Nobody has ever lived past 60. Cancer runs in my family. My parents both had heart problems, so I expect I will too. I'm not saying that self-care is going to change your DNA, but what I am saying is that you have to fight for your health. And you have to see yourself growing older and enjoying your quality of life with good health. That is why you must take action and never allow anything or anyone ever to stop you. You've got to develop and own a made-up mind that self-care is for you. I know this from firsthand experience. I was born into a family with life-threatening health issues such as hereditary heart disease, hypertension, high cholesterol, type 2 diabetes, and dementia. My mother and three of my siblings all died from heart attacks. First, my mother passed at age sixty-three, followed by two brothers at ages fifty-four and fifty-three and then my younger sister at age forty-nine. Yes, this is a very sad but sobering family statistic. Just knowing my bloodline and the DNA that I was born with has helped me to be proactive in doing my part regarding self-care. It is my responsibility to pursue the knowledge I need to help transform my health. I have learned to fight the good fight of faith by doing all I can do toward self-care. The good news is that I know my family history, which gives me a fighting chance to actively live a healthier life. You do not have to resign yourself to a family history; you can recognize it, learn about it, and balance it out with healthy approaches to those threats. Once you're more aware of your negative thoughts, you're in a better position to disempower them and to use them as a cue for positive action. Challenging the way you're thinking, and recognizing that it doesn't make you feel good or help you to get what you want, can prompt you to look at things from a different perspective. When you replace negative thoughts, you're looking to see what positive thoughts might be possible instead.

Be sure to phrase your alternative, positive thoughts in terms that are plausible and realistic enough for you to believe them. Anything and everything can be explained in a positive or negative way. A Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) approach suggests that you choose the most helpful, positive and plausible interpretation and tell that to yourself. Doing this can then positively influence how you respond to situations. An acceptance and commitment' approach encourages you simply to accept and then let go of negative thoughts and instead commit yourself, your time and energy to positive thoughts and solutions. <a href=''>My</a> cards and envelopes work well for me, but there are wonderful new options for people with ADD. <a href=''>I</a> predict that new devices and programs will become increasingly popular and will be even more effective in helping people cope with ADD. <a href=''>Each</a> one of us is different, although we share many of the same problems. <a href=''>I</a> hope you will find what works for you. <a href=''>Your</a> first reaction to reading this title - simplify, organize, take charge of your life - might be that that is exactly what you are unable to do. <a href=''>Maybe</a> you're saying, "Yeah. <a href=''>Right.</a> <a href=''>Sure."</a> Trust me, you can do it. <a href=''>I</a> have, so I know that you can. <a href=''>But</a> we need the strategies and the tools. <a href=''>That's</a> what's coming. <a href=''>Let's</a> assume you already have the appointment book and the to-do list, which are the foundations for coping. <a href=''>Here</a> I want to give you some more tools to help manage things and stay out of messes. <a href=''>We</a> don't have to feel overwhelmed, which just makes it harder to function, which makes us feel even more overwhelmed. <a href=''>We</a> need to set goals, stay out of traps, be aware of the red flags that warn us we are about to get into a mess, focus on one thing at a time, and learn to simplify. <br /><br /><a href=''>We</a> can be in control of our life. <a href=''>I've</a> learned to be very careful about agreeing to do anything. <a href=''>I</a> try hard to stay off committees and boards. <a href=''>I've</a> been to too many meetings in my life. <a href=''>They</a> are giant time absorbers. <a href=''>I</a> don't go to any meetings if I can help it. <a href=''>I</a> still do things that contribute to the community, but I can usually find ways that don't involve meetings, and I'm extremely selective about the things that do. <a href=''>I</a> also used to do more extra things for my patients - "Oh, I'll just give your doctor a call." I've learned that some of those things aren't actually necessary, and if they are, often the patient can do them at least as well as I can. <a href=''>So</a> I think twice before volunteering to do something extra. <a href=''>If</a> you fear movement, it can be helpful to do some gentle and careful experiments with activities to get a fresh sense of how safe they are now. <a href=''>Later</a> in the chapter, there are some tips and hints about how to do this. <a href=''>It</a> just seems like a bad idea to do things that have hurt me in the past. <a href=''>I</a> agree--all our instincts tell us to avoid things that have caused pain before. <a href=''>However,</a> sometimes, with persistent pain, activity can hurt without causing any damage to the body. <a href=''>Sometimes</a> you need to learn by trial and error and accept that there will be a certain amount of pain when you do certain activities. <a href=''>If</a> the activity matters enough to you, it may be worth experiencing some pain in order to get the benefits. <a href=''>Even</a> if it gives me a headache, I still go to my daughter's soccer games. <a href=''>It's</a> worth it! <a href=''>Good</a> for you! <a href=''>When</a> you do activities, it helps your brain to exercise other pathways and make more "feel good" chemicals. <br /><br /><a href=''>In</a> the long run, activity will start to feel safer and less painful. <a href=''>Here's</a> some more good news: You too can start today and place self-care as your number-one priority by taking action now. <a href=''>In</a> time, your self-care results will deliver you the benefits of a more energetic and healthier life, no matter what your DNA. <a href=''>With</a> awareness and information, you can pass on the knowledge of self-care as an inheritance to your children and your children's children. <a href=''>You</a> may wonder if people actually say this statement. <a href=''>Unfortunately,</a> they do. <a href=''>Sometimes,</a> they say they don't have time or ability, but if you probe deeper, they will say that they really don't believe they deserve to take care of themselves. <a href=''>They</a> are not worthy. <a href=''>This</a> excuse breaks my heart. <a href=''>And</a> I hear it way too often, especially among women. <a href=''>What</a> has happened in your life that you actually believe you are not worthy and don't deserve to take care of yourself? <a href=''>I</a> don't believe there is a quick fix to overcome this excuse. <a href=''>I</a> think you have to do in-depth work to find your deep beauty and inner worth, and you may need professional help on this issue. <a href=''>But</a> here's an interesting phenomenon: If you start practicing self-care--even if you feel you don't deserve it--your self-esteem and sense of worth may increase. <a href=''>Essentially,</a> taking a fake it until you make it approach may actually be a terrific strategy to get you thinking more positively about yourself. <a href=''>The</a> way I live today is remarkably different from the way I lived in the past. <a href=''>For</a> example, upon returning home after withdrawing money from an automatic teller machine, there's a positive force that's present in my life that makes me remove the transaction slip from my wallet which prevents me from carrying it around for several days while my checkbook remains unbalanced. <a href=''>While</a> I might not enter the transaction into my checkbook the very minute I arrive home, that positive force simply will not allow that transaction slip to linger on my kitchen table in the same way that I once would have allowed it to. <a href=''>That</a> force is the force of positive habits, which has replaced the force of negative habits, which had pretty much ruled and determined my existence. <a href=''>Can</a> positive thinking really get you what you want in life? <br /><br /><a href=''>Back</a> in 2006 a best-selling book, The Secret, was published. <a href=''>It</a> suggests that if you clearly and specifically visualize what you want, it can be yours. <a href=''>The</a> Secret is based on thelaw of attraction'. The law of attraction claims that every positive or negative event that happens to you is `attracted' by you and your thoughts. Want to run a successful business or work in a job you love? With positive thinking you can attract that. Want a top of the range BMW? You can attract that too simply by (and here's the secret) sending positive thoughts out to the universe. You send a request to the universe which is, apparently, created by thoughts and therefore responds to thoughts. Something gone wrong in your life? Someone behaved unfairly to you? Well, with negative thinking you will have attracted that as well. That's because the law of attraction brings to each person the conditions and experiences that they predominantly think about or expect. The Secret has three basic steps: ask, believe and receive. Ask the universe for it. Identify something you want or need in your life and then simply place the order with the cosmos by asking for it. The universe will answer. Think positively and see what you want as already yours. You'll need to know exactly what it is that you want. If you're not clear, the universe will get an unclear frequency and will send you unwanted results.