Then I'll talk about ways to bounce back and move on from situations that have been dragging you down for a while. I'll show you how to deal with uncertainty and ambiguity gracefully and skillfully. And finally I'll cover some advice on the best way to handle a situation where someone else has let you down, so you can keep merrily sailing along. Keeping a Cool Head There are many different types of onions, in shape, colour of the outer scales (red, pink, yellow, white), spiciness (from sweet to very pungent) and storage life. Red onions, my favourite, contain the highest levels of flavonols, while yellow onions contain only half as much. Interestingly, the Italian sweet red onion, Tropea, a staple in the diet of centenarians in Mediterranean countries, contains high concentrations of taxifolin, a compound that has been shown to be a powerful inhibitor of many types of cultured cancer cells. Other vegetables that I love to eat are asparagus, artichokes, garden peas, cucumbers and radishes. They call contain bioactive compounds. WHITE POTATOES ARE STARCH BOMBS White potatoes don't behave like most other vegetables - they are starch bombs. Several studies suggest that people who consume seven or more servings per week of baked, boiled, mashed and especially fried potatoes have a higher risk of developing type 2 diabetes compared to those who consume less than one serving per week. In Australia and the US, potatoes are the most consumed vegetable, with Americans each consuming on average 52kg (114 lb) of potatoes every year, of which two-thirds are French fries and potato chips. Fried potatoes are the worst. The power of his meditation immediately pacified the elephant. As the story goes, the elephant screeched to a halt and bowed on his knees to pay respect to the Buddha. We see similar, although less dramatic, events nowadays. Several people who are not Buddhists have told me (Chodron) of their experience attending a public talk by His Holiness the Dalai Lama. As soon as the Dalai Lama entered the auditorium, and before he had even begun his talk, they were overwhelmed with an emotion difficult to describe--perhaps it was hope, joy or love--and tears filled their eyes. A dear friend helped to arrange for my ninety-year-old father to meet the Dalai Lama as His Holiness was returning to his hotel room after giving a talk.

My father is not a Buddhist. In fact, he has a scientific approach to life and is not religious even in the faith that he was raised in. The Dalai Lama saw my father and went over to him. They talked for maybe thirty seconds and then someone snapped a picture of them together, the Dalai Lama's arm around my father. As a young man, Bartek knew he wanted to work with food. But when he first arrived in London from Poland, he had to take the first job that came along: mopping floors in a hotel where he remembers corridors so long you could see the curvature of the earth. His breakthrough came when he managed to persuade the hotel chef to let him try out for a job in the restaurant kitchen--and from that point, he built a flourishing career in the catering industry, eventually becoming a senior manager in a successful company making soup and stews. Bartek ran their day-to-day operations while helping the owners expand the business. But in 2012, disaster struck. He had decided the company should expand production capacity to meet an expected surge in demand from visitors flooding into London for the 2012 Olympics. But that wasn't how it turned out. Everyone had forecast that the Olympics was going to be amazing for businesses in London. Orders would be hard to fill because of the demand, and hard to deliver because the roads would be jammed with visitors. I devoted a lot of time to making sure that we were on top of it. We found that people who eat fried potatoes two to three times per week have an increased mortality risk. WILD EDIBLE WEEDS: A WELL OF NUTRIENTS Did you know that several wild common weeds are edible and more nutritious than any vegetables you can buy in a store? Because they have not been bred commercially, they possess higher concentrations of vitamins, oligo-elements and phytochemicals. Typical vegetables are bred in protected fields to optimise yield, for bigger and less bitter leaves. In contrast, edible wild vegetables have been naturally selected to resist adverse conditions, including cold, aridity, wild animals and insects.

This is why they are loaded with phytochemicals. These weeds are healthier, and produce a stronger, more alive taste. Take for example, wild dandelion, plantain, borage, clover, purslane, wild brassica, mallow, Japanese knotweed, nettles, chickweed, sheep's sorrel and ground ivy: all these can be added to our salads to enhance taste and nutrient content. Wild dandelions, which are an excellent source of vitamin A, vitamin K, calcium and iron, can be eaten raw in a salad, and the leaves can also be cooked and eaten like spinach. There were tears in my father's eyes. My friend Lee was taken to the hospital after spending the night on a rock ledge following a rock-climbing accident. As he described it, the accident and subsequent hospitalization were like being in hell. His wife brought a picture of the Dalai Lama to hang in his little curtained-off space in the hospital. As Lee told it, After seeing the photo of His Holiness the Dalai Lama, I felt immense relief just knowing with absolute certainty that someone was thinking about the suffering of others. Now I know from personal experience how much it means just to know someone is aware of your suffering when you are trapped. This is the kind of peace that we can extend to others when we cultivate compassion. It is also the peace that we experience when being around those who have cultivated deep compassion. Compassionate Inspiration Reflecting on people or ideas that we find inspiring can fuel our compassion for others. We hired more drivers and leased more vans. We were so ready, Bartek says. I thought we'd not just protect our existing business, but also pick up new business from restaurants whose suppliers hadn't planned as well as we had. Then the first day of the Olympics arrived. We all left home early to get to work on time, thinking that traffic would be terrible--but the roads were completely clear. Our fleet of delivery trucks completed their rounds and were back at the depot within three hours.

It was the first of a series of terrible days. Instead of booming, orders were down, and the business was losing money. It was really tough. And personally, it felt like people were questioning everything I did. NOTE: You must be very careful to forage for edible weeds safely - you need to be absolutely certain that the weeds you are picking are what you think they are and also that they are growing in healthy unpolluted soils. It is essential to know beyond any reasonable doubt that what you are consuming is edible; Look out for edible weed foraging courses so you can learn about the plants that can be safely foraged.Eastern and Western cultures have always been interchanging at various levels within different cultural contexts. In fact, everything that we have seen from the time of science's flourish and transformation to current developments in advanced technologies, are testimonies to West winds gradually blowing to the East. Within the realms of consciousness, spiritualism, esotericism, and folk culture, the East has transmitted a great deal of knowledge to the West. Geomancy [divination through lines and figures] is a case in point. Since the publication of four feng shui masterpieces by the multi-talented feng shui expert and scholar, Sarah Rossbach (Feng Shui: The Chinese Art of Placement; Interior Design with Feng Shui; Living Color: Master Lin Yun's Guide to Feng Shui and the Art of Color; Having seen Suzan Hilton's The Feng Shui of Abundance, I feel that it too is a new force in feng shui suddenly come to the fore. Bring to mind an individual--perhaps a teacher, spiritual figure, historical figure or a pet--that exhibits pure kindness. Your source of inspiration could be a poem, song, phrase, mantra or symbol. You may also be inspired by an idea, such as imagining world peace or envisioning a world free of hunger. Think of ways to build this reminder into your life, to provide inspiration when you most need it. You may want to post a picture of your inspirational figure on your desk at work, or print out the poem or phrase, tape it to a place where you'll see it in the morning when you get up or make it the screen saver on your computer screen. The key is to consider what things will inspire you to connect with your compassionate aspirations and to find ways to bring these inspiring reminders into your daily life.

WHEN WE ARE MISERABLE, what we often want most is to feel connected to others. Yet our actions frequently have the opposite effect. Sometimes we pick a fight with someone close to us just to feel connected to him in some way. Other times we throw ourselves a pity party, replete with lead balloons and a soundtrack playing poor me, poooor me, poor meeeee, poooor meeee, set on a loop so that it becomes the background Muzak that permeates all other thoughts, if not the major sound in our heads. Bartek felt so bad about the situation that he was finding it hard to think straight. He could feel his muscles tightening up, which he realized was a sign his brain was on the defensive--something he was well equipped to recognize, thanks to his martial arts training. He knew he needed to find a way to manage his reaction, to chill out enough to bring his brain's deliberate system back online so he could figure out the right way forward. Luckily, Bartek knew just how to do that (which means I can reassure you that his story has a happy ending). Let me explain the kind of tactics he used. A powerful way of quickly reducing our levels of worry, anger, or frustration is to do what behavioral scientists call affect labeling. Years of research suggests that if we can name the negative emotion we're experiencing and describe succinctly what's causing that feeling, we can reduce its hold on us. One study by UCLA researchers had four groups of arachnophobes confront a live tarantula and get as close to touching it as they could. I'm not afraid of it. A third group distracted themselves by talking about something completely different, while a control group said nothing at all. Basing her initial observations and analysis on logic and incorporating many transcendental ideas, and through her systematic analysis of the linkage between body and mind of the East and the West, the author shows the reader how to increase wealth and create abundance. She teaches us to combine the essence of eastern and western cultures based on the principle of harmonizing ru-shi--the mundane/rational/reasonable/logical, and chu-shi--the transcendental. Supplemented with wonderful illustrations, The Feng Shui of Abundance emphasizes the West's practical methods, including minimizing waste and extravagance, knowing when one is spending beyond one's means, stimulating wealth generation with your money, and saving. Using the River of Gold as a metaphor, Ms. Hilton, with her excellent background as a certified public accountant, teaches the reader how to stimulate new creativity by paying attention to body sensations, emotional responses, and rational analysis, and emphasizes the importance and influence of feng shui. Through these methods, the reader will learn how to stabilize unsuccessful and unstable financial situations amidst financial turbulence, and how to navigate to safety amid the torrents of financial crisis.