The leaders shouldn't be held to a different standard as the employee. If a mistake is made, they should be held accountable for the error just as the employees are. Communication is one of the critical tools a leader can have. This way, the employees know what he expects out of them, and he knows what the employees expect of him. Open communication will bring trust into the company byways of letting everyone be heard. The company will feel more as a team if everyone is able to voice ideas and concerns without being punished or disregarded. Even if the idea wasn't implemented, the employee still felt heard. When conflict or difficult conversations come up, the leader has to be able to convey what needs to transpire. The fluttering in his stomach returned him to the more sober confines of his real world: the one in which he had not yet found a way to be real with Kyra. He knew Dr Matt is an enthusiastic proponent of authenticity--being real with oneself and others--and Ben knew that the word on the whiteboard was a near-guarantee that, coupled with his desire for some good advice and a solid dose of courage to take things further with Kyra, his. issue would be a topic of conversation during this evening's weekly gathering of sojourners. Ben truly wanted to get the conversation with Kyra out of the way, but how? He closed his eyes, breathed deeply from the diaphragm as Dr Matt had shown him, released the tensed muscles in his shoulders, and let go of the doubt that nagged him about his future with this woman. Surprisingly, Ben felt an uptick of confidence in his ability to figure this thing out. Darrell's customary loud entry made Ben jump: Yo-yo-yo, my man! How goes it? Ben recovered quickly from being startled. He smiled broadly as he strode toward Darrell, hand outstretched in warm greeting. If you remember from the earlier articles in this article, there are certain professions that go very well with your natural tendency to be an empath. It is a good idea for anyone with this skill to use it more as a career and allow it to open up all of the people around you that much more.

You can give your gift to society when you consider how your skills can benefit the working world and whatever profession you choose to follow. Anything you do as a career can offer empathy, and when you are feeling confident in your abilities, you make your work that much more fulfilling, by utilizing your skills and abilities to help other people feel good in what they do as well. If you have learned how to master your emotions, then you will not have a need to compete, and you can just offer support to any individual who is looking for a leg up, while you continue to climb your own life ladders. What you can do as a career will depend on who you are as a person and how you want to define yourself in this life. You may not wish to support yourself financially as an empath, choosing a career that would honor that gift and bring it to the forefront. For you, your empathy may be better used close to home, friends, family, and personal relationships. Regardless of your professions, you will always bring empathy into the folds of all of your life experience when you accept that you have this gift and that you want to use it for good. In the previous articles, you have discovered so many facts and details about what being a true empath can look and feel like and what kinds of situations can be the most challenging and difficult for you. If employees and management are talking and understanding what is expected of each of them, then, the company as a whole will be stronger. Everyone is understanding clearly what is expected. Using simple manners will go a long way, as well. Please and thank you hold respect for the individuals. Showing appreciation lets a person know they make a difference. That will go a long way in a company. The leader should have compassion and empathy for the employees and understand what they are going through and how they feel. The leader should know his people. Know them on a personal level. If Jamie's mother has breast cancer, then, the leader should know this and consider asking how her mother is doing and how Jamie is doing. Oh, hey, man. I'm good--hell, I'm even great!

Darrell cocked his head and stared, squinty-eyed, as he accepted the offer of a handshake. Why do I sense a female's involved, young fella? Ben turned crimson. He took a deep cleansing breath but grinned. Aw, you busted me, you ole reprobate. Darrell pulled the handshake in close and made it a hug. Now, that's great to hear. I hope that works out for you, Ben. It is not a bad thing to be so sensitive to other people's feelings and emotions, and even when it feels awful at the moment, if you follow the instructions in articles 5 and 6 about developing your skills and mastering your emotions, then you will be able to act confidently with your gift. Not all people will be as open as you are and may not understand how you are able to work in these ways. Once you allow your gift to take hold of your identity and give yourself the confidence to support it, there may be people in your life, even close relatives and partners, who feel unhappy that you are in such control of your feelings, in a way they have not yet discovered. This is a great time for your empathic abilities to show up. When you have educated yourself to be more emotionally intelligent, receptive, and agile, then you can support yourself and your emotions through all of your relationships. You will be able to regard anyone else's feelings as a matter of importance, and while you show them your newfound skills and mastery, you may even be able to invoke their own learning process. Empaths are very gifted at leading by example: it's not pushy or forceful; it is simply a part of your emotional skills and nature to be in a better balance with your feelings, once you have learned how to develop your gift. This can lead to other people seeing that there is a good opening for them to look at things like you do as well. Keep in mind that you have to do the work to understand your feelings before you can be a masterful empath. If Walter is going through a divorce and his work is suffering, a leader would ask what is going on instead of just assuming Walter is lazy and slacking. People want to know others' care, and a great leader will relay that to their people.

For a leader to have emotional intelligence skills will help the leader resolve conflict and promote team mental models. Understand how the employees feel, and the concerns they have will help the leader be better equipped to resolve conflict and disagreements. Choosing their words will also help a leader dissolve a disagreement. The leader should have compassion and empathy for the employees. Understanding the employees will give you an advantage on how to deal with problems that arise. A good leader with team-building skills will promote the idea that everyone's opinion count and the views and concerns will be heard. Not everyone's plan may be used, but everyone voiced their idea. Keeping employees or team motivated is essential. I really do. Dr Matt entered the room. There's two of my favorite men on the planet. How you doin', boys? Darrell quipped, Just fine, Doc, just fine. In fact, if we was any better, vitamins would be takin' us! Dr Matt nodded appreciatively. Now, that's one I haven't heard in a while. They heard voices approaching, and seconds later Patty and Felicia entered, smiling conspiratorially as if they'd shared a joke. As was Patty's habit, she gave a cursory wave to the men and made for the restroom to reapply her lipstick. You are always responsible for your own emotional state and your reactions to other people and situations, and if you don't connect those dots, then you won't be very good at helping anyone else, let alone yourself. When you accept this as a gift, you will understand all of the different ways that you can be a good friend, colleague, ally, partner, mother, father, stranger, and guide in the waters of life.

Everyone has the capacity to be empathic, but not all people would call themselves empaths. It can be developed and strengthened, and if you want to use these powers to help other people and yourself, then acceptance is a great place to start. Answer some of the following questions to decide if you are ready to accept your gift and deepen your skills as an empath: Are you excited to talk to others about life, problems, emotions, personal issues, growth, and transformation? Are you willing to offer your time and energy to be supportive and helpful to other people? Do you feel happy when you have had an intense conversation with someone and know that they needed someone to talk to about it all? Are you interested in being a mentor, mediator, counselor, or healer? Do you like problem-solving your own feelings? Daily routines can take a toll on the team to stay motivated. This is where a leader can encourage and create challenges to improve motivation. Tish noticed that her employees were losing motivation as the month went on. A lot of projects needed to be finished and the company was under a lot of pressure to complete several big ones. Tish noticed this lack of motivation and gathered everyone together and took them outside for a break in the sun. They threw a football, and others just sat and enjoyed the sun. Once back inside the team seemed to be more focused and back on track. The leader needs to notice how the team is functioning and what the needs of the team are. Being clear on their needs will help operations move more smoothly, and the employees will be willing to be loyal to the company. This will also create trust between management and employees. At the sight of the men, Felicia cast her eyes to the floor, her ever-present anxiety withering her smile. Then she read the blue-lettered word on the whiteboard and seemed to recede into herself as she held her breath.