I told myself somehow I would cope with this. Somehow we could find a way to go forward now that I knew. But then over the next two years I would find out more. He was no longer acting out but he hadn't told me a lot of the real story at the supposed time of disclosure. I would find out more because I found pictures when I was in his office. I found out more when I was reviewing some retirement accounts. I found out more when he told me one day he had something else he needed to tell me. It was about his once being involved with a woman I knew who was moving back to our community. The fat-to-muscle ratio grows, causing metabolism to slow down. Collagen in the skin dwindles and the skin thins. Our immune systems become weakened, and sleep disturbances increase. Stress can exaggerate the rate of our physical decline. In general, as we age, the risk of chronic disease grows. We desperately need tools to help lower our stress responses if we want to slow aging of our cells. What stresses do you have in your life that are triggering your inflammation? Consider where you multitask in your life and whether there are ways to reduce this. Do you stand and eat your dinners? Do you do other things while eating--use your cell phone, read the newspaper? I won't dive into whether this is a good or bad policy, but Jordan saw eerie signs of Marxism and the Soviet Union in this legislation. He had spent great portions of his life studying these former empires.

So, he stood up emphatically against this legislation. As a result, Dr Peterson took a lot of flack. At one point, during one of his lectures, he's seen on Youtube being massively booed by a mob of students. Protestors held derogatory posters, called him vile names and cried roaring chants during the lecture. There was no sensibility and no listening, just deafening boo birds. In times like these, it looked ugly for this Canadian professor. Right when the uproar started against Dr Peterson's critiques of this legislation, he joined Joe Rogan's podcast for an almost 3-hour interview. In this forum of uninterrupted conversation and endless interview questions from Rogan, the audience in favor of Dr Peterson erupted. Each time I got more information, it was a setback for me. I honestly believe that as painful as it would have been, it would have been better for me to know everything all at once. He would tell me he had told me all, and then more kept coming. It made it hard to believe there wasn't yet more to come. Even when working with a counselor and encouraged to be as honest as possible, he may not be prepared to be totally honest. Sometimes his shame is so great he is only emotionally equipped to share some information; It's also possible that at the time of disclosure an addict may not fully remember some of his past behaviors. Addicts are very skilled in compartmentalizing their behaviors and have learned to detach from them often within hours, if not minutes, after engaging. So when months and often years pass, some behaviors may be quite distant from his consciousness. To live with the shame, he has learned how to push aside specific memories and details. Do you take on more work or activities than you can handle? With constant stimulus, are we at our most efficient?

Consider a cheetah who runs to pursue its prey. After it catches the prey, it spends time resting and recharging. That rest-and-recharge time is the counterbalance to the fight-or-flight response and is essential for healing the body. It is during this time that the parasympathetic nervous system is activated and blood pressure and heart rate slow down. Our hunger response returns, and digestion returns to normal. Our pain response comes back, and we can spend time healing our wounds. Our cortisol levels drop as well, so we stop breaking down muscle and fat; We return to having a normal immune response to insults. This video, published on Youtube in November 2016, now has over 10 million views. Dr Peterson spends the interview talking about his escapade against the new policies being proposed in Canada, but also gives many of his, now, classic lessons on the podcast. These included the lesson to clean your room before cleaning the filth of the world. He educated us on the horrors of the Soviet Union and Marxist ideologies. He challenged viewers to take responsibility for life, to start by fixing what's in front of you and to nobly provide relief for those already in their circles. Here's just a few appreciative comments from his first interview with Joe Rogan: Jordan Peterson in 2016: 50,000 ppl is crazy reach. I could never sell that many copies of a article. Jordan Peterson in 2019: at least 3. Just to be clear, my room is clean. As those memories are triggered (by a conversation, by being in a specific place, or while watching a movie, for example), he is then confronted with how he is going to reveal this information to you. Either he shares it and risks you believing he has deliberately been deceiving you, or he says nothing and you inadvertently discover the information.

No doubt, this dribbling disclosure is debilitating to building trust. But if you and he are engaged in recovery practices, you can get through this excruciating phase. I strongly suggest that you take any new information that has dribbled out after a planned and mediated disclosure to a counselor to facilitate healthy discussion and accountability. After Disclosure Hearing the news is painful and your response may vary from relief that finally your perceptions and your senses are validated to humiliation, shame, rage, disbelief, and back again. This emotional roller coaster can last for days and even weeks. You may be asking, What now? Just because he's finally honest doesn't make everything okay. Now, in our current day-to-day lives--with constant motion, work stress, and overstimulation from our electronic devices and poor nutrition that causes body aches, lack of activity, and lack of sleep--our bodies are under constant stress. Imagine if your phone battery showed a 7 percent charge rate; Your primary mission would be to find a charger. Think of your body that way. It needs a battery charger, and if you don't have time to rest and recharge, you are prone to an inflammatory state that cannot recover from injury. You cannot heal. This is the state within which most of us lead our lives. When you read Dr A's personal story, you will see that she certainly was overstressed. And with that condition came illness, as it often does. Most of us don't see how stress and overstimulation affect us until we have suffered real injury. People say it often, but this podcast literally changed my life. I was in such a dark place, took his advice, cleaned my room and fixed what I could.

A year later things got a lot better. After 3, unrecognizable Listening to Dr Peterson is like having the father I never had. I appreciate everything he says. It's like therapy and guidance. If you want to be safe, stay home. Don't come to the university. People are hungry for knowledge that isn't provided by their peer groups. It's not okay--it hurts, and it hurts deeply. Depending on the extent of the behavior and your level of surprise the first few days and weeks after disclosure can be very overwhelming. Some women are not so overwhelmed as much as they are relieved to hear the truth, or have their suspicions validated. After taking in the information, remember that you do have choices, and it is important that you ascertain what you need as far as contact and distance are concerned. For the moment, make no major decisions other than those that involve your safety. Most partners need time apart from the addict. It may be an hour, a few hours, one night, a few days, or even longer. You may choose to sleep separately for a while or not even stay in the same house. While the addict may perceive this as punishing behavior, healthy boundaries are about honoring the pain you feel and what you need at this time for your own emotional safety. You may feel confused about boundaries and ultimatums. YOUR PRESCRIPTION Some stressors are good and protective.