To preserve your blooms, press them and mount them in frames, or use them to decorate handmade articlemarks, cards, and scraparticles. For best results, select freshly cut flowers that haven't started to wilt or brown. Flatter flowers like daisies and violets work best. Sandwich the flower between two clean sheets of paper, then set it in a flower press (two or more pieces of wood that tighten together with bolts) or between the articles of a article. Stack articles or other heavy objects on top to add weight. Then wait two to three weeks for the flowers to dry completely, and remove them from the articles with care. The following day, the subjects faced a new research task that again involved painful sounds. To turn it off, all they had to do was move their hands about 12 inches. The people in the first and third groups figured this out quickly and were able to turn off the noise. But most of the people in the second group did nothing at all. Expecting failure, they didn't even try to escape the irritating noise. They had learned to be helpless. Yet--and this is where it gets exciting--about one-third of the people in group two, who had been unable to escape the pain, never became helpless. The answer turned out to be optimism. Dr Seligman's team discovered that people who do not give up interpret the pain and setbacks as temporary as opposed to permanent; Optimists would say things like It will go away quickly; Walk to the chair that faces the water source and sit down. Close your eyes while placing both feet side-by-side on the floor. As before, go barefoot or wear socks or slippers. Imagine that the sound of water is in front of you, even if you hear it elsewhere through this part of the exercise, the brain trains the first direction).

Now take note of where you actually hear the sound and listen to the sound for 3 to 4 minutes. After a few minutes of listening, stretch out your hand to where you hear the noise. Now open your eyes to check whether your hearing perception is correct (the right place of the sound being directly opposite and to the front). Close your eyes again for about 1 minute. Only if you heard the sound clearly, right in front of you, you can now open your eyes, stand up, and walk slowly toward the therapeutic seat. Turn right in front of the seat and sit down on the chair so that the faucet is at your back. You assume that if the other person wanted to tell you about something happening in his life, he'd bring it up, so you don't ask. When your partner asks about what happened at work today, you respond with Nothing or, The usual instead of finding something to share. And just as practicing communication puts you in a better place when communication is critical, practicing not communicating (which is what you're doing when you don't talk about the little things) prepares you to clam up when you get into a situation where the two of you really need to talk. The most significant reason that communication is so important is because of what you produce when you fail to communicate with your partner: assumptions. When there's no communication, distance is created. And when distance is created, assumptions tend to fill that gap. If you aren't in the habit of staying in touch on both the little things and the big things, then the two of you start assuming things about the other. He assumes that you don't care about what he's been doing all day. You assume that he has nothing meaningful to say to you. You guess at what the other person thinks about important issues or about your future together rather than knowing, which is what would happen if you talked about it regularly. If you want to speed up the process, you can use an iron instead. Set the flower between two pieces of paper, turn the iron on low, then press and hold it on top of the paper for fifteen seconds. Lift the iron and wait for the paper to cool, and repeat the process until the flower is dry. YOU MAY HAVE heard this one before: What's something that belongs to you, which others use more than you do?

Humans have been puzzling over riddles for thousands of years. They exist in every language and culture around the world. There are riddles in the Bible, in folktales and songs, in Alice in Wonderland and Harry Potter. Today we can find them printed on cereal boxes, gum wrappers, and subway ads, but the earliest known riddles date all the way back to the ancient Sumerians in 2350 BCE, where they were recorded on clay tablets. One enters it blind and comes out seeing. What is it? As a result, Dr Seligman's team came to believe that teaching optimism could help inoculate people against anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Here are some of his main ideas. Listen to yourself and others to see how things are explained. Are the people powerful or victims? Do they have control or no control? Are hardships permanent or temporary? Pessimists describe bad things as permanent and pervasive and good things as temporary, while optimists describe things in just the reverse: the bad as temporary and the good as permanent and pervasive. Change your language and feelings around the situations you face. You can stop being a victim, take control wherever possible, and understand that hardships are usually temporary. Allow mistakes to be learning experiences, rather than a final judgment on your self-worth. At the same time, remain alert to the sound of the water. If you did not hear the sound of the water clearly, before completing this part of the exercise, start all over again the next day or the day after that. If you do continue because you have heard the sound clearly, once you have settled in the therapeutic seat your auditory perception will be correct if you now clearly hear the noise behind you. This is the aim of this exercise.

Listen to the sound for about 30 seconds. Then shut off the tap and again sit down in the therapeutic seat for about 2 minutes in silence. Do this exercise regularly about every 2 days. Comments and hints: If while doing this exercise you think of stressful experiences from your past that are related to hearing, write them down as soon as possible. This helps to create some distance between you and the event. You should use a separate sheet of paper for each experience, adding new recollections over time as they arise. I'm amazed at how many people tell me that they had no idea what their partner was actually thinking when an issue came along that messed up their relationship. That's because they were assuming what the other person was thinking rather than knowing it. There are very few cases where assumptions are better than knowing. Assuming your spouse meant Cool Ranch Doritos when she asked you to pick up chips from the grocery store is probably okay. But assuming that your spouse is totally fine with your living situation when she desperately wants to get out of the city can lead to some serious heartbreak down the road. Lots of us prefer to make assumptions because we don't really want to hear what's actually going on, but eventually what's actually going on is going to hit you between the eyes. And if you haven't been communicating, you're going to be in for a huge headache. But if you make it a habit to communicate, everything from what to have for dinner to what to do about your child's failing grades becomes easier to navigate together. Something I see way more often than I would like, and which always disappoints me when I see it, is when two people care about each other but deal with a problem as if they're opponents. They'll act in ways that aren't in the best interest of the other person; If they guess wrong, she devours them. According to the legend, Oedipus solves the riddle by announcing that the answer is man, who crawls on all fours as a baby, walks upright as an adult, and uses a cane in old age. What explains the enduring popularity of these mental puzzles? Scholars say it's because riddles rely on flashes of insight--that Aha!

When we land on the right answer, we feel a rush of pleasure as the reward centers of our brain flood with dopamine. The brain-tickling challenge of solving a riddle can also serve as a much-needed escape from more serious issues in our daily lives. It's all about you, using your own mind, without any method or schema, to restore order from chaos, the anthropologist and professor Marcel Danesi told The New York Times. And once you have, you can sit back and say, `Hey, the rest of my life may be a disaster, but at least I have a solution. Recent studies suggest that if you want to improve your puzzle-solving skills, laughter might be the best medicine. It really helps to be in a playful frame of mind, the science writer David Corcoran told NPR. Everyone makes mistakes; Accepting a mistake and looking for the lesson you can take away from it will help you get over it and move on. While these lists focus predominantly on psychological characteristics, research has shown that the way we view and approach life (positively or negatively) can also have a profound impact on our physical health. A huge study involving more than 97,000 people found that those who were optimistic had significantly lower heart disease than those who were pessimistic. Yet as we've seen, blind optimism can lead to early death. The Longevity Project from Stanford University found that people who were mindlessly optimistic died the earliest from accidents and preventable illnesses. The bottom line: It is always best to balance optimism with planning for and preventing future trouble. Being optimistic about eating a third bowl of ice cream with caramel sauce will lead to early death, no matter how much you wish it wouldn't! One of the early lessons I learned as a psychiatrist was that I could make nearly anyone cry or feel upset by my questions. If I asked people to think about their worst memories--the times they failed, the incidents where they were most embarrassed, or the day they lost someone they loved--within seconds they would feel bad. These stressful situations are now more complete and get their proper place in the past. Follow these step-by-step instructions: Set up the therapeutic listening field. Place one therapeutic seat with its back to the equipment.