That's what successful people do. They often don't feel like getting started either. It starts with me having a good idea for an article. I email my idea to a number of magazine editors and when one of them commissions me to write the article, I'm thrilled. But then I actually have to write it! Most mornings, I don't feel like writing. At least, not initially. What makes me do it? It's not because I have amazing willpower, it's because I know that feeling like it' rarely comes before taking action. <a href=''>But</a> I've learnt that pretty much every time, I sit down with my laptop and even though I don't feel like it initially, I start writing, and before I know it, I'm absorbed in writing. <a href=''>So</a> that's what gets me started - knowing that I will feel like it if I just get started. <a href=''>If</a> you're waiting until you feel completely confident and certain about something before you take action, or you've made a start and now you've stalled, you may find that actingas if' will help. Acting as if' is a way to create motivation to do something even though you may not feel like doing it. <a href=''>Though</a> it might feel artificial and forced in the beginning, get started on whatever it is you hope to achieve and quite soon the momentum takes over and you find yourself easily carrying on with whatever it is you intended to do. <a href=''>All</a> it takes is a little effort at the start. <a href=''>When</a> I hear myself say this -red flag! <a href=''>I'm</a> not good at time. <a href=''>To</a> me, "plenty" becomes like infinite. <a href=''>That</a> means I can dawdle around, and do a little of this and a little of that, and I don't really have to start getting ready yet. <a href=''>It</a> means I'm going to wind up rushing around at the last minute, probably frantically looking for my car keys (not anymore! <br /><br /><a href=''>front</a> table) and then I'm going to be late. <a href=''>So</a> right now is when I need to get ready to go. <a href=''>Now,</a> it's good not to feel rushed, and to actually plan ahead so that I really do have plenty of time, but then I need to say, "I have enough time," not "plenty." That is, I have enough time if I stay focused and on track and get ready and go. <a href=''>No,</a> I do not have time to look at this TV show. <a href=''>No,</a> I do not have time to play just this one computer game. <a href=''>No,</a> I do not have time right now to do that chore that I didn't get to last night. <a href=''>I</a> have just enough time so that I do not have to feel rushed, as long as I plow ahead with getting ready and going. <a href=''>Once</a> I am ready, I may have a few spare minutes, and I might be able to get some little thing done before I leave, which would be great. <a href=''>But</a> I need to be sure that I actually am ready before I say I have a few minutes to spare and start in on something. <a href=''>And</a> I need to be very careful that I don't get involved in something and wind up rushed and late anyway. <a href=''>This</a> same process applies on a larger scale to a project, "Oh, that isn't duetil next week; I have plenty of time." or a trip, Oh, we're not going to Houston `til June." I had better notice the red flag and start getting ready, right now. Slouch forward and take a breath. What do you notice? Now, sit or stand tall. Hold your head upright, roll your shoulders back and down, and relax your upper body. Take a breath. What do you notice? If you got a fuller and easier breath the second time, you have seen that sitting up straight can make it easier for the muscles of breathing to work. Breathing exercisesThe goal of these breathing exercises is to help you feel calmer. There are many ways of breathing to reduce stress; if one way isn't helping you to find that place of calm, then try something else.

Don't worry about doing these exercises perfectly, it is more important to breathe in a comfortable way and listen to your body. Breathing space: Simply notice your breath. There is no need to change it in any way, just watch the air flowing in and out. Feel how the chest, sides and belly move gently with each breath. Try practicing having breathing spaces several times in your day to keep stress from building up. It is perfect for times when you have to wait. Slow down the exhale: Try making your exhale (out-breath) slightly longer than your inhale (in-breath). If you can, build up to breathing out for twice as long as you breathe in. Slowing down your exhale actually slows down your heartbeat; feel your pulse and see for yourself! Breathe into the centre of your body: Relax your chest and abdomen, and lightly rest your hands on the sides of your lower ribs, just above your waist. See if you can feel the fingers moving just a tiny bit as you breathe. It may be helpful to imagine the air filling up the bottom of your lungs first, much like a bowl would fill up starting from the bottom. Suffering is an inevitable part of life as we are all subject to loss including illness, aging, and eventually death. An aspect of being human is to encounter experiences that are imperfect and unsatisfactory. Compounding this is that we desire certain things and crave others, but find the satisfaction from getting what we want is short-lived. Buddhism theorizes that it is our relationship to these experiences that will largely determine the perception and degree of suffering. Resisting what is being experienced only adds an additional layer of suffering and is a root cause for further anguish and stress. As Shinzen Young (2004) points out, "suffering equals pain multiplied by resistance" (p. 32). For example, if one experiences sadness or back pain for any length of time and then worries that it will never get better, this makes the situation worse.

We have a strong tendency to want to hold on to and repeat things that are being perceived as pleasant, avoid those that are unpleasant, and ignore things that are neutral. But continuing attempts to increase a sense of pleasure by wanting more of the same thing or looking for something else that could offer similar enjoyment reinforces a sense of dissatisfaction. And grasping that which is transitory, regardless of whether it is pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral, produces states that are observed and experienced as inherently unsatisfying, which causes more suffering. For example, the first bite of a chocolate bar produces a heightened awareness and pleasure of the sense of taste. This quickly diminishes, as thinking recognizes that you only have a finite amount to eat, that you think you'd prefer a different type of chocolate, or that you ate too much and feel sick. The aging process had my full-blown attention. So I started practicing body building at fifty-four. For my sixtieth birthday present to myself, I took my body to another level of fitness and won first place in the NPC Women's Figure Championship in the Age 60 and over category. It was a remarkable moment in my life that I experienced by practicing the principles in this book. Why do I share my story? Because today I have a great appreciation and respect for good health and aging gracefully, but I, like many of you, was not always in that place. Now I cherish every moment of my life and look at each day as a blessing. It's just that straightforward, and anyone can do it. This is what I know. Everything you do or don't do over a lifetime will add up. Trust me. There will be a day when you recognize everything you've ever done or have not done over your lifetime catches up with you. Your name will be on it because you are the owner of your health. I've had countless discussions with many people of all ages about their personal experiences regarding the aging process. My conclusion is that we should start teaching our children as early as possible about the beauty of aging fearlessly and gracefully by taking healthy actions with self-care.

Noticing the slight physical changes in your body as you age enables you to develop a positive mindset early about aging. The importance of taking action by practicing healthy self-care habits early just cannot be underrated. Once you start doing something, it's easier to continue doing it. Take action and things will flow from there. That's why it's important to have a plan for the steps you need to take; it's easier if you know what you're doing first and what step comes next. Decide what is the one thing you can do right now. Then do that one thing. Give it your full attention. Answer that one email, make that first phone call. Start filling in that form. Just clear out one drawer. Put just one thing on eBay. Paint one wall. Sign up for that class. Write the first paragraph. Book the flight. Arrange to meet. Sign up to that internet dating site. Get your running shoes on and get out the door! All sorts of good things can happen once you get started.