Even then, however, you may need herbal, nutritional, or hormonal support. I think I can pick them out, but I'm not totally sure. There are adult children with their children in the audience with me, watching Grandma, or possibly Great-Grandma, having fun, making something beautiful, and belonging. Sitting in that auditorium filled with Christmas music, I am hit with a memory of driving along a small country road in France. It is summer, and in my memory, the landscape is a dense tangle of green with tall narrow trees lining the roadside. But that might be from an image from a long-ago postcard collection. My parents had taken my college-aged sister and me to France for the wedding of longtime family friends. To pass the time as we drove south, my sister and I sang in the back seat. Silly old camp songs, or new folk tunes that we both had memorized. We knew my mom loved this. But, for whatever unexplainable reason, when she asked to join us, we tortured her by refusing to sing anymore. We have to take a moment to recap all of the exciting, emotional events that plunged us into despair or had us riding an emotional high. It's exhausting, isn't it? To live a life where anything can change at a moment's notice. At the mouth of a co-worker talking behind your back. At the praise of your boss during a meeting and then the cafe's lack of oat milk in the next thirty minutes. Stoicism may seem cold to our soft, emotional beings, but it is a kind of freedom. We live shackled to the way we feel. We think we have no control over the breaks in the waves, but we do, and we have no idea how to captain our own ship. Stoicism paves the way for deciding for yourself that your future is going to be bright, and you're going to make it that way.

Stoicism is the path that says, This is what I'm doing, and nothing can stop me, no matter what annoying inconvenience comes next to ruin me. And if your hormones are already imbalanced, perimenopause can be the extra challenge that produces a host of new problems, including Chantelle's symptoms of exhaustion, mental fog, memory problems, loss of sex drive, and weight gain. However, age wasn't the only issue. diet was also stressing her system with too many carbs and not enough protein or healthy fats. granola bar might sound healthy but it's really little more than a candy bar--a very sweet, starchy snack that metabolizes into sugar very quickly. By starting her day with something sweet, Chantelle was cuing her metabolism to begin a pattern of blood sugar spikes and crashes that imbalanced both her insulin levels and her stress hormones. Chantelle's lunchtime salad might have been a healthy choice if she had added some lean, high-quality protein (chicken, beef, fish, nuts, seeds, or goat cheese) and some healthy fats (olive oil, flaxseed oil, or walnut oil). But a plain salad with no dressing is actually not nourishing enough by itself. We need to include protein and fats in every meal or snack to maintain a healthy blood-sugar level. Her evening meal posed the same problem. Moderate amounts of whole-wheat pasta or brown rice might be healthy choices but only if they're accompanied by protein and healthy fats. I hope that one of the blessings of dementia will be that she might forget that cruelty. And I vow to try my best to play and sing with her--without crying. I don't much care about the research at this moment. I simply hope that if this journey catches me in it one day, my boys will remember how much I love to sing. If you had peered through the giant windows of the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee's Kenilworth Gallery in June 2018, you would have seen Molly and Charlie, two undergraduate art majors, hovering around the food table, nervously rearranging the cups and napkins, the iced tea and lemonade. Charlie is a jewelry major with a bold, short shock of blonde hair. The two had been working on this exhibit for months, and it was finally happening. Invitations were out. Artwork had been gathered and hung.

Posters had been designed, printed, and taped in elevators at senior living communities on Milwaukee's east side and in the windows of local merchants by a team of elders at Eastcastle Place. If you want to put your hands on the wheel of your life, of your success, of your future, you should try being the captain for a change. You should try deciding how you're going to feel and then feeling that way. Welcome to a stoic lifestyle. As you've probably already guessed, there are mental models that work better for some people and mental models that work better for others. For some, the Circle of Competency mental model might strike a chord and change the whole trajectory of their life. Another person might read about the same mental model and not feel affected at all. We each have a unique mindset, learning style, and goal, which means we each need a different combination of mental models to get us there. Mental models are a unique tool in that you can pick and choose which models pair together well to accomplish your individual goals. You can even construct your own worldview to add to the mix. Developing your own toolkit of mental models, or even building your own mental model, will work best to achieve your goals because the more individualized your tools, the greater they will work for your individual outcome. In addition, pasta contains gluten, to which many people are sensitive. Gluten sensitivity can create a whole new set of stresses on your system, leading to additional hormonal imbalance. Chantelle was also waiting far too long between meals. To maintain steady levels of blood sugar and healthy insulin levels, you want to eat small meals or snacks every three to four hours, with some protein and some healthy fat in every meal or snack. Chantelle's lack of sleep was causing still more problems. Although your body can adapt to an occasional night of short sleep, you want to be sure to get seven to nine hours at least five nights out of seven--and seven nights out of seven is even better. Her stress hormones were being thrown off by insufficient sleep, which in turn contributed to imbalance in both her insulin levels and her sex hormones. The herbal remedies I prescribed would help reestablish that balance. I suggested some natural sleep aids that could help Chantelle sleep until that happened.

I explained all of this to Chantelle. This was the Flourish Fest, an annual exhibit featuring a year's worth of collaborative work of elders and art students from the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee. Molly and Charlie had a lot to be nervous about. The gallery is on a busy one-way street, and the shuttles from the care homes were pulling over on the opposite side, leading to a nerve-racking parade of people with walkers, canes, and wheelchairs in the middle of a block in a city where drivers do not believe in stopping for pedestrians. But gradually, and without incident, the elders made their way up the ramp into the gallery space and into the embrace of an arts student. Christina, a senior who had graduated just a few weeks earlier, welcomed her friends and neighbors from Ovation Chai Point, where she had been living for the past year, designing and offering arts programming in exchange for room and board as part of the Student Artist in Residence (SAIR) program. The last thing I expected to be doing in my senior year of college was to be living in a senior living community, Christina said. I don't know that I could have done what Christina did when I was in college. Even though I loved visiting my grandmother and her friends, I went home at the end of the day. The pacing and orientation of my days were still fast and dominated by youth. But with projects like Penelope and Islands of Milwaukee, I observed firsthand the budding connections between the elders and students--connections that ended abruptly when grades were posted for the semester. Building a mental model might seem like a daunting task. So far, we've seen billionaire investors, inventors, athletes, and even Navy SEALs coming up with, and using, their own mental models. But you don't have to be famous, worth billions, or even brilliant, to design a mental model that will work specifically and uniquely for your purposes in your life. We're going to break down this project into a definition, a series of steps, and a list of tips. you know it, you'll be lumped along with the businessmen worth billions and the spaceship phenomenons. We'll start by renaming what a mental model is. After five articles of nothing but examples of mental models, the actual, technical definition might have snuck out the backdoor. Remember that a mental model is simply an image of the world as you see it that affects the way you make decisions and react to it. It's a simple concept that can expand to include self-discipline, work habits, and other important tactics to accomplish your goals.

Now that you know a little bit more about mental models after reading this article, you'll want to start by identifying the mental models that you currently operate with. Then I suggested that she follow my 28-day plan: a healthy diet, appropriate supplements, moderate exercise, and restful sleep. If the plan didn't work, I told her, we might consider some bioidentical hormones. But Chantelle wasn't ready to make so many changes. Honestly, I'm just overwhelmed, she told me. I probably should do all these things you're talking about. But I just don't think I can. I understand, I told her. And I know I'm asking a lot. But if you can manage this approach, your health will improve, you'll feel more optimistic, and you'll have more stamina. As you begin to make these changes, they get easier and easier. Even if students genuinely wanted to maintain the relationships, winter break at home or summer jobs got in the way. The SAIR program was born out of the hope that the longer a student stayed engaged with an elder community, the deeper the learning and relationships would be on both sides of what, in the United States, has become a cavernous generational divide. Ageism and negative stereotypes of living beyond midlife are ubiquitous and stubborn, like stains so worn into the fabric of culture that we don't notice them anymore. Negative views of aging undergird inequities in nearly every corner of our lives, from career paths and the workplace, to housing, medical care, media representations, and educational systems. And their impact on individual health and well-being can be profound. There will be an enormous gap between the staffing needed to serve the growing aging population and the numbers of people who pursue studies in these fields--from clinical practitioners (dentists, nurses, doctors, social workers) to administrators and frontline staff doing the crucial work of tending to daily physical needs and nurturing emotional well-being. To recruit new staff, the aging care field must fight both low pay and the assumption that working with older adults is depressing and devoid of the satisfaction of a cure. In the United States, market forces clearly aren't working when scores of geriatricians are needed to serve a burgeoning population, yet are remarkably scarce and earn roughly half as much as a cardiologist. Although the age demographics of Facearticle are trending upward, a study in 2014 analyzed eighty-four groups on Facearticle with a mean age of twenty-nine.