Staying invisible is the antithesis of owning your spotlight -- in fact, it's not brilliant at all. The need to stand out in your market has never been stronger than it is today. We're bombarded with more information than we can cope with and we're bogged down in processing data, so much so that we're becoming desensitised or trying desperately to make sense of what's relevant and true. And amid all this noise you have to stand out, be noticed and be seen as relevant to build your career or your business: to lead a life of influence. Being able to add value to those around you -- your clients, customers, team and suppliers -- is critical to being in demand. Your confidence to share your opinions, thinking and ideas will help you lead your area of responsibility, company or industry. Lewis Howes is a former athlete and professional football player. He is now the host of the podcast School of Greatness, which has had over 400 million downloads since its launch in 2013. As everything has two sides, so our weakness may be the reverse side of our strengths. As long as we can place ourselves in a position where we can play up our strengths, we will feel like a fish in water. The Buddha says, Don't wait until you are praised to believe in yourself. We must not wait to believe in our strengths, for we only live once. It is important to find a job we are fit for as soon as possible and find fulfillment in that position. Being a Good Listener When we speak, we wish others to be good listeners, but when others speak, we are often inattentive. This problem might prevent us from progressing smoothly. If we are careful enough, it is not difficult to find that either the eminent monks in real life or the Buddhas and Bodhisattvas on TV speak very little when they converse with others. Are they not good with words? The conscious brain uses faster beta brain waves, shown on an EEG when you're alert or working on a problem. You also learned that a concentration of beta brain waves indicates anxiety, so we don't want your brain to get stuck in these fast brain waves.

SVT is remarkably effective because it teaches your brain to speed up and slow down. It's like interval training for your brain. You don't get stuck in either type of brain wave, either. You can, for example, use theta to brainstorm an idea and then use beta to work on the spreadsheet that will help support the financial structure of that idea. THE SEVEN PITFALL THOUGHT PATTERNS Here in step 1 of SVT, you're using the beta brain waves of the conscious brain. Now it's time to learn about the seven pitfall thought patterns. Many of these pitfall thought patterns correspond with excess beta brain waves or an inability to move easily from one brain wave to another. SLEEP THERAPY TESTING YOUR MATTRESS Use these steps to assess the suitability of your present mattress and any mattress you consider buying in the future. Lie in your normal sleeping position. Do you feel supported where you need support and comfort everywhere else? If there are pressure points on your body, the mattress is too firm. If you feel that you're sinking into the mattress, it's too soft. Turn over onto your side and roll back again to the other side. You should be able to turn easily from side to side. If that's the case, your spine is horizontal and your body properly supported, and you're far less likely to wake up when you shuffle about in your sleep. Get to it now. Never think of it again.

You know the one. It's crammed with rubber bands too desiccated to use, single batteries of undetermined power, bits of garden string, plant labels, chopsticks in their wrappers, ketchup sachets and old dry-cleaning receipts for clothes you threw out ages ago. No one ever needs more than 10 per cent of what is in The Drawer. The truth is, most of us have far too many. Keep the best ones and toss the rest. Many oils (especially nut oils) go rancid quite quickly, and condiments can lose their sparkling freshness. Chuck anything past its best. Chuck out any you don't like, or that are chipped and/or badly stained. Predicating your behavior on their reality, Living your life from their mind-set. Entertaining every thought, saying every word, Walking the way they would walk, Frequently, in time and space, right before a really HUGE dream comes true So if, perchance, it ever appears as if Probably the most important thing I could tell you You won't remember this, you were two. We were at the kids' park playing follow the leader, each of us jostling to be at the front of our two-person conga line, when a little boy about your size walked into our space, causing us to stop while you stared at him, then at me, then at him, before asking in a hopeful tone without malice, Daddy, can you make him disappear? The ego's ultimate failure. Here we are isolated but never alone.

We are eternally connected to the cosmos. It is here we come to the realisation that, far from being a bystander, we are vibrating along with the vibration of the cosmos. We are one and the same. There is no longer a drop and an ocean. The drop merges and becomes the ocean. This is our infinite nature and always has been. Abhinavagupta who was a mystic from Kashmir (950AD) has said; A viewer with emotional capacity loses sense of time, place and self. The more you practice, the more you'll be able to internalize each step, and the easier it will become. Prioritizing your task Before you even start doing anything, ask yourself the following questions: If I could do only one thing today, which task would have the most impact? Is this task moving me closer to my main goal? Do I really need to do it right now, or should I do it later? You want to train yourself to think in terms of priorities and keep an eye on the big picture. Losing perspective and forgetting your overall strategy is the fastest way to waste time on unimportant tasks. Assessing the validity of your task To ensure the task is something you actually need to undertake, ask yourself the following questions: When I asked why he thought Steve was so volatile now, Joseph described his restlessness and pacing in team meetings or staring out the windows, barely looking at clients or PowerPoint presentations. He just doesn't give a damn anymore about what other people think.

What can you do to fix this? His tone of voice was as much a challenge as a request. It said, I dare you to answer this! I didn't think responding verbally would be effective. It would be like trying to place a flower in a fist. I was curious whether using a kinesthetic trigger would open his mind to a new possibility or not. I reached for the wilted orchid plant that sat in the middle of the table and put it into his hands. As he looked down, I said to him, If this contained the solution to your problem, what would it say about the changes that are needed? We learned from our professor of haematology at the old Westminster Hospital of the blast crisis' that can occur in chronic myeloid leukaemia. <a href=''>If</a> the leukaemia becomes unstoppable it takes over the bone marrow, pushing the primitive white blood cells, the blast cells, into the bloodstream, where they can be seen on a smear of blood on a glass slide under the microscope. <a href=''>It</a> used to herald the end. <a href=''>I</a> remember him telling us of a poet with chronic myeloid leukaemia who announced on the ward round thatthe flame of my life has been extinguished'. A blood test confirmed a blast crisis and he was dead within a few hours. My colleague Martin, our professor of geriatric medicine at the Queen Alexandra Hospital in Portsmouth, told me more recently of an elderly lady with leukaemia who finally had no treatment options left. Quite reasonably she asked Martin how long she had got. This is a very difficult question for any doctor to answer with any precision. In those old films, the doctor gravely announces that the patient has six weeks. The patient then goes off and puts on the Broadway show he has always dreamed of producing. Even a little bit of fame is like dating a supermodel. You think, Oh, this is nice.