This one is an oldie but a goodie. Today many people look for things that are new and fancy. There's nothing wrong with that, but we should not make the mistake of throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Tradition is important, especially in our fast-changing world today, so hold on to it. The Sea Salt Bath This is also true for the sea salt bath. Her creative stillness speaks to me of my deep need for contemplation and creation. Her hollowness reminds me of my longings to have a child and the many other ways we bring life into the world out of emptiness. The author Richard Powers, in his novel The Overstory, explores how trees shape our environments as active protagonists in our lives, possessing intelligence and personhood. Reflecting on the generosity and bounty of trees, especially the Douglas fir, whose roots bequeath its remaining store of nutrients with other trees before it dies, the narrator calls our arboreal cousins giving trees'. <a href=''>Likewise,</a> in the delightful article The Hidden Life of Trees, to which this article's title is an affectionate allusion, the forester Peter Wohlleben shares the discovery of awood wide web'. This web', comprised of tree roots interwoven with fungi that can network an entire woodland, enables trees to transmit information about pests, dangers and food supplies. <a href=''>Scientists</a> in Finland and Hungary have found that trees alsosleep'. Keeping in mind the maxim As above, so below', such earthly imagery serves as an apt analogy for the Jungian understanding of dreams as tapping into a collective unconscious psyche. <a href=''>Every</a> night, our dreams mend and shape us, and, in turn, shape us all. <a href=''>While</a> we sleep, our dreams breathe into us, transforming us in countless ways people long ago knew - ways that we, in our modern world, need to relearn. <a href=''>It</a> is remarkable how quickly arguments can escalate when one person is critical and the other is defensive. <a href=''>None</a> of us actually like being criticized but the trick is to avoid immediately fighting back. <a href=''>Rather</a> than fighting back, John could ask,What makes you say that? The third signal of danger is when one partner refuses to engage with the other.

This is called stonewalling' orshutting out'. Stonewalling is a way of being nasty without overtly doing anything. This is a version of passive aggression, a form of attack that works by simply ignoring the normal social non-verbal agreements. If John ignores Jane's holiday suggestion and says nothing, he is rejecting the invitation to speak which is implied in her words. It is as though he is shutting a door in her face. If she complains, John might say, `Hey, what's the problem? In the short commute to our respective hotels we were transported back to the late 1980s as well, and to the fun times we'd had together. Wiping the tears of laughter away as we said our good-byes, we dreamed up ways we might reconnect again in the future. Your intimates offer you history, safety, trust, and openness in addition to the frequent opportunity to connect. The more trusting and open you are with someone else--and the more trusting and open that person is with you--the more points of connection each of you may find over which to share a laugh, or a common source of intrigue, serenity, or delight. What About Babies? Appreciating the deeply shared understanding and care that supports the micro-moments of love you feel with intimates can make you wonder whether newborns have the wherewithal to truly engage in love. While (most) parents love (most of) their newborns, are their newborns truly capable of loving them back? With their limited capacities, how can newborns muster up the selfless focus on others seemingly required by love? The trick is, they don't need to muster at all. Under the right prenatal conditions, newborns arrive thirsty for connection with caring adults, trusting and open. Think appreciation and good will, rather than condemnation, criticism, and nagging. The way to build a peaceful home and a happy marriage is to use a foundation of love, beauty, harmony, mutual respect, a common faith, and all things good. Let Go of a Troublesome Relationship I release ____.

He is in his true place at all times as am I. Each of us freely chooses to diverge and follow separate paths. I now decree that my words go forth into infinite mind and bring it to pass. Commentary: Relationships can be difficult to end, especially if the other person is unwilling to disengage. In such situations, bitterness and anxiety can fester. Decreeing an end to the relationship and envisioning the two of you heading off in separate directions sends a clear message through the ether that the relationship has ended. There are indeed many cases in which d-mode is the right tool, and in which the hare clearly comes out the winner. Imagine that you have a regular chessboard, an 8 x 8 chequered square, and you cut out two diagonally opposite corner squares (leaving 62 squares, see Figure 3). You make up 31 domino-shaped bits of cardboard, each of which neatly covers two squares on the board. You give me the mutilated board and the oblong pieces of card and ask me if I can exactly cover the 62 squares using the 31 bits of board, without cutting, bending or overlapping them. What do I do? My first thought may be that of course I can do it - 31 dominoes, each covering two squares; Your quizzical look, however, strongly suggests that it is not quite that simple. So what I then do is start laying out the dominoes on the board . As I am deep down convinced that it is possible, I keep shuffling the dominoes around hopefully; A large amount of time, and some emotional energy, are consumed. SERVE YOURSELF FIRST, THEN SERVE YOUR FRIENDS. On days when you feel like your hormones are in charge, give yourself a little bit of extra time to react to things, to people and to yourself. I'm feeling . BUT, CHESS, I DON'T KNOW WHAT I'M FEELING!

You know yourself better than anyone. So you know when you're not feeling yourself. I stood under a shower at 11. Everything had just weighed me down and my brain was desperate to release and empty it all. I wrapped myself up in my towel like I would do to a little child coming out of a bath. I wiped away my tears and told myself I was okay, like nothing had happened. If you tune in, your focus will be on the assessment of bodily feelings rather than glucometer readings. You'll learn how to do this in article 5. If you have to take a deep breath or unbutton your pants before your next bite, your body is telling you that it is full! Put down your fork and knife, push your plate away, and get up from the table. Please don't force your mind into a dilemma of unhealthy choices: eliminate temptation at home and at work. If ice cream in the refrigerator poses a temptation, pitch it. If potato chips, cheese, and crackers are your go-to snack, don't buy them! Dump the cookies in your desk drawer at work and pretend the junk food vending machine at the end of the hall doesn't exist. Temptations in your environment make healthy eating much more difficult. Figure out a way to eliminate temptations that trigger poor choices. Many are also appalled by the midwinter concomitant of days with hardly any sun at all. But even in the middle latitudes of the U. As for always rising with the sun, that would mean waking up as much as three hours earlier in late June, at the summer solstice, than at the winter solstice in late December. Modern life does not allow most people to make huge changes to their sleep habits according to the round of the seasons.

Even if it did, getting much more sleep in winter and much less in summer would not be kind to our systems. It is simply not practical for us to wake up at sunrise, except at those points in the year when the time of sunrise happens to match the needs of our daily schedule. If the sun is rising too early, we close the shades--but then we may miss the morning light signal altogether. If the sun is rising too late, we are stuck with alarm clocks that deliver an auditory shock regardless of our stage of sleep, and we begin the waking day in dim room light. This does not mean that we have to give up on achieving a healthy sleep pattern. But it does mean that we have to turn for help to new technologies that can replace what the circumstances of our lives have taken away.The bedroom of the future, in our view, will incorporate computer-regulated lighting technology that can simulate dusk and dawn. I Can't Go Everywhere Every conference speaker and author has to travel a lot. Before I began doing much speaking, that seemed like a glamorous life. But after logging several million miles, I know what kind of a toll it can take. Ironically, I still love traveling for pleasure with my wife, Margaret. It's one of our great joys. She and I could take ten vacations a year and enjoy every one of them. Yet we can't, because so much of my time is consumed doing what I was called to do: help people to grow personally and to develop as leaders. I Can't Be Well-Rounded Being focused also keeps me from being well-rounded. It's a classic and for a good reason; The ocean is our big mother. All ancient myths reflect this. There's not one creation story without the power of the waters, and even science has confirmed that all living beings evolved from the ocean.