Physicists are discovering that energy, matter, and consciousness function in an entirely different way than the old laws indicated; The key principle here is that the new way has nothing at all to do with the old way. There is no linear connection; Just as the new title implies, there was a quantum shift between what was, and what is. We had to look at the game from an entirely different angle to see more of what is happening. We are playing in a new ball park with a brand new set of rules. I find this new development very exciting! While exhausted by his social handicaps and his extreme behaviors, she is in awe of his unique ability to think in a creative and original way despite his struggles. And while her view of these individuals is indeed a blessing, she is the exception rather than the rule. Nevertheless, I believe more people would share her view if only they understood these precious individuals and Asperger's syndrome more fully. After serving as president of the Metro Louisville article of CHADD, as well as assisting the Kentucky State Advisory Council of CHADD, I realized that my children's needs were not being addressed through ADHD research. In fact, it was while serving on the state advisory council that my friend Joni suggested I look at current autism research to understand the severity of my son Sam's ADHD. Like most parents, I immediately rejected the notion that my son could have autism. After all, he was the opposite of Kanner's silent and aloof poster child. My Sam was in your face, verbally advanced, active, defiant, impulsive, and hyperactive--not at all withdrawn or quiet. How could he possibly have an autistic spectrum disorder? I wondered. This no questions during class custom is one of the reasons Korean children develop tremendous nunchi so quickly. It was a point of huge culture shock for me, a twelve-year-old American kid. But I learned two lessons worth more than rubies: 1) if you wait long enough, most questions will be answered for you;

Think about your office meetings: many people ask questions to show off or brownnose the boss, or just to be seen to be participating. Are the people asking the most questions in meetings automatically getting respect or bonuses? Well, that depends. Sometimes asking a lot of questions shows you're engaged, but at other times those same questions will earn you side-eyes from your colleagues, who are fixated on the fact that it's 12:30 and the line at the taco place down the road is getting longer by the second. Read the room and don't always feel you have to ask every question that's in your head, especially just before lunch. In twenty-first-century society, particularly in the West and especially in the Anglo world, loudness is valorized. Being quiet is associated with beta behavior. It means that no matter what we thought, or what laws under which we believed we were bound, the whole slate can be cleared in an instant and an entirely new paradigm can replace it As A Course in Miracles declares, The past is over. It can touch me not. If we rely on the past as a referent, we will only keep recreating it. The touching film, The Joy Luck Club, traces the evolution of several Chinese families as they go through the labor pains of shifting from an old patriarchal society to a new world in which strong women reclaim their power to live as whole and worthy beings. In one poignant scene a mother tells her daughter, For generations our people went back and forth; But that way we got nowhere. One generation went down the stairs, and the next generation went up - but all the while we stayed trapped on the same staircase. This wise woman was underscoring the importance of breaking the karmic chain of reactive, rather than creative, living. This principle is one of the laws of the old physics: Every action has an equal and opposite reaction. But just as Newtonian physics gives way to quantum physics, the law of karma gives way to Grace. However, after my initial defensiveness dissipated, I became willing to see what the autism researchers offered as answers. I quickly discovered that while ADHD research focused on the features of the disorder, autism research examined the disorder for root causes from which to develop treatments. Despite the difference in the way each camp approaches its disorder, both autistic spectrum disorders and ADHD are developmental disorders that share similar features and affect children in three central areas: communication, social interaction, and behavior.

This is where the confusion between these disorders arises. Couldn't what researchers and parents often see as distinct symptoms at particular stages of development be a continuum of the same disorder as it manifests itself at different times? If so, then it is the combination of the symptoms themselves along with the severity of the symptoms that most likely determines whether a child is diagnosed with an autistic spectrum disorder or with ADHD. Of course, a proper diagnosis based upon this combination would hinge upon there being enough awareness of autistic spectrum disorders and the similarities they share with ADHD to obtain an accurate assessment. As of now, however, our medical and educational professionals are not trained to recognize the similarities between these disorders. In fact, these professionals are directed by the American Pediatric Association to screen for ADHD, but autistic spectrum disorders are not even addressed. According to the latest clinical practice guideline presented concurrently in Pediatric 2000 and at the conference Advancing Children's Health 2000, developed for pediatricians and primary care physicians, the first recommendation is that when a child aged 6-12 years presents with inattention, hyperactivity, impulsivity, academic underachievement, or behavioral problems, primary care physicians should initiate an evaluation for ADHD. I find this hilarious and contradictory, since we also celebrate the stereotype of the strong, silent type, like cowboys or steely military leaders. Anyone skilled at negotiation will tell you that being silent puts you in a highly advantageous position. The only reason we don't hear more about silence is that quiet people by definition do not go on about how great it is to be quiet. They are unlikely to say, I can see my silence is making you give more information, which is my whole objective. Nunchi is the better part of valor. Negotiation is the introvert's chance to show who's boss. Imagine you have fallen in love with a house and are desperate to buy it. Obviously, you want the lowest price, while the seller and agent will want the highest price. The agent asks whether you have kids. If you're a nunchi ninja, you may have already inferred that the agent is planning to tell you that the house is expensive because it's in a great area for schools. For aeons the seers of the Orient have been telling us that we need to get off the wheel of karma. But you cannot end karma by making more of it; The way to be done with karma is to expand your vision to behold a universe that is bigger than karma.

The law of Grace tells us that we, God, and life are bigger than our notion of karma, cause and effect, action and reaction, sin and punishment, life and death. Grace supersedes sin and error. When you sincerely say, I forgive or I release, the past is instantly nullified. No matter how limited or obligated you believed you were under the laws of karma, Grace tells you that there is a broader vision, and you are free the moment you step into it. It is time to claim Grace and live the great life. You were born to be grand, and littleness does not befit you. The past is always smaller than you are now, because the past is an illusion and you are real. Likewise, even though autism researchers acknowledge the co-morbidity of autistic spectrum disorders and ADHD, they still approach each disorder as distinctly different. This separateness is revealed in The Handarticle of Autism and Pervasive Developmental Disorders: As in children without autism, attention deficits and hyperactivity in children with autism may present differently at different ages or levels of development. However, when examining the similarities in terms of origins of deficits, communication, social competency, and behavior, the distinction between these disorders blurs, leaving one to question whether ADHD, too, belongs on the autistic spectrum. SIMILARITIES IN POPULATIONS AND SCREENING TOOLS Numerous similarities exist between the ways autistic spectrum disorders and ADHD are presented in the available literature. One of the most common is the way each group of researchers identifies the population most affected by the disorder. For example, according to the National Information Center for Children and Youth with Disabilities Fact Sheet on Autism and Pervasive Developmental Disorders, the incidence of autism and PDD is four times more common in boys than girls,3 a statistic that clearly links this disorder primarily to males. Likewise, a recent report of the Surgeon General states that boys are four times more likely to have [ADHD] than girls,4 and autism researcher Dr B. Freeman, a professor at the UCLA School of Medicine and Neuropsychiatric Institute states, Boys are affected more often than girls by a ratio of 4:1. The ways in which patients are screened for autism and ADHD are shockingly alike in content. Or maybe you don't know where the question is going, but even your low-level nunchi reminds you to say as little as possible. Pause for five seconds--even though this will seem like an eternity--and say simply, Why do you ask? Even if the agent has no agenda and is just being nosy, your verbal minimalism is still strategically a good idea.

If you have made them nervous, that sets the tone that you are in a position of strength for the rest of the negotiation. Let's say that your initial instinct was right, and the agent says, The reason I ask is that the schools here are excellent, which is why you're paying a premium. Maybe the schools really are important to you; All you need to say is, I see. At this point the agent is starting to worry. Your extreme economy of words is making them realize they're not going to charm you, and the only thing that might work is if they lower the price. Obviously, this tactic might not work for this particular house. I heard a man on a radio program describe a mystical experience he had In a vision, the man saw himself walking down a country lane. Suddenly the entire scene rolled up like a window shade. All that remained was brilliant white light His world had no more reality than a piece of canvas; Our past is like that window shade. It is but a picture we carry and refer to when we fear or do not recognize the power available in the present moment. Now is the time to roll the shade up and welcome the morning. Keep your eye on the road, A HEART ACT TO FOLLOW Make love now, by night and by day, in winter and in You are in the world for that and the rest of Each side uses a checklist of behaviors and social characteristics to help parents, medical professionals, and educators evaluate a child. Interestingly, the characteristics and features highlighted by each checklist are identical to one another (see Table 3. What is evident from Table 3.