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And on the cycle runs. So what is to be done? We have a four-step plan that allows you to eliminate 90 percent of toxic worry from your life without the use of medication. Here it is. Step one is the most important. It is to connect with a person you trust and like. As an old teacher of ours used to say, It is fine to worry, just never worry alone! Worrying alone intensifies the worry. One possibility is that since the pathological liars had fewer brain cells (the gray matter) fueling their prefrontal cortex (an area crucial to distinguishing between right and wrong), they find it harder to take morality into account, making it easier for them to lie. But that's not all. You might wonder about the extra space that pathological liars must have in their skulls since they have so much less gray matter. Yang and her colleagues also found that pathological liars had 22 to 26 percent more white matter in the prefrontal cortex than non-pathological liars. With more white matter (remember, this is what links the gray matter), pathological liars are likely able to make more connections between different memories and ideas, and this increased connectivity and access to the world of associations stored in their gray matter might be the secret ingredient that makes them natural liars. If we extrapolate these findings to the general population, we might say that higher brain connectivity could make it easier for any of us to lie and at the same time think of ourselves as honorable creatures. After all, more connected brains have more avenues to explore when it comes to interpreting and explaining dubious events--and perhaps this is a crucial element in the rationalization of our dishonest acts. More Creativity Equals More Money These findings made me wonder whether increased white matter could be linked to both increased lying and increased creativity. After all, people who have more connections among their different brain parts and more associations are presumably also more creative. When you have success seeing something, make sure to take note of it. What were you feeling in your body?

What layers in your aura felt open or closed? This will help you get back to that place faster in the future. The more energized and expanded your aura is, the more likely you are to see. Some of the tips from articles 5 and 6 , such as putting on your favorite music and dancing, doing a grounding exercise, or having a good laugh with a friend, are really helpful. Whatever you can do to get your root and sacral chakras open will help with the following exercises. SIMPLE STEPS TO SEEING ANOTHER'S AURA Make sure your friend is on board and understands the intention of this viewing exercise. While good intentions are usually implied with friends, the more direct you are, the stronger the joint intention can be. Because when we set extremely high expectations for ourselves, and we live unquestionably by those expectations, we don't allow room for error. But the thing is, our errors can teach us the most valuable lessons and give us the impulse to move forward. On the other hand, when our id is out of control, we may take too many risks, but not in the smartest way. Such an approach can lead to failure after failure and eventually to frustration and low self-esteem. People with strong egos are capable of dealing with their id's impulses and their superego's requests to maintain the status quo and still dare to take smart risks. Choosing to see failure as a lesson is a choice, one we can get in the habit of making, but only if we are willing to work hard enough on redefining ourselves in the face of failure over and over again. This is a quality of those who I consider to be doers. Dreamers and Doers Dreamers are those who love to plan their perfect future lives. They have articles filled with brilliant ideas, action steps, and rough, but promising, sketches. Worrying with a friend usually converts the worry into good worry. Don't turn away from your intimate partner when you are worried.

Turn to her. Turn to him. Think of how you feel if you are alone in the dark in a huge room. You feel frightened, even paranoid. But if you are in that same room in the dark with a friend, you feel less fear. Your feeling of vulnerability all but disappears. You feel in control. Modern life has ushered in such a raft of worry because so many people are worrying alone. To test this possible link between creativity and dishonesty, Francesca Gino and I carried out a series of studies. True to the nature of creativity itself, we approached the question from a variety of angles, starting with a relatively simple approach. When our participants showed up at the lab, we informed them that they would answer some questions followed by a computerized task. The question set included many irrelevant questions about their general experiences and habits (these filler questions were designed to obscure the real intent of the study) and three types of questions that were the focus of the study. In the first set of questions, we asked the participants to indicate to what degree they would describe themselves using some creative adjectives (insightful, inventive, original, resourceful, unconventional, and so on). In the second, we asked them to tell us how often they engage in seventy-seven different activities, some of which require more creativity and some less (bowling, skiing, skydiving, painting, writing, and so forth). In the third and last set of questions, we asked participants to rate how much they identified with statements such as I have a lot of creative ideas, I prefer tasks that enable me to think creatively, I like to do things in an original way, and other similar statements. Once the participants completed the personality measures, we asked them to complete the dots task, which was presumably unconnected to the questions. In case you don't recall this task, flip back to The What- the- Hell Effect in article 5, Why Wearing Fakes Make Us Cheat More. What do you think happened? This is the foundation for creating a unified field. Ask your friend to sit in front of a light-colored wall, preferably white without patterns.

Seat yourself about six feet away to make sure you are outside their aura. If there is a specific type of music that relaxes you, feel free to play it during this exercise. Now close your eyes and relax your body as if you were going into a deep meditative state. I suggest starting with the root grounding exercise here . This will allow both of you to expand your fields and create a strong pulsation, which is easier to see. Once you have grounded and created a deep presence in your body, you can begin to open your eyes. It's important to keep your awareness inward and use soft gazing to view the aura. Imagine you are looking through your friend and that the wall is no longer there. They have all the motivation, but also, all the excuses not to execute
yet! Doers not only come up with dope ideas, but they also execute them instead of waiting for others to make them happen. They don't believe in excuses or wait for the perfect moment. They know there is no such thing. They believe in the art of trying and failing, and trying again. What differentiates dreamers from doers? You guessed it: courage. Personally, I like to surround myself with doers. They motivate me to spend less time dreaming and more time building. And don't get me wrong, dreaming big was the first step to getting where I am today, so by all means dream, but it is doing that made my dream a reality. Most of the tragedies such as Columbine that leave people wondering how this could happen share one cause: human disconnection. People who feel alone and rejected do bad things.

At a more superficial level, if you get in the habit of sharing your worries with people you like and respect, you will rarely suffer toxic worry for any significant amount of time, and you will rarely feel overcome in your imagination by the stresses of life. Step two in this process is to get the facts. Toxic worry is usually based on wrong information or lack of information. If you see a mole on your forearm, go to the doctor, don't just brood and worry that you have a melanoma. If your business is in trouble, hire a consultant. Don't just imagine doom. And if your marriage is in trouble, talk with your spouse, don't isolate yourself in angry, lonely, worried thinking. Let your mate become your chief ally in getting the facts. Would participants who chose a large number of creative adjectives, engaged in creative activities more frequently, and viewed themselves as more creative cheat more, less, or about the same as the participants who were not as creative? We found that participants who clicked the more-on-right button (the one with the higher payout) more often tended to be the same people who scored higher on all three creativity measures. Moreover, the difference between more and less creative individuals was most pronounced in the cases where the difference in the number of dots on the right and left sides was relatively small. This suggested that the difference between creative and less creative individuals comes into play mostly when there is ambiguity in the situation at hand and, with it, more room for justification. When there was an obvious difference between the number of dots on the two sides of the diagonal, the participants simply had to decide whether to lie or not. But when the trials were more ambiguous and it was harder to tell if there were more dots to the right or the left of the diagonal, creativity kicked into action--along with more cheating. The more creative the individuals, the better they were at explaining to themselves why there were more dots to the right of the diagonal (the side with the higher reward). Put simply, the link between creativity and dishonesty seems related to the ability to tell ourselves stories about how we are doing the right thing, even when we are not. The more creative we are, the more we are able to come up with good stories that help us justify our selfish interests. Does Intelligence Matter? This allows you to use your long-distance, peripheral vision to see. You can rest your eyesight on your friend's forehead, but do not focus on it.