Not powerful enough? I've had seven knockouts in my last ten fights! It wasn't until Andy invited the fighters up to his Cal State lab for testing that he was able to convince them that he was correct. He had them jump on a force plate that recorded their power production and reaction time and displayed these as colored curves on a big monitor. Andy then overlaid the same metrics from NFL players and showed how they produced far more power and did it much faster than the mixed martial artists. Once they saw it with their own eyes, they believed everything I told them after that, Andy said. This shows how technology can be used by a coach to gain buy-in from his or her athletes, and to present an abstract concept (like power or explosiveness) in a simple, graphical way. The Value of Tech-Enabled Cues She uses this retreat and the following years to solve the company's problems. The first dysfunction Kathryn discusses at the retreat is actually the biggest ingredient for why we're apathetic with our lives. It's one of the core reasons for why we continually deal with cognitive dissonance. To help lay the foundation for our article, let's turn to an excerpt from Five Dysfunctions of a Team on how Kathryn sets the tone for this first dysfunction: Kathryn then turned back to the group. Over the course of the next two days. In fact, it will seem remarkably simple on paper. The trick is putting it into practice. Right now I'd like to start with the first dysfunction: absence of trust. She turned and wrote the phrase at the bottom of the triangle. You may be using the distraction of busyness to help stuff your anger. Busyness is often demonstrated through housework, shuffling kids to activities and appointments, shopping, or work.

Some women act out their busyness by getting overly involved in the community. It could mean that you spend hours at the health club or on the computer. By themselves none of these behaviors are bad, and in fact they are often esteemed. But for the partner, involvement that is excessive, that is done in a way to avoid the issues in your relationship and family, merely serves as an unhealthy diversion. I became like a spinning top. I had myself so busy with kids, work, parents--anything to avoid the reality. I didn't know what to do. I didn't want to lose him. When you're a novice, it can be hard to understand certain coaching cues because if you haven't done something (or done it properly) before, you don't know how the desired action or technique is supposed to feel. Without this anchor point, the coach is speaking a language that you can't decipher. This is where mobile apps and old-school objects alike can come into play. Say your coach notices that you round your back when you squat, which is limiting your performance and putting you at risk of injury. She tells you that you're doing it but you don't notice that you are, and you're not even sure what rounding means in this sense. You certainly don't know what it feels like at the point that your spine starts to curve abnormally. In this situation, your coach could get you to squat next to a mirror and have you watch yourself so that you see the point at which your back starts to round. Now you understand what that term means and how it looks when you lose control of your posture. Or maybe the mirror isn't cutting it because you're too distracted and can't multitask between looking in the mirror and trying to focus on your technique. In this case, the coach could use an inexpensive yet effective app like Coach's Eye to record your next squat while you concentrate on performing the movement. The staff members read the words silently, and most of them frowned as if to say, Is that all you've got? Kathryn was used to this and continued.

Trust is the foundation of real teamwork. And so, the first dysfunction is a failure on the part of team members to understand and open up to one another. And if that sounds touchy-feely, let me explain, because there is nothing soft about it. It is an absolutely critical part of building a team. In fact, it's probably the most critical. Some of the people in the room were clearly in need of an explanation. Great teams do not hold back with one another, she said. They are unafraid to air their dirty laundry. So I just kept my mouth shut and dug my head into my work, my career. Rage and sideways anger can provide fleeting moments of revenge or personal satisfaction. However, in the end they, or the acts of anger avoidance, only lessen your self-respect, dignity, and self-esteem. The potential fallout and consequences can be devastating. Chronic Grief and Loss Loss of what you have hoped and worked for in intimacy, loss of the way you know yourself and your partner, loss regarding the way you think about people and the world you live in, and/or loss of a relationship--whatever it is that is gone or has now changed in your life will generate all of the basic stages in the grief process. Losing a loved one to addiction has the potential of keeping you stuck in the process of grief because the addict has not died; Living with addiction and reacting to addiction causes you to live in a chronic state of loss. You feel the loss, go in and out of denial, experience anger and guilt, attempt to bargain, feel despair, and at times are lifted by hope. Partners may live for years caught up in the cycle of chronic grief and all of its many feelings. When you're done, she comes over to you, plays the video in slow motion, and shows you how and when your spine started curving. Such apps sometimes have colored lines that show the ideal path for a limb or motion segment and can show where you're going wrong.

Once you've seen the point at which your spine begins to round, the coach now shouts Stop! She then asks you to focus on how your back and hips are feeling when the curve kicks in. Once you can home in on how the rounding feels when it happens and you understand the consequences--a sore back the next day at best, a blown disc at worst--you've developed the body awareness to identify the problem yourself. The next step is selecting and implementing an appropriate solution. Your coach decides that your back starts rounding because you lose tension in your abs as you're on the way down into the bottom portion of your squat. So she gives you the simple cue, Make your abs as hard as a rock. You then perform the squat with that thought in mind and squeeze your midsection muscles as hard as you can throughout the movement. Now the coach uses the mirror or app again to show you the difference, and boom! They admit their mistakes, their weaknesses, and their concerns without fear of reprisal. Most of the staff seemed to be accepting the point, but without a lot of enthusiasm. Kathryn pushed on. The fact is, if we don't trust one another--and it seems to me that we don't--then we cannot be the kind of team that ultimately achieves results. And so that is where we're going to focus first. We'll go ahead and start here, too. We Only Want to Trust Ourselves Our livelihoods are held together by trust. You are currently reading this article because you trust that there is nothing else you must be concerned with. You trust that gravity works so your drink won't float away. Your losses are ongoing and repetitive with denial entering and leaving the picture. Not having the truth validated, discounting your own perceptions or having them dismissed by others, and minimizing feelings all lead to a distorted and unmanageable internal life.

In the throes of living with addiction, you may spend more time processing one aspect of grief than another. It's only natural that you stay in the stage that is familiar or safe. If anger is a haven because you feel empowered by it, you might go there and get stuck. If you are anger avoidant and you have taken on a lot of guilt in your life, you may readily go there. Guilt and bargaining frequently work together, causing you to make statements like If I__, he will___. If I pay more sexual attention to him, he will not stray. If I am the perfect wife, he will never leave me. You may refuse to accept reality, become angry and blaming, and keep trying to bargain with the addict. No more rounding. She has you do a few more squats to make sure the new, better pattern becomes ingrained, and the session is done for the day. Later, she e-mails you the before-and-after video with the subject line, Make those abs as hard as a rock. This reminds you what to do next time and helps you commit the lesson from your short-term memory to long-term. If you're a more advanced athlete who is familiar with the skills you're working on, your coach might be able to skip ahead to telling you what to do, or add in some imagery, such as telling a basketball player to make your follow-through like a goose neck. But if you're a novice, your coach would be better off using a visual aid first so you can see the problem, then have you feel it with a kinesthetic (or movement- and feeling-based) cue and finally give the appropriate auditory pointer to self-correct it. In such a progression, technology is not a crutch but an instructional prop that provides instant feedback and enables you to feel and then act in response to your heightened awareness. In the last stage of the process, the smartphone and app are set aside because you can now identify and fix the error without them. This means that you can self-correct not only in the weight room without your coach there but also whenever you need to squat in your sport. This level of finely tuned physical awareness should be what you're striving for with every movement. You trust that the sun won't burn you to a crisp because you lathered yourself in sunscreen. You trust that the food you just ate at the local food stand in Mexico won't completely destroy your intestines (hopefully).