Before making a decision, will it provide details based on what it suspects the decision-maker may want to review? Does it have a related research report or polling results, for example? Is the data going to be considered credible? Is it possible to consult the company or a staff member of the organization, or does the community have access to the individuals who will be consulted when the decision is made? Will the company represent constituencies that will be listened to by the decision-maker while taking the decision? If not, can it partner with someone who does it, or can it change what the key factors are? This is a list I usually give every client I accept. It will direct you to answer the most troubling question: Why does it always happen to me? If you've ever wondered why success in your life or company is so difficult for you, go through this list. Label the things which best fit you. This process is by no means a smooth one; Nevertheless, in general he develops less fear of the attitudes he discovers within his experience; As these changes take place, he feels himself to be more spontaneous in his attitudes and behavior; He slowly discovers that what he wishes to be has shifted to a point where it is a more achievable goal, and that actually he is himself changed to a degree which brings him much more in accord with his ideal. His inner life becomes more comfortable, more free of tension. This would seem to be the clinical description of the changes in self during therapy, as revealed by objective studies. Change in the Manner of Perception Another cluster of phenomena which exhibit movement or change during therapy all have to do with a process of increased differentiation in the perceptual field. These phenomena could have been dealt with under the heading of movement in learning, since learning is essentially an increased differentiation of the field (200, p. They could have been called the development of a more adequate process of thinking, or change in the direction of a more soundly based reasoning.

Look for areas that are blocked, where you must struggle to get what you want or where you must detour or struggle to move from one area to another. Look at your closets and cupboards and your garage. Can you easily retrieve things, or do you experience another struggle? Are there doorways or areas where you must move things out of the way to just walk through? By when will you have cleared these areas? Also look for a Five Element Regenerative (Destructive) Cycle, where one element is out of balance and another element continues to contribute to that imbalance. A destructive cycle is also a commitment to struggle, although a very subtle commitment, one that you may not yet be aware that you have. Schedule thirty minutes to focus on this information. Reread the section on the Five Elements and walk around your living space noting which elements are present and which are missing in each Ba-gua area. Keep track in your Travel Log. Carry this list for a week or two with you, and note patterns of thought that keep repeating. Often, it breaks down by merely being conscious of a restrictive pattern of thinking. Then, create an action plan for overcoming those blocks, one block at a time. Again, you don't have to use a complete NLP template on a small issue like, for example, occasional arrogance. You may use pure dissociation and potential timing to overcome relatively minor behavioral disturbances. Here are 13 effective ways of doing away with self-doubt: Start with conscientiousness. Awareness of oneself is a vital phase in overcoming self-doubt. The more you are conscious of yourself, the more you can understand what holds you back, and the more motivated you are to do something about that. Check the source.

The essential point about therapy, when viewed from this angle, is that the way the client perceives the objects in his phenomenal field -- his experiences, his feelings, his self, other persons, his environment -- undergoes change in the direction of increased differentiation. This is an important way of looking at therapy, and it is unfortunate that as yet there is too little research in this field, except some research on perception of the self, already mentioned, and the study by Beier (21), noted below. Characteristically the client changes from high-level abstractions to more differentiated perceptions, from wide generalizations to limited generalizations closely rooted in primary experiences. The client who commences therapy with the stated feeling that he is a hopeless and useless person comes, during therapy, to experience himself as indeed useless at times, but at other times showing positive qualities, at still other times exhibiting negative aggression. He experiences himself as being quite variable in functioning -- in short, as a person who is neither all black nor all white, but an interesting collection of varying shades of gray. He finds it much easier, as has been indicated, to accept this more differentiated person. Or take the client whose expressed attitude, early in therapy, is that My mother is a bitch! During therapy she begins to perceive in differentiated fashion her varied experiences of her mother. Her mother rejected her in childhood, but occasionally indulged her; The relationship with mother in childhood is examined and differentiated from the relationship with mother today. The solution may be as simple as moving some objects yourself, or it may require a full feng shui consultation. Roger, a management consultant, said, Over the last two years I had experienced several unpleasant and expensive surprises in dealing with my clients. I often said that life is a series of challenges and you must struggle to surmount them. A feng shui look at my office revealed that my back was to the door. People and situations could sneak up and challenge me, and they did. I had to rise from my position to address them. Turning my desk was not an option, so we placed a mirror on top of my computer monitor and on the wall in front of my workspace. Now whichever way I sit, I can see the doorway in my peripheral vision and am immediately aware when someone approaches. Amazingly, the surprises with my clients stopped as well. Roger shared with me that in his home he realized there were things stored behind many of the doors, reducing the opening space.

Spend some time digging profoundly and finding the source of your insecurity. This might also have its roots in a rational and healthy sense of caution that took a wrong turn. Comprehend where negativity comes from so that you can remove it from your mind and being. Get to know the triggers. The items that cause you to feel self-doubt and other negative emotions are messengers of who you are from the unhealed parts. Identifying the causes requires both compassion and study, so you can handle them-the first step in taking control of self-doubt. Look for templates. We're all prone to do things familiarly. What's Secure? What worked in advance? As this process goes on, the overall generalization, Mother is a bitch and I can't possibly get on with her, is seen to be quite inadequate to fit the complex facts of primary experience. With almost every client this process can be observed. He moves from generalizations which have been found unsatisfactory for guiding his life, to an examination of the rich primary experiences upon which they are based, a movement which exposes the falsity of many of his generalizations, and provides a basis for new and more adequate abstractions. He is customarily in the process of formulating these new guides for himself as therapy concludes. Certainly in the most successful therapy he has also internalized the desirability of building more closely on direct experience, particularly when the guides he has been using for his living prove questionable. It is obvious that this process does not just happen. It is facilitated by the special conditions of the therapeutic relationship -- the complete freedom to explore every portion of the perceptual field, and the complete freedom from threat to the self which the client-centered therapist in particular provides. The reader will have noted that what we have been saying is in basic accord with some of the fundamental thinking in semantics (81, 98, 105). Putting some of these same thoughts in semantic terminology, we may say that the client has been living by a map. In therapy he discovers first of all that the map is not the territory -- that the experiential territory is very different, and far more complex.

As a result he struggled to move through some doorways and always struggled while bringing in groceries or other packages. Roger realized that both his verbal comments and having no other options in the arrangement of his office revealed his commitment to struggling in his work and his life. Opening up these doorways, expanding his awareness, and releasing his old commitment literally opened up the flow. Two years later his lack of expensive challenges and his improved finances revealed the inflow of abundance into his life. Whirlpools are spinning energy, where challenges arrive demanding your attention before you have recognized and addressed the prior situation. Such spinning energy throws you off balance, forcing you to take some sort of action when you are literally standing on one foot, in a contracted state, and being bumped by someone or something else. The consequences of a whirlpool appear life-threatening, and you may contract or clamp down on all of your currents to avoid them. You are overloaded with information and demands from various sources regarding which way to turn, where to invest your savings, which important client to contact first, what asset to buy, how to go about reducing your debt load, which demand of your boss's to work on first, and many more. A whirlpool of information eventually leads to inaction and missed financial opportunities. Any time you are spinning, unable to make a decision or move forward, you are experiencing a whirlpool of energy. The better you can grasp not only particular causes but the whole meaning of your self-doubt, the more you can start picking up patterns, evaluating your past behavior, and making changes to expand on what works and removing what isn't. Work your mind over again. Start reworking the mind to replace positive affirmations with self-defeating feelings. Before they take hold, really start listening to your self-talk and intercepting negative messages. Counteract them with reminders of your positive attributes, ambitions, and achievements. Keep a list to recall if you need it. Find motivation. Another way of counteracting self-doubtful feelings is by engaging with your intent and motivation. Recall why you're doing what you're doing and suggest that you give it your best. Seek your inspiration inside and watch your self-doubt eliminate.