You might offer reassurance or whisper positive affirmations. Above all, you will be present and offer reassurance and encouragement. This is a very active stage; You are on the verge of witnessing the most miraculous and awesome thing of your entire life. Allow yourself to feel excited and pass on these positive vibes to Mum. They too will help! Remember to offer sips of water or whatever drink it is that Mum wishes to have, just as you were doing previously. The muscles work more effectively and to their full potential if they are hydrated. If Mum is feeling hot and sweaty, as she may well be because her body is working to its max, perhaps use a fan, a face spray, a cool flannel, or whatever else you have packed, to help her feel refreshed and energised. Maintain the calm, safe and intimate environment and mentally run through the five senses checklist. Good for a baseball game Good for one backrub in front of the TV Good for a day of no whining Good for one day of doing whatever you want to do Good for one batch of homemade chocolate chip cookies Above all, enjoy the time you spend with your dad, and let him know how much you love and appreciate him. John Adams, our second president, is credited with starting many traditions associated with the Fourth of July. Writing to his wife, Abigail, he said: I believe that it will be celebrated by succeeding generations as the great anniversary festival. It ought to be celebrated by pomp and parade, with shows, guns, bells, bonfires, and illuminations from one end of this continent to the other.

The trainers ran out. An ambulance wailed in the distance. Emeka was carried off the field on a stretcher. He tried to lift his hand to give the crowd a thumbs-up, but couldn't. At the hospital, he underwent a nine-hour neck surgery. When he woke up, he could not move his body below his chest. Emeka had not grown up playing football. He threw the ball around a bit in high school, but it was not until he joined the Oklahoma Thunder during his sophomore year of college that he devoted himself seriously to the game. As a freshman, he explained, he was a screwup. But when football came to my doorstep, he said, it was my chance to make everyone proud of me. MEET ME IN YOUR HEART Like the woman in this story, I cannot give you something that you already have. I can only point you back to the Ultimate within you. However, in FearFlip, I also point to it through your own experience of fear. I have been asked to share the story of the profound spiritual events that I began experiencing in my thirty-second year, as well as to describe what my life was like before these events. Here is my story: Until the profound spiritual transformation, my existence was something like a cooling period is for a seed. I experienced a nearly constant state of suffering and anxiety, with occasional headlong falls into pits of deep, and often, suicidal depression. Back then, I subscribed to the belief that fear was a bad thing. I thought it was a negative emotion.

You shouldn't have much more to do here at this stage because everything has already been set up, but just do a little last-minute check and ensure that every one of Mum's five senses are being met with something that brings comfort and offers reassurance, helping her to relax her whole body and open. If there is anything, however small, that you believe could introduce some level of tension, seek to remove it from the space. Mum's instinct is at its most powerful at this stage and she will need to feel safe and protected in order to birth her baby. Subconsciously, her senses will be in overdrive scanning for any potential threat. Make sure nothing threatens to disturb the feeling of peace and calm in the room. The environment is just as important now, if not more so, than it was in earlier stages of labour. As you know, oxytocin is the hormone that is fuelling the surges but is also the hormone that helps with bonding, reduces postnatal depression, reduces blood loss and helps get breastfeeding established. Mum will want lots of this when she meets her baby for the first time! And an environment which enables Mum to relax is key, because the more relaxed she is, the more oxytocin she will produce. Lastly encourage Mum into a U. The American people took his call to heart. In 2005 alone, 161 million pounds of fireworks were set off, and some 66 million people participated in barbecues, while another 32 million more attended picnics. On the Fourth of July, Independence Day, we celebrate the adoption of the Declaration of Independence in 1776. It is a day when Americans connect with and celebrate our freedom. Last summer, my family and I were visiting a small town in Maine on July Fourth. This little town held a big parade I will never forget. The local band (school kids and men and women of all ages ranging from six to ninety-six) played their instruments as men and women from all the branches of the military marched down the street. Each carried an American flag, and the crowd of locals and visitors alike clapped and waved their flags, hollering expressions of gratitude as their courageous fellow Americans walked past. The parade was a long stream of homemade floats, civic groups, tractors, antique cars, winning baseball teams, and community leaders, but mostly it represented a river of pride, belonging, gratitude, and a feeling of being connected to a country and to something bigger than ourselves. This July Fourth, as you gather around the grill, take a moment to reflect on the holiday, on what it is you love (or would like to improve) about America.

I remember thinking, `an opportunity has arisen for me to shine at what I'm good at, so let me use my gifts to pursue that. He trained hard every day and, as he got stronger and faster, felt that his life was finally moving in a positive direction. After he played with the Thunder for two seasons, a coach at a college in Missouri called him, hoping to recruit him to play for the school's team. Three weeks later, he injured his spinal cord. In the days following his surgery, Emeka did not fully grasp the gravity of his situation. He thought he would spend two months in rehab before he could start playing football again. But by month three, when the hospital sent him home, Emeka still could not use his hands and arms, let alone move his legs--and that was when he realized that he was on a journey that would be much longer and more difficult than he had anticipated. You are supposed to be in the hospital because you are sick, Emeka said. When they tell you it's time to go home, it's because you're better. But when they told me it's time for me to go home, I didn't look or feel better. Fear was something I considered to be undesirable, as if it were evidence of a character flaw. Most definitely, it seemed to be something to avoid, deny, or at least to detour around. At that time, fear seemed a relentless enemy, a roadblock to joy. Yet, fear was my nearly constant companion. Like others who suffered, I longed for a way out of the misery. I desperately wished and prayed for a way to somehow be happy. On more than a few occasions, I remember begging God: Please, help me. Please, let me die in my sleep. I went to see counselors and doctors. I took vitamins, supplements, prescription medicines, and an occasional day off from work to tend to my mental health.

To recap, during this second stage of labour mums might: Birth partners: Hello baby! Wow wow wow! So baby is here! And now it's time for the precious Golden Hour. If all is well, Mum and baby can now enjoy some skin-to-skin time without interruption, unless medically necessary. Skin-to-skin, as we have covered, offers numerous benefits for both Mum and the baby. During these initial few minutes after birth, if you have opted for delayed cord clamping your baby will still be attached via the umbilical cord to the placenta, which is yet to come out. The placenta will be returning baby's blood to baby during this time. Take stock of what you have, what you believe in, and value. This holiday offers parents an opportunity to teach and discuss with our children the ideals on which our country was founded. For older children, it is a great time to discuss current affairs. Plan to see America. Take driving trips to the national parks, rivers, mountains, and glaciers. Visit places of historical significance: Williamsburg, Washington, D. Hang a map in the den or garage and place tacks showing where you and your family have traveled. If traveling is not in the budget this year, go online or rent movies about these and other wonderful places in our country. Make a list (or a collage) each year of places you'd like to see, and build these minivacations into your travel plans. Have a barbecue for friends and family.