Frequency is how often you practice. This state is referred to as the depressive position. If we can reach this position in which we accept gray areas in our lives, each other, and ourselves, we can think differently about our hostility. For example, if being a Clot is your way to protect yourself, it might help to learn that this attitude and behavior is not a permanent part of your character, but a misstep in your development that can be repaired. If you put your weapons down, you'll likely see the world do the same. Perhaps in this way we reconcile with the world, one relationship at a time. Unfortunately, most people caught in Clotish routines have no inkling that anything is wrong until it stops working in their favor, despite having seemed to work well in the past. Our acting-out behaviors so effectively distract us from anxiety, we can't imagine anything needs changing. We have no idea how afraid we are. And this unconscious fear of being vulnerable disallows change of any kind. Equally destructive is the possibility that our underlying fear drives us to change quickly, compulsively, and unreflectively, without allowing a new situation to prove worthwhile. Corporations also have the right to economic freedom, too. Companies can provide unhealthy substances, and Americans can choose to consume them. Similarly, private insurance companies should have the freedom not to cover people who refuse to give up their vices. Also, the rest of the American people should also have the right to not pay for other people's bad decisions. There are so many ways to prevent disease, so why aren't we doing more? Earlier on, I mentioned two viruses, HPV and HBV, that, if prevented, could potentially save 60,000 people from being diagnosed with cancer every year. We have vaccines against these viruses, and most of the time, they are free. So, despite the good news, why haven't more people gotten them? Unfortunately, despite our medical advances in vaccinations and treatments, fake news and dangerous myths about vaccines are running rampant in our communities.

In 2019 measles, once considered eradicated in the United States, reappeared in emergency outbreaks throughout the country. After all, antibiotics were widely used in agriculture, which was prominent in Ontario. Couldn't the flow of antibiotics through sewage and water channels have contaminated the soil? Wright knew Northern Ontario like the back of his hand. He knew that the area was not contaminated and that the bacteria in his study were resistant for other reasons. There was no reason to expect a high exposure of antibiotics in that region where his soil samples had come from. The problem: he didn't have proof. And there the matter stood until 2008. Wright was in San Diego attending a conference on microbiology. It was a meeting he remembers well. The Southern California sun sat in a cloudless blue sky, and with its beaches and waterfront, and the expanse of the Pacific Ocean stretching out from its docks and piers, San Diego was absolutely beautiful. By now it should be clear that the two- factor approach to defining self- esteem is considerably superior to unidimensional understandings based on either competence or worthiness alone. In addition to avoiding the pitfal s to which other approaches are prone, another benefit this way of thinking about self- esteem offers is that it shows the dynamic character of self- esteem. This dimension of self- esteem, for example, reveals the important fact that there are four basic types of self- esteem to keep in mind. Since each type has two levels, the two- factor approach also helps account for all the different ways in which self- esteem may be expressed by people and their problems. Since people have been studying self- esteem for more than a century, it is not surprising that there are a good number of theories about what self- esteem does and why it is so important. Although I detail many of them elsewhere (Mruk, 2013a), they can be grouped into three general types: those that focus on the maintenance of the self or self- protection, the ability to control one's experience and behavior or self- control, and growth or self- expansion. While they all take into account the importance of self- esteem in relation to personal and interpersonal well- being, or the lack of it, each approach makes a unique contribution to our understanding of self- esteem because each one emphasizes different dimensions of it. The first general perspective on self- esteem to emerge may be described as maintenance theories because they all focus on the formation of the self, the importance of personal identity, and the way self- esteem protects both. The theory that William James offered is of this type.

However, Susan Harter (1999) developed a far more elaborate and modern version. Duration is how long you practice for, and Extent is the period of time have you been practicing -a day, a week, a month, or years. Our most valuable equipment to work with as we seek to attain timeless wisdom is our faculties, our energy, our capacity to apply intelligence and effort. We have a physical body, which moves us through the world and is always anchored in the present moment. We also have faculties beyond the physical. We have the vast, powerful and fine inner instrument of our mind and our heart. Manas is the interpretive function of the mind. What does it interpret? The sense impressions: all sounds, touch, sights, tastes and smells. The impressions are neutral, and they are being received constantly. Because Manas only deals in sense impressions, these can only be after something has been experienced. Once you can see what drives your behavior, the next step is to see how it manifests in you acting like a Clot. In the realm of psychotherapy and analysis, the term acting out refers to any behavior that serves as a substitute for remembering past events. 10 We sometimes act like Clots to suppress unpleasant memories, which may include experiences of trauma. In his seminal paper, Remembering, Repeating, and Working Through, Sigmund Freud introduced the concepts of the repetition compulsion and offered a systematic definition for acting out. Pointing to the relationship between memory and repetition, Freud wrote: The patient does not remember anything of what he has forgotten and repressed but acts it out. He reproduces it not as a memory but as an action; he repeats it, without, of course, knowing that he is repeating it - he cannot escape from the compulsion to repeat; and in the end we understand that this is his way of remembering. 11

Freud went on to introduce the term agieren to describe what happened when a client named Dora prematurely ended her treatment. Despite robust research dispelling the myths and falsities spread about vaccinations, we are seeing more and more parents preventing their children from being vaccinated, which will ultimately lead to disease and death. In fact, one in four people who become infected by the measles virus will need an expensive hospitalization. Our society has taken a step backward, and we are spending millions of dollars combating a virus that we had declared gone in 2000, all because of the choice not to vaccinate. A little less than ten years ago, the CDC recommended eleven- and twelve-year-old girls receive the HPV vaccine. Since then, the recommendation has expanded to adults. In 2016 and 2017, only about 20 percent of adolescents got the vaccine. There are multiple reasons why: People are concerned about adverse side effects (an unfounded concern. ) Or they might not think their child is at risk; but children become teenagers, and any sexually active person (or even a person only going to third base) is at risk. Perhaps most likely of all: they believe Hollywood faux experts who tell them not to. But the conference stands out in Wright's memory for a different reason. A scientist named Hazel Barton presented a paper about the behavior and properties of bacteria found in ancient caves, far from any human activity. The paper was titled Much Ado About Nothing: Cave Cultivar Collections. 3 This was Gerry Wright's introduction to Barton, a professor at the University of Akron in Ohio. Mesmerized by her presentation, Wright knew instantly that he had found the perfect research partner to answer the big question on his mind: How long have the soil bacteria been resistant? Barton agreed to work with him to figure out if bacteria could become resistant on their own, even when they have never been exposed to antibiotics. And she knew the perfect place to undertake the research. In 1984, over the Memorial Day weekend, while other people were busy enjoying their barbecues and preparing for the start of summer, Dave Allured, an engineer in Colorado, was chasing his big dream. 4 He was hoping to discover a new cave.

Allured and four of his friends had recently been granted a permit to visit a potential cave site in the Guadalupe Mountains in New Mexico. Indeed, she may have written the most comprehensive scholarly work on the development of self- esteem in childhood and adolescence to date. The general view is based on several principles. One is that human development truly is a psychosocial process, which means that mental and social processes work together to create something-- in this case, a self. It begins in terms of the relationships we have with others starting in infancy and how we respond to them as we develop. This process is characterized by experimenting with various social roles associated with each phase of life, which makes development a social as well as a psychological journey. The second principle involves being exposed to various domains of life at each major stage of the life cycle. In childhood, for instance, school offers a number of challenges with which we must deal in the form of increasingly sophisticated academic, physical, and social opportunities. At each step of the way, the developing person experiences positive and negative feedback from others, has pleasant and unpleasant personal experiences, and notices that some areas of life are more interesting than others. The impressions are always from the past. Much like pulling out files from a drawer, Manas pulls from our sense memories to interpret new experiences. Manas has the power of speech. Manas is what chats away in our head and comments on everything all day long. Manas is the thinking part of the mind that constantly proposes, and counter-proposes, presents one thing after another, makes simple associations until it weaves a web of thoughts circling around. Manas is confident in one moment and full of doubt the next, it craves certainty but can never find it. It can be easily distracted. function of mind is often referred to as The Monkey Mind. In Hinduism it is personified as Indra, in Greek mythology as Hermes, in Roman mythology as Mercury and in Shakespeare as Puck in A Midsummer Night's Dream.