Avoid food triggers that create a leaky gut. A strong gut makes a strong body. Move toward an unprocessed whole-food, plant-based diet. Heal Thy Gut The role of elimination CASE 1: Jane S is a 62-year-old female who arrived at the office with shortness of breath during exertion. She was moderately overweight with high blood pressure, very high cholesterol, and prediabetes. She wasn't active, and when she started a walking program, she was surprised that she was so short of breath. I'll let you deal with this question on your own, but for most of us reading this article, we honestly aren't paralyzed by the world around us. We're really just paralyzed by our apathy. We're paralyzed by our inaction. Even if the road ahead is difficult and requires years of sacrifice, we can still massively improve ourselves. The real question you'll need to answer is this: are you going to settle for being a Shane or sometimes fail and sometimes succeed at being a Gretchen? You really aren't at risk of dying while trying to make your life better, so what's stopping you? If you do decide to be a Shane in the world, then great, I applaud you. You have come to terms with reality, while most are still fooling themselves. If you decide to be a Gretchen, I applaud you even more. Just know that becoming a Gretchen isn't the easiest road. Ultimately, several years later, they are grateful for the recovery the family as a whole has been able to experience. What I remember is my husband and I telling our nine- and eleven-year-old kids.

Over the next few weeks and months, our nine-year-old daughter started to wet her bed at night. She was crying a lot. Looking back I see how very traumatic it was. One night, nine years later, we were watching a movie that reminded her of our family back then and she suddenly started to cry. She cried like a baby in my arms and told me she shouldn't have been told so much about our problems. That is true, she shouldn't have, but I also know she shouldn't have had to be with parents who were so unhealthy, who were so dysfunctional in their lives. When I think about the overall big picture, the outcome is good. She and her brother would not only witness our War of the Roses years and our struggles in early recovery, but would ultimately come to see us committed to our recovery practices, committed to our family, and living in the truth. Dr A noted her blood pressure was borderline high. Her EKG was normal, so Dr A did a stress test, which was normal. She suggested a diet change and a cholesterol medication. The patient had heard about the memory and liver issues connected with statin medications and wanted to try changing her diet before she resorted to taking pills. We talked about which foods she needed to eliminate. She gradually stopped eating animal fat, including dairy, over a three-month period. Her cholesterol levels came down 80 points. Her blood pressure normalized, and Dr A started taking her off of medications. The patient lost 10 pounds. She looked fabulous and hasn't looked back. I'm happy to talk to you about what it takes in the articles ahead, but you must know that you chose the difficult route. You chose to take the red pill from The Matrix, instead of the blue pill.

Come on, let's find out how to get this done. Most Will Not Follow Your Lead Congratulations! After reading so many articles of this article and persevering despite all odds, you are committed to no longer being apathetic. I'm proud of you! Since you're so excited, you'll want to take action. After you see the results taking place, you'll want to tell all of your friends and family how they can take action, too! You will become a leader. Clearly, the decisions around disclosure are hard to make. Would I have done it differently? I really don't know, given that our family is in good shape today. I only know my experience. It is hard to know how best to do it. For some parent(s) what you share and when is obvious, but as you can see, for others it is not so apparent. What complicates the situation is that often you are making an initial decision very early in your own recovery process and, in many cases, attempting to make this decision with a partner who is looking at this situation through different eyes. While age and timing are significant, the setting and how to answer their concerns are important considerations for this to be a constructive experience. ANSWERING THEIR QUESTIONS The following is a list of questions children may pose to you during disclosure. CASE 2: Robert E is a 65-year-old man whom Dr A has known for years. He started having rectal bleeding (bleeding out of his bottom).

He became markedly anemic (low blood count), and because of the significant anemia, he started developing exertional chest pain. Even walking to the bathroom, he would feel chest pain. He was admitted to a hospital where he required four units of blood. The doctors did an endoscopy and a colonoscopy and found diverticulosis, abnormal outpouchings in the colon which are prone to bleeding. These outpouchings cannot be fixed with medication; During that admission, Robert also was given a stress test, which showed two areas of the heart that were receiving decreased blood flow under stress. A cardiac catheterization was recommended. Robert refused that test because he wanted to talk it over with Dr A, his primary cardiologist, who was not involved in the proposed treatment plan. Whether you like it or not, this is a fact of living the non-apathetic life. Living any lifestyle that's against the norm of the world will cause you to be a leader. As you consistently take action and see the positive change taking place over a span of years, people will begin to ask questions. They'll get interested in how you live your life and what you do. Since you are now a changed person who lives a passionate lifestyle, you are totally game for helping people! For instance, you make time at 4 pm one day for someone in your schedule and you head over to the coffee shop to visit them. You're just excited to be able to work with someone on the same lessons you've learned! It's 4:05 pm though, and they haven't shown up. They send text messages or calls to let you know if anything happened either. I guess just wait? Rehearsing how you would answer such questions will make the conversation go smoother. Do you still love each other?

Children want to know how parents feel about each other. This may be a difficult question to answer. Your answer may be a resounding yes. If this is not the reality, you might say, I am very angry, and I'm questioning how I feel. Or you may only be able to say, I don't know, I am sorting it out. But that needs to be followed with reassurance that this does not affect how much you love them. Did I do something wrong? Children need to hear that what is happening between their parents is not about them or their behavior, but about the parents' relationship. He was discharged from the hospital on multiple medications and stool softeners to improve his bowel health. Dr A saw no point in a catheterization because a person must be able to take blood thinners in order to be considered for a catheterization and stenting. Stents in the heart require blood thinners to ensure that the stents stay open. Then, even with stents in place, Robert would be prone to bleeding again when he was put on blood thinners because he still had untreated diverticulosis. With more bleeding, Robert would likely develop chest pain again, even with the stents in place. Dr A believed that treating Robert would require healing the diverticulosis. She put him on a strict diet. She eliminated animal products except fish and put him on a whole-grain, plant-based diet. Three months later, Robert had had no further rectal bleeding. His blood counts had risen significantly, and he was no longer anemic. They finally arrive 15 minutes late. That's fine, I guess.