Is it important to you to have ample time to enjoy life? Is it important to you to be helping others through your work, no matter how many hours of the week it takes? Make a list of what you're naturally good at and love to do. Teaching people how to play tennis? Working with animals? Decluttering homes and offices? Cooking French cuisine? Is there a dream job in there somewhere? Are such objects types or tokens? In this account, everything is a token. Consider this case. Today, at 11 a.m., I go from Kendall Square to Harvard Square by train. Which train do I take? The Red Line. Then I walk back. I have lunch and, at 4 p.m., I move back from Kendall Square to Harvard Square. Which train do I take this time? The Red Line. On the one hand, I take the same train. On the other hand, I do not.

In some sense, the Kendall Square to Harvard Square Red Line train exists. However, it is also true that today's 11 a.m. train is different from yesterday's 4 p.m. train. The key point is that, between the alleged Galilean object and the real object, a difference analogous to that between the ideal Red Line and the 11 a.m. train from Kendall Square to Harvard Square holds. The former is abstract, atemporal, and absolute. It does not carry any passengers. The latter takes place every time I board it. It is temporally located. It consumes energy. It takes time to complete, due to nomological constraints. It is dirty and full of passengers. The exact times of its arrival and departure can vary. The former train is only an immaterial abstraction concocted by linguistic practice. The example of the train is informative. I can say that I take the same train or that I take two different trains. I can say, "I take the same train every morning," and that is fine. Alternatively, I can say, "I took the 11 a.m. train on June 24, 2014 and it was much cleaner than the 4 p.m.

train on June 25," and that is fine too. The former case is akin to the Galilean object and the latter to the actual one. The spread object is like the train one gets aboard between two stations at a specific time. If one did not pay for the ticket, in some sense, no actual train would occur: only gears, wheels, engines, and carriages. However, if one pays for the ticket, in this metaphor, the train will occur. The object is singled out and a process runs from the stuff in the environment up to your neural structure. The causal run from the environment up to your nervous system singles out a certain object-train in the world. Every time one looks at a certain causal configuration, the corresponding object takes place. A train starts and gets to its destination. A circuit closes and a fridge light is switched on. If you're clear about the personal benefits of mindfulness, and practise mindfulness for your own benefit, that's great. However, you can also experiment with practising mindfulness for others. Shifting your intention can make the experience more enjoyable. Just like if you do some volunteer work, you're doing the work to help others, so you can practise mindfulness meditation in a way that's of service to others. How does mindfulness benefit others? Well, the more you practise mindfulness, the more likely you are to be kind, attentive and helpful to others. You'll probably be less snappy and irritable. You'll be in control of your temper and have the energy and willingness to help others with their difficulties. All these qualities are not just great for you - they're great for anyone you come into contact with. Once upon a time, a farmer's donkey fell into a well.

The farmer tried all sorts of different ways to get the donkey out, to no avail. Eventually and regrettably he gave up. The well needed filling up anyway, so he decided to bury the donkey. He convinced himself that the donkey wouldn't suffer any longer. He began shovelling soil into the well. At first the donkey was scared and brayed loudly, but then calmed down and was silent. After shovelling for a while, the farmer decided to take a closer look inside, using a torch. The donkey was alive, and closer to the top of the well. Each time the farmer threw mud onto the donkey, he shook it off his back and stepped up onto the soil. Before long the donkey was able to step out of the well and into safety, as if nothing had happened. The donkey took small, easy steps to stay alive. If the donkey had thought, 'Oh no, I have no hope, I'm going to die,' then the donkey would have been buried. With small daily steps in practising mindfulness, you can come up with creative solutions to life's challenges too. Oftentimes, the best thing is what you have right now. They make childish choices and do not take on the responsibilities of manhood. They are forty and haven't even made the transition into being a grown-up. On the other hand, there are some young dudes I've met who have been forced to make the transition into manhood much earlier than they wanted or should have had to; as early as twelve or thirteen years old. I would prefer that you choose not to have sex at this point in your life, but that's your choice to make. I have repeatedly said I would always have your back, and I'm not going to disappear just because you didn't follow my advice. But, listen very closely to what I'm about to tell you.

If you are going to choose to participate in "adult" or "manhood" based activities, like having sex or driving a car, then you have to be responsible in your choices regarding those activities. Like I've said to you before, no matter what you choose to do in your life, if you are going to do it, then do it the right way. Sex requires adult, responsible choices. So no more mistakes of a sexual nature, please. And yet they are told to "Just do it." They are shamed for their weight and shown photoshopped models on magazine covers as the "ideal" they should aspire to. Beyond that, there are the societal expectations to have fancier cars, nicer houses, bigger paychecks, better-looking spouses, and smarter children. I'm calling bullshit on all that. This is about you and bettering your life by playing the hand you've been dealt to the best of your ability. Yes, you can achieve a great deal by being passionate and inspired to succeed; you can exceed all expectations not just with your body, but with your career, happiness, relationships, and more. But it is still worth comprehending the reality of your situation. There is merit in aiming high, because if you only make it three-quarters of the way to your goal, you're still overjoyed at how much you've accomplished. But do not aim so high--do not quest for the unattainable--if failure to become Batwoman or Wonder Man would crush your will to continue. Seek greatness on your own terms. As I reflect on the week's events, I feel the sadness, sorrow, and guilt seeping through the chambers of my heart. I know that in the last few years of my life, I have let people dictate my schedule, circumstances rule my days, and insecurity overwhelm my world; my personal barrier has been left largely unattended. I let my boundaries be obliterated, allowing unimpeded access to everything and everyone regardless of intent. Standing here now, I know that I have let myself become surrounded by a terrifying amalgamation of mental garbage that has no other purpose but to demean and degrade me. I see that I sit in the middle of this bubble without barriers, the commander-in-chief watching all I value in life disintegrate before my very eyes. I can feel myself suffocating as terrifying thoughts, negative emotions, and physical ailments close in on me quickly; if I don't take out that garbage, I sense disaster on the horizon for sure. I watch as the largest bubbles are pushed up onto the jagged rocks; some do not survive.