There is always more to everything than it appears. That is why you need to look slightly out of the box to see the big picture. This will help you view things in a different way. Repetition makes things clear and they stick to the mind. This, after all, is why you're really here. It's a state of mind. At the end of these two weeks, you'll find that state of bliss, enjoyment, balance, and vitality that we know you're looking for. No more feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or adrift. No more striving to be just not stressed or experiencing temporary relief. It's past time to find the sustainable calm you're seeking and peacefully enjoy this life of yours to the fullest. The 14-Day Reboot We've distilled our program into 14 essential skills that will put you back in control of your life. The flow of these skills is scientifically designed to get the needle to move on your stress radar instantly--and then cumulatively. We've seen improvement for our clients in as little as one day. The child knows that the therapist will see him at the regular time, in the familiar room. He is protected against the guilt feelings which may follow acts of extreme destruction. However, it is important that a limit not be made the core of the problem. For example, a child is ordinarily not permitted to defecate in the playroom. If this happens, he is told that there is a toilet for his use, and that no one is allowed to defecate in the playroom. The therapist would state that if he felt he had to break this rule, he would have to leave the playroom for the rest of that day, although he could return for the next contact.

The child would thus be allowed to make the decision as to whether he would choose to end his play contact by his action. However, if the child's problem were a lack of bowel control, the therapist would not invoke this limit. If the therapist could not honestly accept such behavior, it would probably be better to transfer the case. Otherwise, the therapist's open loathing or ill-concealed guilt at his own rejection of the child might add to the child's difficulties. Repeatedly learning new things will make them stick in your mind. Another great way of keeping something that you have learnt in the mind is teaching or talking about it. You can as well create a course and teach it to other people. Organize your time As we begin to move forward to create and achieve the life you desire, I want to share with you some time management tools. I have found them simple yet highly effective in planning and achieving what I want in life. Research on students who improved their time management skills showed a positive effect on their perceived performance and life satisfaction. If you want to be happy and focused on your goals then learning to manage and prioritize your time for what is important is essential. Here are some steps to freeing up time and creating space to prioritize your happiness: There are not enough hours in the day! We've front-loaded this program to give you the maximum benefit as quickly as possible in order to motivate you to keep going. The 14-Day Reboot is very simple to follow. All you need to do is commit 15 to 30 minutes per day. That's all: 15 to 30 minutes daily for 14 days to completely turn your life around. It's a small investment of time for a very significant payoff. Each day, we'll take you through one of the key skills, giving you exact instructions for how to put it to immediate use in your everyday life.

Read the material and follow our cues to write your daily plan for implementing the skill. Really, that's it. We've done the rest. Good habits are easier to make and keep when you believe you're worth it. Some limits will depend upon the physical circumstances of the playroom. If it is a schoolroom which is also used for classes, there will probably be a rule against pouring paint on the floor. If the therapy room is not used for other purposes, there would be less need to protect the floor. However, if a child asks the reason for a particular limit, it seems wisest to be honest if the rule is a personal one. Thus, You can't play with my eyeglasses because I don't want to risk their being broken is preferable to The school (or the clinic) says you can't play with my eyeglasses. The child will usually spot an attempted deceit, and this will be of no help in therapy. Some Questions Regarding Limits The current thinking about the problem of therapeutic limits illustrates further the developing nature of the client-centered approach to play therapy. There is now far more concern with the problem of determining just what activity restrictions are required in order to permit the therapist to remain emotionally accepting of the child. Indeed, some therapists believe that this is the only reason for having limits. I hear this a lot and I've uttered it many times myself in the past. Do you feel constantly busy? Are you on the go from morning till night? At the end of the day, do you collapse on the couch in an exhausted heap? Do all your good intentions of the day go out the window and instead of a healthy snack or tackling a project, you zone out on Netflix and wine? In our busy lifestyles where we are rewarded for looking and being busy, it's easy to feel overwhelmed and exhausted.

And when we try to set goals or make changes we often end up trying to squeeze things into our already overfilled schedules. This cannot work long term. I know this from a few years ago when I wanted to start exercising. I had an extremely busy job. You deserve to be a top priority. We all have big ideas of how we'd like our lives to be. But putting new habits in place and replacing bad ones is where the rubber meets the road. While it isn't easy, there are few things that can change your life more dramatically than learning to manage your stress. You just have to believe your life is worth it. You can never get today back. The small events that you worry about end up having so little impact on you long-term. How much of your life have you given up to being anxious about them? Or the bigger question: How many hours and days do you have left, and how do you want to spend them? Because it is. There is, however, no unanimity of opinion on this issue. As those therapists who feel more tolerant report the results of their experiments with letting the child take home toys, paint the therapist's face, urinate in the playroom, and the like, the best therapeutic course will become more evident. Another change in our thinking on the matter of limits concerns the question of whether to allow a child to bring another to his therapy contact. In earlier days, it was felt that this was the child's way of evading therapy and making it just another play situation. For this reason, it was not usually permitted. Subsequent experiences with group therapy have led to reconsideration of this problem.

In group play therapy, the child's adjustment difficulties are often brought out quite strikingly, and very early in the process. Many children have been helped by group therapy, although the relationship with the therapist is apt to be less close than in individual therapy. Thus far, there are no clear criteria for deciding whether to offer group or individual therapy in a given case. One procedure which has been tried with some apparent success is to accept a child for one weekly individual play contact, and to allow him to join a group for a second contact if he wishes. Most days I worked overtime and each day I was mentally exhausted. I kept trying to fit in some exercise but often it was too late, or I needed to eat or I felt too tired or unmotivated. If I did find some time it was completely inconsistent and unsustainable. Breaking a day down and thinking of it as 24 hours helps us to see it as a wider stretch of time. But what I have found even more helpful in terms of seeing just how much time we have in our lives is to think of our time over 1 week. Or 168 hours. When we start to think of 168 hours instead of just 24 hours we begin to see how possible it's to do things we really want to do. The things that will make and sustain our happiness. So, let's get started! EXERCISE 1: Time Tracker Calm Your Emotions The Payoff: Freedom from debilitating emotions and a deeper reserve of composure and clarity Stress, as we know it, is a feeling. When we're in the positive zone of happiness, pride, fulfillment, and the like, life feels pretty good. We're in control and content. But when we get sucked into a vortex of negative emotions, like anxiety, anger, frustration, sadness, and guilt, we not only feel bad--we get a double whammy because those emotions cloud our thinking and prevent us from effectively solving the problems we're facing.