That's a crazy amount of power to give to someone else--especially someone who has proven that he or she doesn't have your best interests at heart. And this gets worse and worse if you have multiple grudges in your life that you need to forgive. At some point, these grudges take over, with the result that other people are manipulating most of your actions. Forgiveness takes that control and that power back. Forgiveness takes your life back. Once you forgive what someone did to you, the power over how you deal with the legacy of that person's offense returns to you. You can do it alone, you can do it with friends, explains Anna Brones, coauthor (with Johanna Kindvall) of Fika: The Art of the Swedish You can do it at home, in a park or at work. But the essential thing is that you do it, that you make time to take a break. In Sweden, workers generally break for fika once in midmorning and again in midafternoon. While the ritual often includes coffee and a treat known as fikabrod (cinnamon buns, apple tarts, and almond cake are popular), what you choose to eat and drink doesn't really matter. As Brones puts it, There's no fika police. Having a cup of coffee and a pastry at your desk while you check email? Savoring time and companionship with the people around you? In the workplace, fika is an opportunity for colleagues to exchange knowledge and opinions in an informal setting. The hierarchy breaks down during the fika; It can also facilitate interpersonal bonding: We sound each other out and let a little of our private lives come out, which can create sympathy for colleagues who are having a tough time. Also, look for brands that use plant-based ingredients and sustainably certified fish products. Open Farm is a good brand to consider if you are looking for an organic high-quality protein rich diet. They also have a plant-based variety if you want to feed your pet a meatless diet. Their food is made with ethically sourced, certified humane, and sustainable ingredients;

Their packaging is also recyclable through a partnership with Terracycle, a recycling platform offering solutions for eco-minded companies that produce hard-to-recycle materials. Log onto their site to find a retailer near you, to place your order online, and to find out more about their Terracycle recycling program. You Made a Conscious Decision to Go Vegetarian or Vegan--Should Your Pets? If you and your family have committed to a vegetarian or vegan lifestyle based on your culture, religious beliefs, or environmental or health concerns, you may be tempted to include your pets in that practice. Environmentalists point to the fact that cats and dogs are primarily meat-eaters as an example of their negative environmental impact, since livestock used to produce most pet foods are a major source of greenhouse gas emissions. Many veterinarians advise against feeding your pets a meatless diet, citing their physiological differences and natural feeding habits. As you face the listener just remember that her right is your left, and vice versa. To adjust the height of the right shoulder, for example, say: Please relax your right shoulder a bit. Try not to make more than 2 or 3 corrections in a training session of 20 minutes, because too many corrections can make the listener feel insecure. To develop a well-balanced body geometry during the times between trainings, the listener will practice the mirror exercise from article 2 (see here ) as part of their homework. If and when the listener has clearly indicated that the singer is in front of her, an important milestone has been reached. The next step is for the listener to clearly hear the singer from the front but from different positions at least twice in a row. To do this, guide her to another position on the front-back axis and test this additional listening position according to the procedure from training phase 1, part 3. If part 4 of this training fails or the training phase takes too long (the total time of the training phase should be no more than 20 minutes), then you should stop this part of the training and try again after 1 to 3 days. Lower the music volume using the remote control until it is no longer audible, and then turn off the music. If you're already at the end of the second song, just let the music fade away. My impression - based in part on 25 years of clinical experience - is that feeding a sweet tooth with sweetness from any source helps it grow into a sweet fang, much inclined to take over your appetite, your diet, and your life. A study was published in Nature in October of 2014, indicating that non-caloric artificial sweeteners (NAS) may contribute to glucose intolerance by disrupting our microbiomes. The study, which received considerable media attention at the time, was both elegant and complicated. The underlying cause of this metabolic effect was traced to a marked change in the bacterial populations colonizing the GI tracts of the mice.

The adverse effect was reversible with antibiotics that killed off the newly-favored bacterial colonies. Studies in humans suggested much the same, but these were less controlled and conducted in very few people, with less consistent results. The translation of these findings from mice to people was generally supported, but I would call it less than decisive. The takeaway from the constellation of studies was clear enough. Replacing sugar with artificial sweeteners may fail to facilitate the intended benefits. By compromising the ecology of the microbiome - of both mouse and man - the effect may be just the opposite. He or she no longer gets a say in how you conduct your life moving forward. That's all yours, which is exactly the way it should be. I felt this power in a big way when I finally decided to forgive football. As you know, by the end of my time trying to make it in the NFL, I was feeling pretty bitter about the whole thing and I wasn't in a good place at all. I did a lot of hard work on myself and got my life moving in the right direction, and things were going really well for me. I had a wife and kid I loved; I had work that inspired me; I had new friends. But even after I was living the life I wanted to live in so many ways, I was still carrying around a ton of resentment over the way things had turned out for me in professional football. This had such an effect that I couldn't watch football at all, and I had a very tough time watching any sports--this from a guy who always loved sports and defined himself by football for a big part of his life. While taking multiple breaks throughout the workday for bonding, relaxing, and snacking with coworkers might sound bad for productivity, studies show that the opposite is true. Researchers have found that breaks restore our energy and attention while improving our decision-making abilities. They can also spur goal reactivation--if we're getting lost in the minutia of a task, stepping away and shifting focus for a while can clear our minds, allowing us to see the bigger picture when we return. And breaks can boost our creativity.

As Adelsward puts it, We get a chance to blow the dust off our brains, fill them with inspiration from others, and have an opportunity to test our thoughts and ideas. Given all the benefits, it's no surprise that some Swedish companies have made fika mandatory. If you want to enjoy fika in true Swedish style, consider bringing a homemade treat to share. For fika-focused recipes, check out the Swedish Institute's cookarticle The Swedish Kitchen: From Fika to Cosy Friday. My boyfriend Michael's parents live in an old mill in Devon, England, that dates back to at least the year 1100. I suspect some of his amazing energy comes from the fact that he has his own version of fika: regular tea and biscuit breaks he calls pre-sies (before work), one-sies (mid-work), and two-sies (at the end of work). If you are already cooking vegetarian meals for your family, this may be a viable option without adding a lot of extra work. You will still need to be mindful of which foods should and should not be included in your dog's meals, but it won't be as complicated as finding adequate protein sources for a completely meatless diet. It seems inconceivable, but many pet food brands test their products on dogs and cats, and the lab animals are often kept under scary conditions. While feeding trials are still standard, many brands have opted not to test on animals. Check to see if your pet's brand is cruelty free. If the humane treatment of livestock is a concern, but you worry about the possible negative impact of going totally meatless on your pet's health, you may want to explore brands that offer cruelty-free, certified-humane, and sustainable options. Some are even packaged in recyclable materials. Opt For Green Grooming Supplies and Pet Accessories The same chemicals that we strive to avoid in our daily lives may be lurking in our pet's grooming products and supplies--the very things we buy to care for them! Phthalates, the endocrine disruptors found in our personal-care products, are also used in pet shampoos, as well as plastic food bowls, toys, and pill coatings. Then go to the listener and put a chair behind her so that the front edge of the chair touches the backs of her legs gently. Tell her that there is a chair behind her and ask her to sit down. Help her sit by securely holding her upper arms, as it may be that she feels somewhat uncertain during this process. Once the listener is seated, go over to the therapeutic seat, the one located in front of the sound equipment, and sit down facing the listener.

Then say to her, Please slowly take off the dark glasses. Ask her how she feels and what the experience was like for her. If a lot has happened, give her enough time to get back to normal. If the training is complete at this point, continue to Downtime. In all stages of training it is possible that the perception of the position of the singer jumps sharply. For example, the listener hears the noise only from the side, then from the front, then possibly from behind. An unrelated study presented in 2017 and reported by Medscape indicated much the same adverse effect. Sugar substitutes, new and improved? There may be better substitutes for sugar now; Both stevia and monk fruit extract look promising in early research, but studies assessing effects in humans over time are still lacking. much of the artificial sweetener debate is of the do they help, do they hurt, and how much of which? Even the most ardent defenders of sugar substitutes, whomever they may be, can't really argue that they are actually good for us. The best case that can be made for artificial sweeteners is all about what they take out of our diets - sugar and calories - not what they add. So the goal here is to take sugar and calories out of our diets, not to add aspartame or saccharin. It's a good goal, since by and large, we consume way too much of both (see: Truth about Sugar ; Truth about Calories ). I don't think I fully realized the effect this was having on me until my son got old enough to participate in sports, and I decided that I didn't want him going out for any teams. This was really tough for him, because Tristan has turned out to be a natural athlete, and he was dying to get out on the field. But my bitterness about what football had done to me was still so strong that I was letting that experience control me in one of my most important roles--as Tristan's father. I made a lot of excuses, mostly to convince myself and others that I was taking this position to prevent Tristan from injury.