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The sexual abuse and rape continued from various people through the time Candy was in her early twenties. She had fallen into disordered eating patterns from as young as eight--not coincidentally, the same age she was when the abuse started. Despite all of this, Candy went to college and had a good job working from home, which felt safe for her. The next moment, Michael heard the loudest noise he had ever heard in his life. Before he could answer himself, a hand slammed into his chest, grabbed his shirt, and yanked him to the ground. Get down, man! I don't know if you can get shot, but let's not find out, okay? Michael turned his head in panic and stared at the man who had pulled him down. He was older than Michael-- maybe mid-thirties, with dark brown hair and a long, bushy mustache. He wore dark blue trousers with a faded yellow stripe down the side and a shirt that was beyond dirty. The clothes, like their owner, looked as if they had not been washed in a month. He was rather thin and probably tall. It was hard to tell because he was laid out on the ground firing an old rifle over a pile of rocks. 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