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It would take an entire article to depict adequately the range of experiences of clinicians. Other coping strategies, however, will allow a person to stay present, which means more control, more empowerment, and less chaos (internally and externally) overall. Increasing internal communication is the first step toward reaching that goal. DID clients sometimes express frustration because parts will not just disappear. Understand that each part that is experienced internally is a part of you, a person with DID. The goal is not to make them disappear, but to create more awareness and cooperation within the system. Awareness will increase gradually over time. There are various ways to make this happen, and it is important to try different techniques to see if a particular one works best. INTERNAL COMMUNICATION TECHNIQUES Writing in a journal is one internal communication technique. People have different styles. I have my cell phone on silent, parameter number two, with a timer set to 45-minutes for this writing block, parameter number three. Nothing but work on this article is done while that timer is on. When it rings, I close up, pay the bill, and leave. These rules make this task's accomplishment inevitable, and I need these rules or else I'll actively avoid the work that must be done. I chose this task because I believe that it, along with a few other things, will make the success of this mission I'm on inevitable as well. Without this 45 minute writing block, if I were to push it to tomorrow, it becomes less inevitable, and if I procrastinate often enough, failure becomes inevitable. Discipline takes the uncertainty of achievement and makes it dramatically more certain. It's uncertainty that prevents many from adopting self-discipline, which does create more certainty, just not for the things they think they want. Iron Sharpening Iron

How to make something habitual Even this truncated account, however, compels the recognition that care of the chronically ill is difficult yet specially rewarding, that who the practitioner is as a person is as essential to care as the personality of the patient, that taking care of those with chronic suffering is far different from what is projected in our society's dominant technological and economic images of health care. The great majority of social science studies of doctoring examine either the socialization of the physician in medical school and residency training or the influence of professional norms and personal preoccupations on the patient-physician encounter (see Hahn and Gaines 1985). They study how physicians learn to deal with uncertainty or with failure (Fox 1959; Bosk 1979). They study problems in the application of technology or ethical dilemmas in practice (Reiser 1978; Veatch 1977). They study the language of care (Mishler 1984) or the transformation of formal textarticle knowledge into the rank-and-file professional's working technical knowledge (Freidson 1986). Like the study of illness experience, studies of the experience of doctoring are principally external accounts, more concerned with the influence of social forces (which are indeed powerful) than with the actual workings of care. Where care is the subject, the relationship between patient and practitioner properly moves to center stage. Practitioners often feel that these externalist academic accounts, for all their analytical power, leave something out that is of vital salience for them: namely, the internal, felt experience of doctoring, the story of what it is like to be a healer. One possibility is to buy a notearticle and make sections for each internal part. Then, when insights come or one part has information to communicate, a person can write it down in that section of the notearticle. A variation of this technique is to buy a notearticle and allow different parts to write in it as they wish. Sometimes the writing will take the form of questions for other parts, sometimes it will just be a way of expressing thoughts and feelings. But if it can take the form of a dialogue with other parts, it can become a very useful way of getting to know the whole self more fully. Increasing awareness also helps to decrease the internal barriers that lead to dissociation and switching. Mapping the system can be another useful technique. Many therapists ask clients to map in the early stages of therapy as a way for both to gain a better understanding of how the system operates. An interesting aspect of this process is that maps tend to change over time;

In session, Mari was asked to place herself in the middle and then allow others to put themselves where they felt they belonged. To confine discipline to a single area of your life is to practice not being disciplined in every other area of your life. What you practice outside of your single focus will eventually invade that area. When you're starting a workout program, aim to train once a week. If you presently train once a month, don't launch full bore into a new program, which for most programs means a four-day split. Just get in the habit of doing something because something is better than nothing. Begin training once a week for a month. Thereafter, add a workout to your training week. Gradually build to the full four-day-a-week program. This ensures that you'll be ready for four days of training. It shouldn't be an incredible shock to your system. Physicians have turned to fiction and essay to convey this inner world of the clinician. The ethnography of the physician's care lags far behind the phenomenological description of the experience of illness. We know more about the patient than the healer. We do not possess an adequate scientific language to capture the essence of the doctor's experience. What the doctor feels is most at stake--what is most relevant to practice--slips through our crude analytical grids. An examination of the meanings of chronic illness would be dangerously incomplete without the voice of the healer, the practitioner's account. In articles 7, 9, and 11, I have briefly featured physicians whose practice has either facilitated or impeded the care of the chronically ill. Now I write of care from the perspective of the practitioner. Inasmuch as I share this experience, this is my perspective, too.

Perhaps if we can get it right from the healer's point of view, we can achieve a higher degree of discrimination in our understanding of what makes care of the chronically ill sometimes such a heartening success and at other times such a dispiriting failure. Sometimes alters will place themselves on the map, and sometimes they will ask someone else to do it, especially if they are younger. You can see from the map that some parts feel closer to each other than others do or they operate in similar ways. Some have put their age and gender. A therapist might also ask Mari to draw arrows that show which alters communicate with eachother and whether the communication is two-way. Not all systems, however, are conducive to mapping; It is important for individuals to decide if mapping, or any other technique, is helpful for them. Doing exercises such as these solely to please the therapist may create more internal disruption. It is also helpful for clients to take internal roll calls whenever needed. Usually, roll calls are met with resistance initially, in part because they challenge the purpose of the dissociation and can be experienced as a threat to the system. Most people, however, find this technique helpful with managing ambivalent feelings and with decision making. It should, however, be followed without breaks. I lift weights every second day like clockwork. I've done 4 day splits and 6 day splits and they're nice, but I train not to look better in the mirror, but to be able to do more with my life and to become tougher. Training every second day is something I can maintain for the rest of my life. It's more routine to me than is training 4 days in a week and then taking 3 days off or 5 days a week and then taking 2 days off. Those days off are active. I go running, hiking, shooting, fishing, mountain-biking. I do something that my training has allowed me to do. I need the every-second day method because of its rhythm.

So no matter the split, I train every second day. The Wounded Healer and the Need to Be of Use Paul Samuels is a fifty-two-year-old internist in a large midwestern city. He is in private practice, a member of a four-man group that shares evening, weekend, and vacation calls. Each day he sees between twenty-five and thirty-five patients in his office and in the hospital. He begins work at 6:30 a. On Saturdays, he sees patients in the morning only. On Wednesday afternoons, he teaches medical students in the general medical clinic of the medical school, then works in the library, catching up with the professional literature. Every fourth night and weekend, he is on call for all the patients in the group practice. Paul Samuels's chief interest is the care of patients with serious chronic medical disorders. Such patients constitute most of his practice. It also helps to identify where inner feelings or impulses are originating. A typical scenario is for a client to express a feeling, say, fear. The therapist might then ask why the client is feeling afraid. Often, the response is something akin to I don't know. That may be because the fear is originating with another part; Sometimes a therapist will make contracts with individual parts. In this situation, the contract might be for one part to work on the feeling of fear for a portion of each session for the next month. It is important to think of the contract as two-way, between the individual part and the therapist, and three-way, among the individual part, the entire system, and the therapist. Because the true nature of a contract is an agreement between two or more people, with each offering something, the therapist needs to be willing to be an active participant as well.