychiatry for the first half of the 20th century, in part because seeing self- esteem this way offers many advantages that make good sense. For example, identifying the areas of life that are especially important to a person in terms of his or her sense of self helps professionals, such as clinicians and teachers, better understand those whom they aid. how we can awaken to lasting meaning, love, joy and fulfillment. The aim of this article is to welcome you to the world of Conscious Confidence, a practical way to use the wisdom of Sanskrit to find clarity and success. By reading this article, you are connecting to a thread of timeless wisdom that has guided humanity throughout the millennia. Opinions, viewpoints and attitudes come and go, but this golden cord of conscious wisdom is ever-fresh, relevant and powerful. It is wisdom upon which we can utterly depend. Conscious Confidence is like a great tree with deep strong roots, able to withstand storms and tempests and also provide shelter, stability and nourishment. It is grounded yet continually growing, expanding and evolving. Sanskrit and timeless wisdom help us to plant that tree properly and deepen those roots. Conscious Confidence is the confidence you have when you live boldly and courageously from a commitment to giving the best of your own unique self-expression to the world.