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They are after all working at the extreme. (Is it any wonder the military on long tours find it difficult?) Like being an astronaut on the International Space Station, there is always a way. A small plant is nature after all. Be creative. Look how creative your mind has been in the skill of doing anxiety or depression. Put that well-oiled machine to use in a different way, that's all. Why not plan a little getaway or organise a dinner party, and for extra fun, inspire your guests with a theme for dress-ups? Bring out some board games for all the more giggles. Good old-fashioned fun, from pinatas to pin the tail on the donkey, never fails to bring people together! Get messy out in nature, with some paint, or in the kitchen. Just let go. Be imperfect. Make some waves. One of the tragedies of life is that we feel we need to become serious as we grow up'. <a href=''>Keep</a> a sparkle in your eye, be young at heart and choose to have fun. <a href=''>Call</a> on instant sparkle fixes whenever you need a boost, and you'll be sure to create a truly magical life. <a href=''>Put</a> all your fears and insecurities about changing your eating habits on hold while you answer these questions, and imagine how you'd feel if you were in control of your diet and eating healthfully. <a href=''>Allow</a> yourself to relish the sensation of leaving a meal satisfied but not stuffed, of being able to put one scoop of ice cream in your bowl, enjoy it, and not feel compelled to return to the freezer the rest of the night. <a href=''>If</a> you're currently overweight, picture yourself at a healthy weight, being able to walk with greater ease and more energy. <a href=''>These</a> are images you can conjure up when you need a shot of motivation. <br /><br /><a href='!/'>Trying</a> to exercise on a catch-as-catch-can basis hardly ever works. <a href=''>To</a> stay motivated and reap the many benefits of exercise, you need to exercise regularly and consistently. <a href=''>And</a> to exercise regularly and consistently, you need to make fitness part of your schedule so that you do it as habitually as you, say, brush your teeth or eat lunch. <a href=''>You</a> put aside time every day to do those things; now put aside time every day (or almost every day) for exercise. <a href=''>This</a> can be tricky because your thoughts could be so distorted that they seem quite fine to you. <a href=''>In</a> fact, you're so skilled in denying pain that you can make anything seem healthy and constructive. <a href=''>So,</a> a good way to decide is to ask yourself, Would I teach this belief to my daughter or son? <a href=''>Or</a> to a good friend? <a href=''>If</a> the answer is a resounding No! <a href=''>then</a> that's a huge clue that you shouldn't be applying it to your own life either. <a href=''>If</a> you still wonder if your own distortions are getting in the way of assessing a rule's rationality, you can run the rule by a trusted friend to check out its appropriateness and ask for objective feedback. <a href=''>Most</a> self-destructive rules usually include absolutes: should, must, have to, always, never. <a href=''>These</a> are black-and-white words that ignore the fact that healthy responses are often very situation specific. <a href=''>There</a> might be instances when your rule is definitely the best way to go, and you can develop the skill of choosing when and where it should objectively be helpful. <a href=''>What's</a> vital and very healing for you is that it's now your choice, rather than a mandate from the past. <a href=''>In</a> the opening quote, Jon Kabat-Zinn points out that positively rigid thinking can be just as destructive as negatively rigid thinking. <a href=''>This</a> is when you get to decide what's helpful in the here and now, and what's not. <a href=''>While</a> it may be true that rewards and punishments teach us what to do and what not to do, it is the defining moments that shape our internal behaviors. <a href=''>Defining</a> moments anchor our emotional reactions to the world. <a href=''>They</a> determine the feelings and reactions we have to the inevitable stresses we encounter throughout life. <br /><br /><a href=''>Defining</a> moments are so important that, in many cultures, they have been deliberately provided for as a matter of ritual. <a href=''>For</a> example, the ancient Egyptians would put a person under the floor, in a container of water that allowed him barely enough space to breathe. <a href=''>After</a> a day or more, the person would be removed, with the theory that whatever mental incidents he reported would be his significant, defining moments. <a href=''>Many</a> Native American tribes send their adolescents out into the wilderness for the purpose of enduring some life-or-death circumstance, such as killing a bear or spending the night without food or shelter on top of a mountain. <a href=''>Sun</a> dances and sweat lodges replicate dangerous conditions, enabling the participants to grasp the seriousness of the situation and to make memorable decisions for themselves. <a href=''>By</a> contrast, our culture takes a "hands-off" approach when it comes to our defining moments. <a href=''>For</a> better or worse, we leave it to fate or chance as to when and how these events are identified, let alone dealt with. <a href=''>Consequently,</a> we have a society of people whose lives are dominated and controlled by life experiences they don't have a clue about. <a href=''>Decide</a> upon an outcome you would like to happen. <a href=''>State</a> it in the positive, for example:I want to feel more comfortable around people by the end of this week.' It could be a material goal or an emotional one. Whatever you decide, make sure it makes you smile more than you did yesterday. Make it an outcome you have control over. Physically write it out in the present tense. Something like: I am really grateful for how great I feel, surrounded by people, here and now.' Start with the final picture in mind. <a href=''>Form</a> a huge picture in your mind and include all of your senses. <a href=''>Hear</a> it, feel it, touch it, and - if relevant - smell or taste it. <a href=''>As</a> we awaken to the true richness of our lives, we realise that, contrary to what has become popular belief, more doesn't always mean more. <a href=''>Filling</a> every waking hour with commitments can leave us feeling stressed and strained, while quiet time, rest and relaxation revive our sparkles. <a href=''>Overfilling</a> our minds and environments can leave us feeling cluttered and overburdened. <a href=''>On</a> the other hand, consciously slowing down our racing thoughts, paring back our busy schedules and decluttering the spaces around us allows our spirits to float free. <br /><br /><a href=''>We</a> are and have always been enough. <a href=''>No</a> extra bells or whistles are necessary for us to sparkle - no extra things, accolades or trimmings. <a href=''>Our</a> current consumer culture encourages us to believe that the next best trend, thing or feather in our cap will make us sparkle, suggesting to us every day through advertising and media of all kinds that we are missing or lacking something - that we need more to grow our happiness. <a href=''>Alas,</a> we're disillusioned when we feel the same after the temporary shine has worn off our new shoes, our new car, diet plan or gadget. <a href=''>We</a> see such things do not make us happy - and if they do, it is only until we secure the next thing we covet. <a href=''>Fleeting</a> satisfaction like this can understandably leave us feeling unsettled, wanting and incomplete. <a href=''>The</a> most effective fitness regimens include exercises that address three primary areas of fitness: functional fitness, cardiovascular (also known as aerobic) fitness, and strength. <a href=''>A</a> good starting place is the following twelve-week cardio, strength training, and functional fitness plan. <a href=''>It</a> will not only get you started, it will also give you a template for long-term fitness. <a href=''>(The</a> fact that it's twelve weeks long doesn't mean it's over in twelve weeks; consider it a launching pad for ongoing exercise.) The plan is similar to the one I gave readers in The Best Life Guide to Managing Diabetes and Pre-Diabetes. <a href=''>I</a> like it because it works for just about everyone, and it pays particular attention to the type of exercise that helps burn fat and improve blood glucose levels. <a href=''>Even</a> if you don't have diabetes or prediabetes, it will give your health a boost. <a href=''>If</a> you haven't engaged in any significant physical activity for a long time, it's a good idea to start with functional fitness exercises: a combination of stretches and strengthening exercises that often use your own body weight for resistance. <a href=''>Simple,</a> yet succinct, they better your core strength, flexibility, balance, and coordination, improving posture and helping you move more gracefully. <a href=''>All</a> that is also going to make your everyday movements easier: toting groceries, lifting a suitcase, carrying a child who refuses to walk, reaching for a coat in the back of a closet--those things become less arduous when you are functionally fit. <a href=''>I've</a> observed that it usually takes risking a behavior change--making a different choice--before a belief can be totally challenged, decreased, or even eliminated. <a href=''>When</a> you make a fresh choice based on your own belief in the present, you can free yourself from your own irrationalities. <a href=''>For</a> example, if I allow myself to show my anger in my family and I do it appropriately, I'm likely to view that belief with fresh eyes--and realize I no longer want to be governed by that rule. <a href=''>Think</a> of all the movies that are based on characters challenging and breaking their former belief systems. <a href=''>The</a> Green Book, 2018's Oscar-winning movie, was a fabulous example of how experiences that challenge an old belief system can greatly alter your perceptions of yourself and life. <br /><br /><a href=''>Change</a> that is based on challenging the rationality of rules and the rigidity of your belief system can be extremely moving and powerful. <a href=''>Your</a> current beliefs--things that you're seeing as helpful and protective but actually aren't--can range from highly paralyzing (I can never let anyone know the real me, I can never talk about what my stepfather did to me) to those that aren't as serious but reflect how your past can govern your present. <a href=''>The</a> greater the distortion, the more urgently you might've followed its regulations. <a href=''>Planned</a> or unplanned, ritualized or not, you have had defining moments in your life, and you must identify them if you expect to reconnect with your authentic self and take control of how you feel about you and what you create in your life. <a href=''>Your</a> defining moments can be the door that opens your authentic self. <a href=''>By</a> that I mean that your defining moments have elicited a response from you, but your response may not be an authentic part of who you are. <a href=''>In</a> fact, your defining moments may have blinded you to your power and strengths by evoking overwhelmingly negative emotions and fear about yourself or the world. <a href=''>It</a> is time to haul your defining moments out into the sunlight. <a href=''>It's</a> time for you to get some bright-line, no-kidding understanding of what have been the major influences on what you have become and how you think about yourself. <a href=''>In</a> psychological terms, you are about to do some "recollecting." You are recollecting when you remember an occasion in terms of at least two ways: first, an incident, and second, a result. <a href=''>You</a> remember falling down (incident), and the next thing you remember is your mother holding you (result); you remember the dog biting you, and you cried; you drew a picture, and the teacher told you it was good. <a href=''>You</a> will find that you are motivated, that things will fall into place for you, that you notice everything needed to make this happen. <a href=''>You</a> get what you focus upon. <a href=''>The</a> best description of confidence I ever heard wasconfidence is something you have done once successfully'. Studies prove it really does not matter if that was in your imagination or physically. The brain and neurology, the body and neurological pathways act the same. Remember what Esther Hicks said: "A belief is a thought we keep thinking" and I may add that those thoughts release the chemicals and initiate the neuro pathways to determine how you feel. It is all about how you feel. Believing that we are not happy, balanced or beautiful enough is a story that serves our pulsating global economy while simultaneously creating much of our daily stress and anxiety. Every year we spend more money on cosmetics cars, clothes and coffees.