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We can't discover the meaning of life, because the concept itself is meaningless! Instead of seeking the truth, many have looked for a way out. They hide behind word definitions and even question what meaning is. Yet most people have a general idea of what the words refer to. Anyone who has related to a two-year-old will have noticed the delight she takes in saying `no'. She has found a powerful word with which to exercise his options. When an adult tries to impose his will on a child, friction always results. Roy is determined to do up his shoe laces even if it takes half an hour. Jenny wants to go swimming before she does her homework regardless of what mother says. Andy can't see why he shouldn't go out on school nights. The list of things that children want to do against the wishes of their parents is endless. Every effort they make to decide for themselves what their actions should be is frustrated. Many eventually lapse into an apathetic state in which they simply follow instructions and completely lose the ability to make decisions. Others rebel uniformly against everything in a desperate attempt to retain their autonomy. Time went by lightning fast. I had trouble focusing on my job. We were like two peas in a pod. We had candlelit dinners and Keith made curry from scratch. Once in a while, we skipped out on work during an afternoon and met to make love at one of our apartments--and once even in a fancy hotel. We shared private thoughts, discussed our adolescent traumas, and, with time, fantasized out loud about what we'd name our kids and which of our favorite houses (that we'd seen on drives) we'd live in.

Oh, and we danced. We loved, loved, loved to dance. I felt stronger, happier, prettier, more confident about myself in every way. Keith is not an extrovert but he has tons of friends who are devoted to him, so I met lots of people. If you find yourself physically able to engage in more strenuous activities like these, go for it. If not, moderate exercise will certainly benefit your health. We need to remain realistic about our fitness and take into consideration our age and body type. If you have health limitations, you are advised to slowly increase your levels of physical activity. Resist wanting the electric scooter that advertisers urge you to purchase to make you more mobile. A scooter might make zipping around a grocery store seem convenient, but it is another means to being sedentary. If your current activity level is sedentary or light, the goal is to be more rather than less active. If you are fit enough to meet the recommendation of 30 minutes of moderately intense physical activity a day for 5 or more days a week, yet not this active, you need a plan. Adding 150 minutes of exercise per week may sound overwhelming at first, but this time can be spread out into 10-or 15-minute intervals.Studies show that just 10 minutes of cardio activity provides cardiovascular benefits. So if either time or endurance is a problem, break up your exercise routine into shorter intervals. Instructions you begin to uncover your automatic thoughts, it will be helpful for you to have an understanding of their nature and how they work, including how they can form complex feedback loops, so we'll discuss this first. Then we'll help you learn to hear your own automatic thoughts so you can begin to record them in a Thought Journal. is an extremely useful approach for exploring, confronting, and changing patterns of negative thinking. Understanding Feedback Loops The event-thought-feeling sequence is the basic building block of emotional life.

But the building blocks can become very jumbled and confusing. In real life, people typically don't experience a simple series of ABC reactions, each with its discrete activating event, thought, and resultant feeling. More often, a series of ABC reactions join to form a feedback loop in which the ending feeling from one sequence becomes the starting event for another sequence. In the case of painful feelings, a negative feedback loop can occur, in which an uncomfortable feeling itself becomes an activating event: the subject of further thoughts, which produce more painful feelings, which become a larger event inspiring more negative thoughts, and so on. The Dark Side of the Light Chasers is about working through those walls and taking down the barriers we've constructed and looking, maybe for the first time, at who we are and what we're doing here. This article will take you on a journey that will change the way you see yourself, others, and the world. It will lead you to open your heart and fill it with awe and compassion for your own humanity. The Persian poet Rumi said, By God, when you see your beauty, you'll be the idol of yourself. In these articles, I offer a process for discovering the beauty of your authentic self. Jung first gave us the term shadow to refer to those parts of our personality that have been rejected out of fear, ignorance, shame, or lack of love. His basic notion of the shadow was simple: the shadow is the person you would rather not be. He believed that integrating the shadow would have a profound impact, enabling us to rediscover a deeper source of our own spiritual life. To do this, Jung said, we are obliged to struggle with evil, confront the shadow, to integrate the devil. There is no other choice. This begs the question: Are people responding to and following instructions, directives, and orders out of fear--either of failure or of punishment--or because they believe in the organization and its purpose? It is entirely possible, of course, for anyone in a position of authority to be an effective leader. But first it is necessary to understand that leading is not the same as administering, managing, directing, or supervising. These acts are usually associated with rules, policies, budgets, procedures, manpower distribution, and other rather mundane but necessary organizational and operational processes. They are necessary because, in many of today's multilayered, multifaceted organizations and corporations, people need parameters within which to do their jobs. Boundaries for function and behavior are important to any organization that wants to be successful;

Because inspiration lends itself to the achievement of goals and objectives, inspirational leadership is as necessary for success as oxygen is for breathing. For precisely that reason, leadership is too important to be left solely to anyone elected or appointed to a position of authority, since being elected or appointed does not a leader make. No one has ever automatically acquired character or requisite qualities simply by election or appointment. Election and appointment may be a necessary part of the process, but neither imbues a person with benevolent omnipotence. Deny the ask, not the person: When you do say no, thank them for thinking of you or asking for your involvement. You're not rejecting the person. Make that clear. Let them know that you respect or admire them and the work they are doing, or the event or activity you're being invited to. Let them know that the no is not personal. For example: This sounds amazing but my plate is so full. Have a great time, and circle back again the next time something like this comes up. You may feel like a terrible friend or family member. You might feel like you're letting someone down or not living up to expectations, or that people will see you in a negative light. Try and push through these initial feelings; Later in this article, I shall outline some awareness procedures that will help you correct the misinterpretations that led to your belief in scarcity. Even as you seek to bring misinterpretations into your consciousness, you will be aware of their persistent nature. Most of our misinterpretations--though not all--came from our parents who, in turn, got them from their parents. It's like the biblical saying about the iniquity of the fathers being visited upon the children. What it really means is that the parents suffered a lack of self-love, and the original sin meant their separation from God, which is the separation from the abundance of everything in life: love, pleasure, happiness. Self-hatred, self-denial, self-doubt--all are the consequences of the belief I'm not worthy.

To be unified with the loving Source is to accept that I and the Father are one and I can enjoy His perfection. But through absorption of inaccurate belief systems, you lose the consciousness of abundance and, in so doing, deny your divine heritage. forget--or maybe many of us never knew--that thoughts are things. Through your thoughts (or ideas, if you prefer), you create the action that produces the results. They certainly were not allowed to make a scene. Toddler temper tantrums in the 1690 equivalent of the grocery store? Locke advises crying is very often a striving for mastery and an open declaration of their insolence or obstinacy: when they have not the power to obtain their desire, they will by their clamor and sobbing maintain their title and right to it (emphasis Locke's, and I can almost hear the derision dripping from those horrid, emotional words). When children faced hardship and the consequences of their mistakes, Locke advised parents, by no means bemoan them. This softens their minds and makes them yield to the little harms that happen to them, whereby they sink deeper into that part which alone feels, and makes larger wounds there than otherwise they would. In other words, correct and comfort, but do not pity or make a big deal out of children's hardship and failures because the many inconveniences this life is exposed to require [that] we should not be too sensible of every little hurt. Locke was very much in favor of encouraging children to get back up and try again when they failed. In the little harms they suffer from knocks and falls, they should not be pitied for falling, but bid do so again; But let the hurts they receive be what they will, [it will] stop their crying and that will give them more quiet and ease at present and harden them for the future (again, the emphasis and disdain are Locke's). Colonial parents loved their children, and I'm sure they comforted them when they suffered knocks and falls, but these obstacles were considered a part of daily life as one contributed, quietly and obediently, to the survival of the family in a harsh and dangerous land. When you commit to a meditation practice, you don't want to put yourself in a position where you will easily feel defeated. For beginning meditators, I suggest starting with twenty minutes. Then after a month or several months of practice, you can lengthen your time by another twenty minutes. If you are a seasoned meditator or if you are returning to a meditation practice, you might commit to an hour a day. Perhaps you have an hour for your meditation practice, but sitting for more than twenty minutes feels daunting to you. If this is the case, I suggest sitting for twenty minutes, then perhaps taking ten minutes to slowly walk in a quiet, contemplative fashion, or to practice slow yoga, or to simply stretch.