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Intense, like a workout, but good. Oxytocin ensures that the uterus surges and also signals to your body that you are relaxed and all is well, so that the blood carrying the oxygen is directed to the uterus muscles (and the baby) where it is needed. She went on to say, Hopefully the quilt will bring you both pleasure, security, and a bit of comfort. That is my wish. That's Living Skillfully, too. Each of us wants to connect more closely with the people in our lives. We want to know that we belong, that we are loved, and we want to make others feel the same way, too. We want to do something that matters for them and something that is also meaningful to us. Each of us also has a basic human need to create. The desire to make beautiful, meaningful moments and things is an undeniable part of us. It's in our spirits. This article celebrates the creative ways we connect with each other--the ways we live Skillfully. The skill stems from an ability to curb overreactions when things go off course. Artful critics modulate the impulse to shoot from the hip (or, perhaps more correctly, the impulse to shoot from the `lip'). They are able to keep an employee's development, sense of self-worth, morale, and the team's overall spirit in mind despite the external pressures that can build up and push buttons that are better off unplugged or temporarily disabled. Let's create a case example that demonstrates how stress can impact the emotional aspects of criticizing a subordinate's behavior. We will then stay with this case example as we go on to discuss practical techniques of artful criticism. Case Example An engineering firm's senior marketing executive, Ms. Thurmond, supervised the work of a marketing manager, Ms.

Jones hands a finished proposal to Ms. Thurmond to review before it is to be submitted to a prospective client. Your body is not merely a physical device that generates thoughts and feelings; With every breath you take, every mouthful of food or swallow of water you ingest, every sound you hear, sight you see, sensation you feel, and aroma you smell your body changes. Just since you began reading this paragraph you exchanged four hundredbillion trillion atoms with your environment! Your body looks static because the changes are taking place at a level too subtle for you to directly perceive. Scientists can calculate the turnover of matter in your body by labeling atoms with radioactive material and tracking their metabolism. Through this process we've learned that the lining of your stomach is replaced about every five days. It takes about a month for your skin to be retread. In about six weeks your liver has turned over, and within just a few months, most of the calcium and phosphorus crystals that make up your skeleton have come and gone. Every year over 98 percent of all the atoms in the human body have been exchanged. After a course of three years, you would be hard pressed to find an atom that was a part of you then, which could still be considered yours now. Labour then progresses quickly and efficiently and, although it can be hard going at times and exhausting, you will feel good and strong. Soon you will be holding your baby in your arms and feeling like a superwoman. That is how birth is designed to happen. Now for the second hormone that you need to know about: adrenaline. I'm pretty sure you will have heard of this one, but let's look at it more closely. Adrenaline is the hormone your body releases when it perceives some sort of threat. The threat doesn't even have to be real - a perceived threat is enough to trigger the release of adrenaline. The body takes no chances.

It could be that you had a near miss in the car or even a full-blown near-death experience, but equally you might just be watching something scary on the TV and are beginning to tense up, breathing more heavily as your heart beats that bit quicker: you bet that any minute now the killer is going to jump out on the main protagonist. Even if you know it's just TV, your body still goes through the same motions. Life is a work of art and we are its artists, born with the tools--our innate imagination, curiosity, and playfulness--to create anything we can imagine. Living Skillfully is expressing who you are through these objects and moments that you create. To live Skillfully is to live life fully, with meaning and a purpose--to bring beauty into being. I define art in the broadest sense--it is every possible medium of human expression. It is in what you say and how you say it. Art is simply the name for how you live your life and how you tell others what you think and feel. We all make choices every moment of every day, from how we fill our hours to how we decorate our homes to which gifts we will share with the people in our lives. Living Skillfully reminds us to expand the possibilities of how we do all these things. It asks us to imagine, to dream big, to believe in ourselves and celebrate the people in our lives, to make each day count, dance when the spirit moves you, laugh out loud, and let your voice be heard. It reaffirms our belief that every human being is a beautiful, unique work in progress. In reviewing the proposal, Ms. Thurmond finds articles out of order, and in several spots the numbers do not add up. Thurmond will have to meet with Ms. Jones and note the mistakes so that the proposal can be corrected and reviewed again before being sent out. The Sandwich Technique Conveying bad news is an unpleasant task. But there are valuable, widely used strategies for doing so diplomatically and tactfully. One of the most common and effective of these involves sandwiching the bad news between positive or upbeat statements.

If you incorporate this fundamental technique into your managerial repertoire, you are bound to be more effective at delivering corrective criticism to those under your supervision. It will also add to your overall skills in diplomacy and tact, which are admired traits of leaders--particularly those at higher levels of an organization. To help you appreciate this idea, consider that your body is like a local branch of the public library. Although on one level the library seems to be stable, on another level it is constantly changing. Particular articles do not define a library; Your body is like a flame that is constantly metabolizing new material. The flammable matter and the oxygen necessary for its combustion must be continually renewed. The smoke and gases released are changing at every moment. And yet the flame appears to be nearly the same over time. The processes of creation, maintenance, and dissolution are simultaneously at work in a flame and in your body. The Greek poet Heraclitus said you cannot point to the same river twice because new water is always flowing. Like a river, like a library, like a flame, your body may appear to be the same on the surface, but in actuality, it is constantly changing. Like oxytocin, adrenaline is produced by the autonomic nervous system, so it's something that happens instinctively and not something you can directly control. That's the bad news. The good news is that, just like with the oxytocin, you can take steps to discourage (rather than encourage) the production of adrenaline and also take steps to lessen the impact if you do produce it. It all comes back to mastering the relaxation techniques that are commonly associated with hypnobirthing. If you were to plot adrenaline and oxytocin on some sort of hormonal spectrum, they would sit at opposite ends. Whereas oxytocin is all about happiness and relaxation and feeling good, adrenaline is all about panic, fear and the grisly fight for survival. Basically, as far away from feeling relaxed as is possible. So, when you release adrenaline, what happens?

Your heart rate speeds up and you experience that heart-pounding sensation. The heart is working extra hard and super-fast to pump the blood around your body. The more I think, the more I feel that there is nothing more truly artistic than to love people. Vincent van Gogh said that in the 1800s, and that timeless truth is just as profound today. Living Skillfully is a call to reawaken your creative spirit. It is your personal call to action. It is also your personal call to pleasure. I want to spark a personal renaissance within you--whether you're a man or a woman, and no matter what your age. I want to inspire you to create the life you imagine: to create something with your hands, create a garden that exudes beauty, create love, create a home that nurtures yourself and your family, create a memory, create a quilt to cover someone with tenderness, create a moment, create yourself, create a friendship, create an experience you will never forget. I want you to see that you can create because you must. Living Skillfully is a force that can transform your life and how you view your role in life. As it shifts your perception--once you begin to see the possibility of art in everyday things and moments--you will never look at life the same way again. The Sandwich Technique requires that: The opening must ALWAYS be positive. In this way, the recipient of the news or feedback is cushioned to the emotional reaction of the criticism both before it is communicated and after it is communicated. This technique is so broadly used that it becomes second nature to any function that must convey bad news or offer critical feedback. Think about letters or messages that recruiters deliver to job applicants when a position will not be offered. They will usually begin with statements about how the interviewers liked the applicant very much, saw much strength in the candidacy, and this made the selection very difficult. Then the bad news is conveyed: The company has selected another, more highly qualified candidate. The communication will then end with a statement wishing the applicant good luck in their obviously promising future.