Are we together? Is this the direction you are heading? As might be expected, the answer to these questions is sometimes No, sometimes Yes. The counselor is sometimes with the client, at times he may be on ahead, at times he lags behind in his understanding. Such minor deviations from the course are relatively unimportant since it is so clear that the therapist is in general saying, I'm trying to keep right with you as you make this perilous and frightening search. This point appears to be borne out by Miss Cam's continuing statement. You said some things that didn't seem to be quite what I meant. But far from being threatening, they were positively encouraging. It's nice to find that a misunderstanding isn't irrevocable -- that I can correct it, and that you will understand and accept the correction. It isn't necessary to be perfectly clear and understood every time I speak. No wonder people duck out and go looking for something easier and more pleasant than shouldering more responsibility. Shall we join them for a different perspective? Now, wonder what a pleasant or even exciting approach to responsibility would be? How about stepping into a new vibration, something outrageous like celebrating responsibility? Now, that is a totally different perspective, like looking from above rather than from underneath. I wonder how I could celebrate responsibility? With the burden approach, one person is energetically underneath, carrying and paying more than his portion or share. If I, for example, insist on paying more than my share for a group gift or the support of aging parents, then you must carry less of the share than I do. The gift or financial support costs only so much to carry, and there is no more to apportion. I may be trying to get extra points for being the good guy and doing more.

For example, the patterns of brain waves for the various characters are generally completely different. Some individuals with multiple personalities wear numerous different pairs of eyeglasses since they change their vision with each identity. Many people will experience allergies in one nature and not in another. One of the most interesting examples of physiological change with different characters is that of a woman admitted to a diabetes hospital who disturbed her physicians by displaying no signs of the disease at times when a non-diabetic personality was dominant. Perception at the spiritual level has to do with our sense of being part of something on an intense level, which is beyond ourselves. It is the understanding of what Gregory Bateson called the pattern that binds all things into a greater whole together. As individuals, we are a part of that vast network. This level of our understanding is related to our sense of purpose and mission in life. This is the level that I think Bateson suggested when he referred to Learning IV. Neurologically, processes at the spiritual level have to do with a kind of relational zone between our nervous systems and those of other people, creating a variety of broader, collective nervous system. There's no need to be scared to death every time I open my mouth for fear I'll say something that's not perfectly accurate and entirely beyond reproach or criticism. No need to pick my words with such care that I end up by expressing myself much less clearly than if I had just said the first thing that came into my head. Here is the answer to those who question, Isn't client-centered therapy really directive, because the counselor selects the elements he will respond to, and thus subtly guides the client toward certain areas and certain goals? As indicated here, if the attitude of the therapist is to follow the client's lead, the client not only perceives this, but is quick to correct the counselor when he gets off the track, and comfortable in doing so. Towards the end of the interview, when I was picking up speed at a great rate, I began to feel simply wonderful all over -- warm and relaxed and happy. You were much more present to me than you've ever been before. In a way, indispensable to my happiness at that point -- I felt much more myself in your company than I would have felt by myself. But it's not dependent in the derogatory sense -- I suppose it's what has been called freedom of dependence. If you can say a fish is dependent on water, then you can say my personality, my self, is dependent on association, relationship with other selves for life and growth and freedom to move around. Something I've grown into, rather than plunged into.

So two halves try to equal a whole and in reality create a hole in our equal relationship. It makes sense when we add up the numbers; But often something else is going on when people and projects interact, something that is below the surface of our awareness. This is why one person feels like the underdog carrying a heavy load and feeling burdened. Action Step Look at your financial activities and notice where you are doing more than your share and where you experience doing less. Are these familiar patterns around money? What thoughts or emotions surround these actions? Become aware of your environment. Are there things in your space that support you doing and paying for more than your equal share? Sometimes the effects of this area of activity are referred to as a group mind, a group spirit, or collective consciousness, which also involves the nervous systems, or networks of information processing, of other creatures and entities, and even of our environment. As described by Bateson: The individual mind is immanent, but not only in the body. It is intrinsic outside the body's pathways and messages, and there is a higher Consciousness of which the human consciousness is only a sub-system. This larger mind is comparable to nature and maybe what people mean by God, but it is still immanent in the entire social structure and global ecosystem that is interconnected. In summary, the following hierarchy of neurophysiological structures are made up of Neurological Levels: Spiritual Holographic-Individual nervous systems combine to form a more extensive network and work to support underwater life (eg, reticular system). Identity Immune system and endocrine System-Nervous system as a whole, and functions that support deep life (eg, reticular system). Beliefs & Principles Limbic and autonomic control system (eg, heart rate, dilation of pupils, etc)-Unconscious replies. Cortical systems Capacities-Half-conscious behavior (eye gestures, stance, etc) D. Behaviors Motor system (cerebellum & pyramidal)-Deliberate Behavior E.

But what is it? I can say it's a communion, a mutuality, even though limited, of experience; There it is, and it's the most natural thing in the world; No more feeling of going into your house. I'm at home in my own house now, and you're a very welcome guest. I'm very pleased to show you all over the house, even though it's rather untidy in some rooms. But after all, I just moved in, and what can you expect? It'll look better when I've had time to settle down. As Miss Cam here suggests, the communication of one's real self, one's real attitudes, to another, may well be the basis of deep social experience, of friendship, of interpersonal development, as well as of therapy. Certainly another facet of therapeutic growth is well described in her phrase, I'm at home in my own house now, and you're a very welcome guest. Or for doing and paying for less than your share? Would you be willing to release them? If yes, by when? Does your pattern of spending more or less than your share emerge only in certain circumstances? Notice and give yourself some breathing room. CELEBRATING RESPONSIBILITY What if we looked from another perspective, such as from up above? Let's assume that people in this experiment who step up are whole and willing to participate. Well, if I'm whole, then 100 percent is my percentage. Then I can take care of myself and step into the place of equality, rather than assuming I am a lesser percentage. So I begin to celebrate my 100 percent, and I am responsible for all of the situation and the actions that follow.

Peripheral nervous system Environment-Feelings and Involuntary responses. Changing Beliefs with NLP and Values: Paths to Health and Well-being, both published in 1990, were the first articles explicitly discussing this concept of Rational Stages. The model of Logical Levels has continued to be developed and enriched and has become the foundation for many new processes and techniques in the NLP. My article from Coach to Awakener (2003) uses this model as a primary blueprint for the personal coaching process. NLP II: The Next Generation provides an in-depth description of the model of Neurological Levels and its relationship to set theory, mathematical group theory, hierarchical levels, abstraction levels of Korzybski, logical types of Russell, the notion of holons and holarchy of Arthur Koestler (also used by Ken Wilbur) and simple chunking. Do you mainly think of yourself in terms of what you are doing? Or do you have the skills? Or by what matters to you, and what do you believe? Or who are you, as a person? Or are you defining yourself in terms of intent, or are you part of something bigger and more important than you are? Some idea of the fluctuation in mood and attitude which occurs in the client as the self is being reorganized, is conveyed in the next excerpts from Miss Cam's material. I'm beginning to feel sort of remote again; I can't find anything I want to do, and I can't seem to settle down to anything. What happened yesterday happened for good, and I'm not worried about it turning out to be just an accident or an illusion. But can it be that there's still something I haven't discovered? Just when I thought I hadn't a care in the world? It feels almost as if something were getting ready to pounce on me. Or maybe I'm just getting a cold? Can it be that there's still something I haven't discovered? It is a most interesting fact, discussed more fully by Miss Cam at a later time, that once some denied attitudes are admitted to awareness, there is a strong tendency for others to appear also.