An antimicrobial preservative present in up to 20 percent of consumer products, which releases formaldehyde. Look for diazolidinyl urea or imidazolidinyl urea. Sodium Lauryl Sulfate and Sodium Laureth Sulfate Known skin irritants, so companies will add 1,4-dioxane, a by-product of petrochemicals (and known carcinogen) to help reduce allergic reactions. Thus we go from dependency to dependency to dependency, from birth through adulthood and into old age without ever achieving maturity and self-reliance. The sorrow is that each of us has sufficient God-given power to become self-reliant. In fact, we each use our power. Some of us, through lack of consciousness, use it toward sickness and helplessness; And there are the enlightened ones who use their power within for loving, nurturing, supportive relationships. They are the self-reliant ones, the ones who are creative, prosperous, and healthy. The marvelous fact is, however, that no matter how you misdirected your power yesterday, you can make a complete turnaround today. You can do this by expanding your consciousness, your self-awareness, and tuning into the Spirit that's an integral part of your True Self. But to use this power for your own good and self-reliance, you will have to give up two things: You must give up every bit of self-hate, self-dislike, self-disapproval. A friend of mine figured this out recently when her son pleaded to stop taking piano lessons. She was finally swayed when he told her, Mom, I think playing piano is your goal, not mine. This can be hard to keep in mind, particularly when a student is having problems, but for a goal to work, the child has to own it. Teenagers may resist the practice of goal-setting, particularly if you have been a controlling parent until now (I believe my older son mocked the entire idea the first couple of times I brought it up). However, once they realize that you have turned over a new leaf and want to help them achieve their goals, their trust in your motives will return. And remember, this goal-setting does not have to be conducted like a business meeting.

The best discussions are relaxed, calm, and casual. My favorite conversations take place in the car, on walks, and in all those moments that pop up when you least expect them. Teenagers are not always ready to listen or talk, and sometimes you simply have to be ready to meet them where they are and when their minds and spirits are willing. Be supportive of their goals. You sit with yourself, you move closer to yourself, no matter what's going on. You don't try to get rid of anything--you can still be sad or frustrated or angry. You recognize your humanity and the wide gamut of emotions you might be feeling. When we cultivate maitri toward ourselves, we are also generating equanimity. Equanimity means we are able to be with ourselves and our world without getting caught in for and against, without judging things as right or wrong, without getting caught up in opinions and beliefs and solidly held views about ourselves and our world. Unconditional friendliness is training in being able to settle down with ourselves, just as we are, without labeling our experience as good or bad. We don't need to become too dramatic or despairing about what we see in ourselves. If you could see clearly for one week, and then--boom! It would be better than any drug, any spa, any hammock on a gorgeous island. It would be the optimum thing if you could just see these habits, and just through one week or even one year of clear seeing and perseverance, then be entirely free of suffering. It asks too little of yourself. Because it's only when you hitch your wagon to something larger than yourself that you realize your true potential. Larry article (1973 -) - Computer Scientist, Innovator, Google Co-founder I want to invent things and get them to people and get them to use them, and to benefit the world that way. George Bernard Shaw (1856 - 1950) - American Playwright of Stories like Pygmalion This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one;

Arnold Schwarzenegger (1947 -) - Bodybuilder, Actor, Governor, Co-author of Total Recall For me life is continuously being hungry. The meaning of life is not simply to exist, to survive, but to move ahead, to go up, to achieve, to conquer. Seligman (1947 -) - Psychological Scientist, Author of Learned Optimism The eating patterns that developed from this experiment would horrify the average mother. Sometimes the babies would binge on certain foods - for instance, they might drink up to a quart of milk with one meal and none at the next. One baby ate six hardboiled eggs in addition to a full meal on several occasions. They would eat nothing but fruit and vegetables for a while, and then only carbohydrates or proteins. Their appetites varied greatly from one meal to the next, and in general their meals were far from what is commonly understood by `well-balanced'. Nonetheless, none of the babies vomited or had upset tummies, and they all grew very well and were healthy by any standards. A record was kept of what each baby ate, and over a period of time it was found that they all had an excellent diet. Dr Davis concluded that when a baby needed a specific nutrient he or she would concentrate on the food that supplied the nutrient until the need was met, then change to something else. She later repeated the experiment with older children, including hospital patients, and the results were just as impressive. Let your toddler prepare her own snacks and she will soon handle utensils competently. So, for example, you might be encouraged to practice making charitable attributions about your partner's misdeeds (eg, He only yelled at me in front of the teller because he'd had a stressful day), and you might be discouraged to track how many times this week he accused or rebuffed you. In other words, as Benjamin Franklin advised in Poor Richard's Almanack, Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, and half shut afterwards. Half of all couples, however, don't benefit from this kind of therapy at all,106 and some scientists conjecture that this is because, instead of keeping their eyes half shut, the most troubled couples need to observe how much they have been blaming and rejecting each other. They need to keep their eyes wide open. They need to notice when they are being neglectful or mean. In short, distressed couples need to monitor and acknowledge their problems (even when doing so makes them feel bad or dissatisfied temporarily) so that they can address them.

We may be advised not to sweat the small stuff in our relationships, but the truth is that this stuff may not be small. So when we sugarcoat a fight, overlook a hurt, or bury the hatchet too quickly, we may fail to notice and resolve a major problem surfacing in our marriage and allow the problem to get worse and worse. Researchers have found that couples who are very happy or who have only minor or infrequent problems benefit when they make positive attributions about each other, hold high expectations, and don't monitor hurts or slights. But couples who have major troubles show the opposite pattern. Drink water with and after every meal; Eat slowly and drink water, and you will be satisfied with less food. And, always eat (a little) dessert. Sweets such as a cookie or small portion of low-fat ice cream signal to your brain that the meal is over. Without the sweets, you might not feel satisfied, and an hour or two later you will be foraging in the kitchen for something. Eating too fast is the little brother to overeating. If you have a lot on your mind, are angry or frustrated, or are stressed about time, chances are you will become a speed eater. An invisible starter gun is fired, and many of us then pound the food down; Ever grabbed a bite to go while on a long drive and barely remember eating, because you were speed eating while concentrating on driving? Ever had lunch in the office and your lunch hour shrunk to 10 minutes or less? Draw a line connecting the sentence in the first column to the pattern it exemplifies in the second column. Multiple Choice In this exercise, circle the limited thinking patterns present in each example. There may be more than one right answer. The washing machine breaks down. A mother with twins in diapers says to herself, This always happens.

I can't stand it. The whole day's ruined. Overgeneralization Polarized thinking If you grow up white you might believe you are different from African Americans. If you grow up African-American you might believe you are different from Asians or Hispanics. Jews believe they are different from Catholics, while right-wing conservatives believe they are different from left-wing liberals. Each of our cultures has taught us to believe that we are fundamentally different from the rest. We also adopt prejudices from our families and friends. You're different because you are fat and I am skinny I am smart and you are stupid. I am timid and you are brave. I am passive and you are aggressive. I am loud and you are soft spoken. These beliefs maintain the illusion that we are separate. The ability to thrive as a politician is not always honed along the high road of ethics. A successful politician is skilled in the art of give-and-take, but much too frequently basic ethical values are given away in return for influence or dollars poured into campaign coffers. When that is the case, those politicians must then serve a few whose bottom line is more important than the needs, wishes, and welfare of the many. Almost without exception this unfortunate reality of politics consistently reveals the greatest shortcoming of politicians: the lack of character. The harshest measure of any society is a lack of character in its leaders. But the even sadder consequence is the effect a leader's lack of character has on society.