It feels bad, but the positive intention of that pain is to protect you. It's the same with emotional pain; it can prompt you to take positive action. What about a difficult emotion such as regret? How can that be positive? The positive intent of regret is to prompt you to learn from what you now wish you had or hadn't done; to behave differently in future. Regret is only negative when you are stuck in regret; you allow it to keep you there and leave you feeling defeated and hopeless. But it's not the emotion that's negative, it's your thinking and lack of positive response! Furthermore, the fact that you know that emotions such as guilt and regret make you feel bad can actually motivate you, too. They can motivate you not to do something that could result in you feeling guilty or regretful. As your day is winding down and coming to a close, besides asking yourself what you learned and reflecting on the lessons of the day, determine whether the day was a win or a loss. Determine whether you let the day knock you around and take advantage of you or you knocked the day around and took advantage of it. Which side of it were you on? Were you the victim or the victor? Were you the aggressor or the retreater? Were you the hunter or the prey? Ask yourself, Was today a win or a loss? and then determine why. Take your day and dissect it, break it down, deconstruct it, analyze it, and learn from it. Look at every little detail. Find where you did a great job.

Find where you could have done better. Find you can improve. Find the things you weren't even aware of. Learn from all of it. Break your day down into as many parts as necessary and document what you learn. Was the first part of today a win? Why? What did I learn? What can I work on for tomorrow? Was the second part of today a win? Why? What did I learn? What can I work on for tomorrow? If you want rapid learning and progression, this is the way to do it. Go into your mind and relive the day. Relive the thoughts, emotions, and experiences. Draw from them. Learn from them. Document them. Study everything about them.

Learn about yourself so you can develop a deeper understanding of how you work and why you work that way. Figure yourself out so you get along and work with yourself better. Give your place a quick dusting by wiping down its flat surfaces with a damp cloth. Take an empty envelope and write the word "Receipts" on it. Mop your bathroom floor. Pay one of your bills. Find an unused binder and make it your place to keep your bills. Do one load of laundry. Wash your kitchen table. Throw out the empty box that's been taking up space in your closet. Set the clock on your microwave oven. Arrange your shoes. Habitual procrastination is often a progressive condition. This means that as the years pass, the procrastinator's bad habits usually worsen. One of those bad habits is our tendency to automatically look at the entire task as a whole. If we do that, we may make an initial self-statement like, "I just can't tackle it," or, "It's too complicated!" After making self-statements like either of those, our forward movement can come to a grinding halt. When we reach conclusions due to the faulty instructions we've given ourselves, just as faulty instructions will prevent a computer from executing a program, our functioning can also come to a halt. Most often, this resistance to action is the result of mentally biting off more than we can chew; in other words, if we unintentionally focus on the big picture, we can lose sight of the individual steps that are required to bring a task to completion. In order to combat this misstep, we need to make certain that our initial instruction is as simple and as basic as it can be. Parents also need to avoid giving advice (which, admittedly, is a hard habit for mothers and fathers to break).

While people with depression may want honest feedback at times, advice shouldn't be forced onto them. If they are prepared to listen, they will. Once a depressed child begins treatment, the first few weeks are going to be especially crucial. Parents need to provide encouragement and to be patient. For many people in treatment, whether as adults or adolescents, the temptation to simply give up is going to be particularly strong at first. Progress isn't going to come as fast as they might have originally hoped, and as a result, they may assume that the treatment isn't working and that the depression won't go away. At the same time, parents need to monitor their children to ensure that they keep taking medication or attend treatment as needed. All too frequently, particularly for people experiencing depression for the first time, many who find their mood lifting may decide that they have recovered and no longer need treatment. Parents and therapists need to work together to reinforce the importance of continuing the treatment and be willing to be a part of the treatment process. Simply knowing that their parents are supportive and accepting may play a critical role in patients learning how to deal with depression. I started working around my injuries by integrating the therapeutic and preventive use of exercise. Then I took it to the next level and began training as a body builder. I won first place in the Age 60 category and became a National Physique Committee (NPC) Masters Women's Figure Champion. Finally, I focused on the body, mind, and spirit connection. I discovered a wellness institute with credentialed, trained professionals to help me master self-healing. I learned how to meditate mindfully. I began practicing daily the power of transmutation, an act that shifts anger to forgiveness and physical pain to physical wellness. When I looked around at people I admired in life, I realized they all shared a common trait: bottomless discipline. Record-shattering athletes, leading businesspeople, and inspiring people in the arts exhibited discipline that made each of them an authority. If I was to be the leading authority on Carolyn Brent, I knew I had to also act with bottomless discipline.

What did that mean exactly? It meant going to the gym even when I didn't want to--which was often. It meant limiting how much I went out to restaurants because I could not control the food in the way I needed to keep my body feeling healthy. It meant practicing discipline every day about my spending habits so that I could live a life without the stress of unpaid bills. It meant surrounding myself only with positive relationships that nourished my soul, even when I longed for the passion of a lover. It meant doing these things every single day, even when I did not want to, by reaching into the bottomless store of discipline I knew I had that was nourished by my deep beauty and inner worth. If you are a mom or dad, what wouldn't you do for your children? You would starve so they had food in their mouths. Moms and dads do that every day around the world. If you were a child, what wouldn't you do for your aging parents? You would do what I did and joyously make sacrifices to give them the life they deserve. And if you were a best friend, spouse, or partner, what wouldn't you do for the person you love if that person was ill or in need? Emotions such as guilt, fear, anger, sadness and regret narrow your perspective and your thinking. There is a good reason for this; narrowed thinking focuses your attention on the `negative' situation so that it becomes the only thing you can think about in order that you take action. Positive action. Again, just like putting your hand on something hot, all your attention is focused on it, and your response is positive (and quick!). Supposing, for example, you're anxious about a test or an exam. The positive intent of anxiety is to focus your thoughts on what you need to revise. It starts to work against you, though, if the anxiety overwhelms you. Or, supposing one Friday evening you notice a mole on your arm that seems different.