You will have to actively birth it. I don't know why, but I imagined it would be jelly-like in texture and sort of flop out. I can confirm, having now seen many placentas, including my own, that this is not the case. It's actually quite chunky and firm. If you were having an actively managed third stage things would be slightly different: the cord would likely be clamped and cut sooner after birth, and you would be encouraged to step out of the pool earlier (if you gave birth in one). You would be given an injection into your thigh and you would expect the placenta to follow soon after. We have already covered the reasons why you might opt for active management over a physiological third stage, but just to reiterate, the most commons reasons are: After this `Golden Hour' is up, Mum can then be examined and if any stitches are required, these can be done at this point. The baby is now weighed and examined, and the birth partner then has the opportunity to enjoy some skin-to-skin before putting the first nappy on, and possibly dressing the baby. Mum and baby are then reunited and ideally able to get into bed to enjoy some cuddles, and the famous post-birth tea-andtoast combo. They would meet in the afternoon and count down the hours until they could break the fast together. Over the years, the eight children married and had children of their own, and continue the tradition. They alternate houses--one year at the Kleins' house, one year at the Solomons' house. Everyone is assigned a dish to bring, and they almost never vary (it's mostly easy food and favorites, like bagels, cheese, macaroni and cheese, strawberries and cream, tuna salad, egg salad, and cake). As sundown draws near, both families gather in the kitchen and begin to set out the food, which is always buffet style. At sundown, they all make up hearty portions and enjoy themselves. Because they haven't eaten all day, the food tastes even better than usual. They laugh. They take photos. And they laugh some more.

McAdams describes narrative identity as an internalized story you create about yourself--a personal myth, as one writer puts it, about who we are deep down--where we come from, how we got this way, and what it all means. Like fictional stories, it contains heroes and villains that help us or hold us back, major events that determine the plot, challenges that we overcome, and suffering that we have endured. When we want people to understand us, we share our story or parts of it with them; It's important to understand that an individual's life story is not an exhaustive history of what happened to him. Rather, we make what McAdams calls narrative choices. Our stories tend to focus on the most extraordinary events of our lives, good and bad, because those are the experiences that we need to make sense of, those are the experiences that shape us. But our interpretations of those events may differ wildly. For one person, for example, a pivotal childhood experience like learning how to swim by being thrown into the water by a parent might explain his sense of himself today as a hardy entrepreneur who learns best by taking risks. For another, that same experience might explain why he hates boats and does not trust authority figures. A third might leave the experience out of his story altogether, deeming it unimportant in the larger narrative of his life. I sat in a meeting room on top of a red rock desert mesa near Abiquiu, New Mexico, attending a writers' retreat at Ghost Ranch Conference Center, near the artist Georgia O'Keeffe's former home. I am not entirely sure as to why I was at the retreat. I didn't have a article idea and I didn't know much about writing. Still, I was there. My classmates were reading their writing aloud from the assignment the day before. We were to write the Greek myth of Persephone and Demeter from an alternate perspective. In the story, Demeter's beloved daughter, Persephone, was abducted to the underworld by Hades, its ruler. Demeter searched for her daughter ceaselessly, even descending into the underworld with the help of nature to retrieve her. Eventually, Hades agreed to release Persephone if she ate nothing while in his underworld realm; This bound Persephone to Hades and his underworld for a certain amount of time every year, and for the rest of the time, Persephone and Demeter were together and all was well.

Birth partners, your job is getting easier now, you'll be pleased to hear! Key things to do at this stage include maintaining the environment - remember your five senses checklist. The reason for this is that it is still very important that Mum is producing lots of oxytocin, which she will do naturally if she is relaxed and feeling good. Keep the environment calm and peaceful to enable her to relax and enjoy these precious early moments. Your role is to protect the space from interruptions - there is no need in this first hour to make birth announcements or anything else. Keep activity to a minimum and respect this special time - it's called the Golden Hour for a reason. As in the previous stages, ensure you are familiar with Mum's birth preferences and are able to advocate for her so that her wishes are respected when it comes to important things like skin-to-skin, cord clamping and cutting, and the delivery of the placenta. Be prepared to use your B. If it's not possible for baby to have immediate skin-to-skin with Mum, for whatever reason, be prepared to whip your top off so that the baby can enjoy skin-to-skin time with you. Hearing your heartbeat will offer him or her reassurance and comfort as this has been the soundtrack to their entire life so far. The original ten-person gathering has grown to more than thirty attendees--babies, spouses, and anyone else they call family. The kids of the kids have all become friends, and everyone looks forward to the consistency of the tradition. And heaven help the person who thinks about changing the menu! Halloween may well be one of the most fun holidays of the year, and one that is already very artful. This holiday has everything: you can dress up, have a party, give treats, play tricks, craft lots of decorations, create wonderful playful food, and listen to bootiful music. Halloween is also a wonderful time to celebrate the fall. Bring the gorgeous fall colors inside with leaves. Collect leaves of every color (shades of orange, red, green, and brown) and glue them together to make a wreath for the front door. If you rake your leaves, be sure to jump in them before you put them in bags. Pour a glass of cold apple cider and taste the sweetness of fall.

For Erik Kolbell, an ordained minister and psychotherapist, his daughter's accident at first challenged and then affirmed an idea that is critical to his vocation, and therefore to his very self: that redemption is possible in a world where good people suffer unjustly. McAdams has been studying life stories and meaning for over thirty years. In his interviews, he asks research subjects to divide their lives into articles and to recount key scenes from their lives, such as a high point, a low point, a turning point, or an early memory. He encourages his participants to think about their personal beliefs, values, and philosophy of life. Finally, he asks them to reflect on the story's central theme. After analyzing hundreds of these life stories, McAdams has discovered some very interesting patterns in how people living meaningful lives understand and interpret their experiences. People who are driven to contribute to society and to future generations, he found, all share a common pattern: they are more likely to tell redemptive stories about their lives, or stories that transition from bad to good. In these stories, the tellers move from suffering to salvation--they experience a negative event followed by a positive event that resulted from the negative event and therefore gives their suffering some meaning. There was the man who grew up in dire poverty but told McAdams that his hard childhood circumstances brought him and his family closer together. There was the woman who told him that caring for a close friend as the friend was dying was a harrowing experience, but one that ultimately renewed her commitment to being a nurse, a career she had previously abandoned. Before it was my turn to read, I knew I had done the assignment wrong. My classmates were reading the story from the perspective of Hades or Zeus, whereas, I had related the story to my own personal experience. It was my turn. I tried to make a disclaimer that what I had written the night before was not right. I was told to read it anyway. I don't remember it very well, and I don't know if it was very good writing or not. Perhaps it was awful, or humorous, since I heard harmless giggles as I read. After I had finished reading, I looked up at the instructor. She looked at me expressionless with her piercingly beautiful, fierce, blue eyes and gave me feedback. The feedback itself was not unusual, nor was it unkind or untrue.

In summary, during the third stage Mum might be: Birth partners will be: And then that's it! If you're in hospital or at birth centre and all is well then you could be going home in matter of a few hours. If you're already at home, then lucky you! You can crawl straight into bed and get tucked up under the covers and start enjoying your newborn baby love bubble. The big day (or night) may be over, but this new article is only just beginning . You will never forget your birth and I hope you never forget what a hero you are, or lose sight of the strength and power you hold within yourself. You brought a human into this world: there's literally nothing you can't do! There's always a plan B . A friend of mine loves the beautiful fall leaves so much that he used them to wallpaper his kitchen. He collected the leaves he loved (and removed the stems) and varnished them to a freshly painted wall, making a beautiful, lasting patina. Our neighbors Marlene and Darlene have been creating a Halloween extravaganza for as long as I can remember. Both sisters have been the caregivers for many children in our town for years and years. As a way to bring together all the kids they have parented and still care for, they make a haunted house for the kids to come and enjoy. Young and old come by the carload every Halloween to see what the two sister witches (Marlene and Darlene) have conjured up. Each year they fill their front yard with lights, scarecrows, ghosts, and a graveyard, complete with a tomb for Boney Tony. They also play recordings of the sounds of ghosts and goblins singing in the cold dark night air. Not only do they decorate and plan scrumptious treats for all, they also put on a play of sorts. Each year, as we walk down the long black driveway toward their house and up the steps, we see scarecrows and ghosts along the way.