GOOD HEALTH CARE COMES WITH SELF-ADVOCACY JEN MCLELLAN OF PLUS SIZE BIRTH Health care may not be the sexiest topic, but it sure is an important one. Oftentimes care providers come with their own biases, but you might forget this . BE RUTHLESS Review your piles and let go of all the broken, old things and the stuff you don't use. It's taking up space in your home and you don't need it. You can use that space for things that make you smile. CLEAN EVERYWHERE Remove all traces of dirt and dust from the area (see the next article for more on this). STORE THINGS WELL The best storage solutions are those that work for you and your routine. I've included lots of tips here, but spend time thinking about how you would like to access your items and what is most important in your house. What works for me might not work for you. Teaching in Finland became a prestigious profession where master's degrees were required to teach on every level. And only 10 percent of applicants are even chosen to begin teacher training. Once they had jobs, teachers often stayed in the profession until they retired. Perhaps the most important benefit of having supereducated instructors is that a better-trained teacher is more adept at teaching children how to learn, whereas the coach-turned-geography-teacher will often teach how to memorize. Finnish education reflects that: it focuses on teaching students how to think, not what to think. That, says Wagner, is core to making school both interesting and valuable.

As the saying, attributed to Dr Seuss, goes: It is better to know how to learn than to know. Finnish schools cut curricular fat, so they could dedicate time to training students vocational skills. Instead of abstract theory, students got hands-on practice. Instead of a surface-level understanding of every topic ever, they went deep in fewer. Sometimes being cautious is the best way to proceed, but equally, sometimes it's not and can interfere with living life to the full. Anxiety disengages the part of the brain essential for making good decisions - the prefrontal cortex - by reducing its capacity to screen out distractions, which happens because the amygdala becomes overactive. Anxiety also tricks children into believing that there are right and wrong choices, because anxious people tend to practise worst-case-scenario thinking, where consequences are always dire. This can lead to a fear of making the wrong choice: What if I choose the wrong thing, and then this happens? <a href=''>Making</a> decisions <a href=''>Simplicity</a> Parenting cautions against overwhelming all children with choices before they're good and ready. <a href=''>Like</a> most parenting decisions we make, it's about taking a step back and gauging your child's level of development, their state of mind and their ability to make choices. <a href=''>Encouraging</a> choice-making is a way of empowering your child and teaching them to live with the good and bad consequences of each choice, a hugely valuable lesson in life. <a href=''>It's</a> all about balance, balance and more balance when it comes to offering choices to anxious kids. <a href=''>If</a> you find that your child's anxiety is affecting their decision-making, reduce the number of choices. <a href=''>Now</a> think about what you need to do to help each plate spin better, to improve your score, to prevent the plate from crashing. <a href='[]=<a+href=></a>'>What</a> do you need to stop doing? <a href=''>What</a> do you need to start doing? <a href='[]=<a+href=></a>'>Not</a> all plates have to spin equally at the same height, but they all need some level of intentional investment to stop crashing. <a href=''>If</a> the relationship plate is close to crashing, what do you need to do to lift it? <a href=''>If</a> the career business plate is starting to lose momentum, what do you need to do to refuel it? <br /><br /><a href=''>What</a> about you: what do you need to do, just for you, to ensure you're harnessing your energy in the best way possible? <a href=''>And</a> which plate right now is okay to be spinning that little bit lower than the others? <a href=''>Sometimes</a> work needs more energy and time; <a href=''>And</a> sometimes you need to attach the oxygen mask to yourself, to take a break. <a href=''>Suddenly,</a> I realized, Isn't it the same as my counting flower petals? <a href=''>When</a> childlike innocence is evoked in a person, they will certainly grow happy and calm. <a href=''>Relieving</a> Fatigue through Poetry and Meditating <a href=''>I</a> often worked more than 16 hours a day when I was a doctor. <a href=''>In</a> addition, I also had to regularly give emergency treatment to patients. <a href=''>However,</a> I never felt exhausted. <a href=''>This</a> had a great deal to do with my unique method of relieving fatigue. <a href=''>When</a> I entered the Shaolin Temple in childhood, my master taught me a poem composed by the Tang poet Wang Wei (701-761): <a href=''>An</a> Autumn Evening in My Villa <a href=''>In</a> the empty mountains, fresh after a shower, <a href=''>The</a> first two swimmers--the lights and sounds--are always in perfect unison. <a href=''>The</a> third swimmer is your brain. <a href=''>When</a> you put the device on, it's as though your brain is jumping into the pool to join these two old-school, hairpinned beauties. <a href=''>Your</a> brain, though, would be a Lucille Ball-type character who does a cannonball into the pool. <a href=''>At</a> first, Lucille is all over the place. <a href=''>She's</a> definitely not in perfect unison. <br /><br /><a href=''>She's</a> probably kicking sporadically and splashing the families watching the show in their tuxes and gowns. <a href=''>In</a> a way, she's an anxious and conscious version of your brain. <a href=''>But</a> then something magical happens: Lucille learns the art of synchronized swimming. <a href=''>Within</a> a few minutes, she falls into line with the other two perfectly poised swimmers. <a href=''>Apart</a> from the increased risk of sadness or depression, and the need to establish good sleeping habits by the onset of adulthood, adolescents who don't get enough sleep are also more likely to lack concentration, be more irritable or moody, be increasingly clumsy and hurt themselves, and fall asleep during classes or at work. <a href=''>Alarmingly,</a> under-25s cause more than half the road-traffic accidents that occur in the USA as a direct result of the driver's sleepiness. <a href=''>The</a> solutions <a href=''>If</a> you're a parent, encourage your son or daughter into a weektime activity schedule that isn't crammed full with evening commitments. <a href=''>Encourage</a> good sleep hygiene, including making sure they that have a bedtime routine and that they go to bed and get up at roughly the same times every day - even at the weekends. <a href=''>Research</a> shows that youngsters sleep less if they have a TV, computer or other gadget in their bedroom. <a href=''>If</a> possible, keep all this gear out of the bedroom, but if you can't, then divide the room up so that the bed is clearly reserved for sleep only. <a href=''>Loft</a> beds are great for this: the space underneath the bed becomes a room in itself, suitable for activity; <a href=''>Teens</a> with cell phones will often not be parted with them. <a href=''>Insist</a> on the use of an app that acts as an alarm clock, but also can be set to automatically cut the link with the telephone network and WiFi. <a href=''>For</a> example, suggest you give yourselves two hours, plus tea, to declutter your winter clothes, or go through shoes, scarves, accessories and make-up. <a href=''>If</a> they bag them up as you go along, you're less likely to have second thoughts. <a href=''>They</a> can help you focus on clearing the way for better things. <a href=''>Above</a> all, be the heroine of your own life, not the victim. <a href=''>NORA</a> EPHRON <a href=''>Curb</a> your enthusiasm <br /><br /><a href=''>I</a> see you, with your posh storage catalogue. <a href=''>I</a> see you because I have been you, sitting there with my cup of coffee, Lakeland catalogue and block of Post-it notes, trying to convince myself that if I buy that crate, that magazine box or those drawer dividers, the job's as good as done. <a href='[]=<a+href=></a>'>It</a> really isn't. <a href=''>If</a> sorting out your home were a cake, sourcing the sundry smart storage gubbins would be the equivalent of sprinkles on the top. <a href=''>You</a> will need a small saucepan, an egg, a large spoon and a timer. <a href=''>Fill</a> the pan with sufficient water to cover the egg. <a href=''>Place</a> the pan on the stove and bring the water to a rolling boil. <a href=''>Gently</a> lower the egg into the water with the spoon and reduce the heat to a gentle boil. <a href=''>Cooking</a> times are based on medium-sized eggs (for large eggs add 30 seconds extra): <a href=''>When</a> done, lift the egg out of the water. <a href=''>For</a> softer-boiled eggs, tap the top to crack the shell and prevent further cooking and serve. <a href=''>For</a> hard-boiled eggs, drain the water from the pan and run the egg under cold water to cool it and prevent grey yolks. <a href=''>HOW</a> TO SEPARATE EGGS <a href=''>Have</a> two bowls, a saucer and a small cup ready. <a href=''>These</a> men are the real Alexanders. <a href=''>The</a> real conquerors. <a href=''>In</a> one of my favourite Bollywood songs as a child, Amitabh Bachchan's character Sikander travels on his bike in the crowded street of Bombay and sings, Everyone arrives (in this world) crying, but the one who exits laughing is the conqueror of his destiny. <a href=''>Life</a> is unfaithful, one day it will leave you. <a href=''>Death</a> is a lover; <a href=''>The</a> one who will teach the world how to live after dying, will be calledmuqaddar kaa sikandar' (the conqueror of his destiny).