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When she turned fifty, she found herself wondering who she really was. Penny began to find herself when she started to focus on her main complaint: No one ever listens to me! Now she listens to herself first, without waiting for permission from anyone. Just yesterday she said no, thank you to a volunteer organization that had assumed that she was waiting for them to call and would just go along with their request. She also told me no, thank you when I asked her to join me for lunch; Penny was now able to recognize and enjoy her main drama--waiting for permission to speak--and step out of her role of being a good girl. Her money drama also fit her main drama. She kept track of all of the financial details while someone else made the big decisions. And yes, she kept beautiful and orderly financial records that just waited for someone to notice how nice they were. Now she has taken control of her own financial decisions and doesn't wait for anyone. And did I mention weeks and weeks of physical therapy, plus more time off work for recovery at home? There is no question that the cost of surgery, medications, and time off work has an enormous financial impact. Let's be clear: This article shouldn't take the place of professional medical advice. But I am encouraged to see more medical professionals embrace more holistic approaches to managing pain before diving into medication or surgery to help ease patients' chronic discomfort. Using MBC as part of your self-healing program--after surgery or in conjunction with other recovery protocols--is a prudent path. It can help bring about keen awareness as you begin your journey toward healing. Using MBC techniques as a means to prevent serious injury is an equally important method. Maybe you experience a sore back after a difficult night's sleep or a stiff hip after a long walk. Perhaps you suffer from slight inflammation in your wrists after a long day in front of a computer. When you start to notice these types of aches and pains with consistency, your body is telling you it isn't happy about your conditions.

It is also significant that the degree of improvement on the locus of evaluation scale correlates . These correlations suggest strongly the point which has already been mentioned, that the process of therapy appears to be a unified phenomenon, in which all measures, crude as some of them may be, show a strong positive correlation. Raskin concludes, the locus of evaluation concept operates in a consistent relationship with previously established criteria of therapeutic progress, such as self-regarding attitudes, understanding and insight, maturity of behavior and defensiveness. This study permits the conclusion that there is a change in the valuing process during therapy, and that one characteristic of this change is that the individual moves away from a state where his thinking, feeling, and behavior are governed by the judgments and expectations of others, and toward a state in which he relies upon his own experience for his values and standards. Characteristic Developments in the Relationship There are a number of therapists -- in other orientations as well as in client-centered therapy -- who take the point of view that the process of therapy is best described in terms of the changing emotional relationship existing between the client and the therapist. They believe that many of the verbal and attitudinal and perceptual changes are simply by-products of a basic emotional experience in a relationship between two human beings. One of the arguments for this point of view is that in play therapy, particularly, many of the processes we have discussed either do not occur or occur only in unverbalized form, and yet constructive change takes place. What are we to regard as essential to psychotherapy if success occurs in dealing with a child, when there have been no verbalized insights, little expression of attitudes toward the self, no certain expression of denied experiences, and only a fresh and vital experiencing of self? It is natural that we should give increased attention to the type of relationship in which such change occurs. Looking at your life as a drama may be a stretch. And considering your money script may start your head spinning. Begin to listen to your complaints and consider your old stories--the ones that you have heard about your family and told about yourself. Few people actually listen for their story and the family's financial drama--the old stories of people who had, made, spent, saved, and lost money. These stories are important; Listening with an open heart to the old stories reveals the details of your own patterns, the life you are living from your script, including your money script. Only by paying attention to what was so ingrained and discovering what parts we want to keep and what we want to release overboard do we become free from the past and able to create a new life and script. A drama can be a comedy or a tragedy, and your interactions with money probably have been both. Preservation A drama begins with a theme and various characters.

Learning to use MBC tools takes time and repetition, but when followed correctly, they can help alleviate long-term side effects after major surgery, or prevent small aches and pains from expanding and eventually leading to surgery. The Science behind the Mind-Body Connection Your mind is more powerful than you might realize. How you feel and what you think directly affect your body by changing the structure of your brain and how your immune system functions. Feelings such as gratitude, happiness, and joy have been shown to change the brain in areas that control higher-level thinking. The same can be said for feelings of anger, frustration, and stress. These negative feelings can also alter the pathways in your brain and ultimately influence what occurs in your body. A 2016 study on meditation published in Biological Psychiatry showed that the practice can change the structure of the brain and the workings of the immune system. The study participants were considered stressed job-seeking unemployed adults. They participated in either a three-day intensive residential mindfulness meditation program or a relaxation training program. Perhaps a brief example of the perplexing sort of success which is found with a fair degree of frequency, particularly among younger clients, will serve as an introduction to thinking about the counselor-client relationship. A counselor with a considerable amount of experience describes, in a letter to the author, a case she has completed. I have just completed the strangest counseling case I've ever had. I think you might be interested in it. Joan was one of my very first clients when I started counseling one half-day each week at the local high school. She had told the girls' adviser, I feel so shy I couldn't even tell her what my problem is. Will you tell her for me? So the adviser told me before I saw Joan that she worried about having no friends. The adviser added that she had noticed that Joan seemed always to be so alone. The first time I saw Joan she talked a little about her problem and quite a bit about her parents, of whom she seemed to be quite fond.

You may already have some idea of the ongoing drama in your life and your work and the roles you play. Let's assume that you don't and go back into the dramas to discover the themes from the various masks that show up and the roles you step into. Life appears to go along and we seem happy, and then some challenge occurs and we, as actors in this drama, fundamentally adjust ourselves and how we behave to keep afloat in our current environment. This situation marks the beginning of the drama of preservation. One adjustment calls forth another and another, and the various cycles of energy flow are short-circuited by the heavy masks and costumes. Some body sensations and emotions are sent underground while others step out into the spotlight. This process begins very early in our life. We desire to remain in good graces with the other major players in our life so we put a mask over our true face, our true self, and turn down the volume inside that says we are capable and our dreams are important. Instead we begin to focus on preserving the drama and money script of the major players--our family, tribe, and religious community--while we step into a minor role. We stay afloat and weather the challenge, but one day we might experience something that causes us to question who we really are, where we are headed, and what we really want. After the study, blood tests from the participants revealed reduced levels of inflammation in those who meditated compared with those who didn't. Inflammation contributes to chronic conditions such as Alzheimer's, arthritis, heart disease, and diabetes. Further research indicates that positive emotions can help reduce harmful levels of stress hormones and even affect your gene susceptibility to different diseases. That's why it's just as important to work on your brain as your body. The more you feel positive emotions--or even neutral emotions, such as when you meditate--the better you can learn how to control the negative emotions, such as fear and worry. Learning to mitigate your negative emotions when you experience a stressful or frustrating situation can help you become more resistant to infection, inflammation, and disease. Hardwired Reactions and Connections You can sit in a chair, not moving a muscle, and simply think a thought that has to do with feeling angry, sad, or happy. Suddenly your pancreas secretes a hormone that affects your blood sugar. Next your liver makes an enzyme, your spleen is sending a

However, there were long, long pauses. The next four interviews could be recorded verbatim on this small piece of paper. By the middle of November Joan remarked that things are going pretty good. No elaboration on that. Meanwhile the adviser commented that the teachers had noticed that Joan was now smiling a friendly greeting when they met her in the halls. This was unheard-of before. However, the adviser had seen little of Joan and could say nothing of her contacts with other students. In December there was one interview during which Joan talked freely; More silence through the next two and one-half months. Then I received word that she had been elected woman of the month by the girls of the high school! We suddenly realize we are not going anywhere; When we encounter a challenging situation, or a series of them, often we try to deal with it by creating a persona, which comes from the Latin word for mask. With a persona, there is dissonance between who we really are and the face and energy flow that we present to the world. Under the mask are the thoughts, emotions, and body sensations that we hide from the world and from ourselves, the very ones that were part of the overwhelmed feeling of the initial experience(s) that called forth our mask. These energies are stuck. We continue to add to those denied energies as we live our lives and play our part in the ongoing dramas. Much less energy flows through us. Yet here is the key: Over time we become our persona. We spend energy preserving it and forget who we really are under the mask. Years later we may begin to question and to recognize our persona whenever we notice that we are feeling a bit off, as if there is something going on within us.