It has been a treasured theory that those of us who have the authority -- by virtue of title, salary, or what have you -- to make decisions, actually do make them; When these preliminaries to a decision have been well conducted, usually only one wise decision is possible. The making of decisions, of course, is not a function reserved for the top. They are being made constantly at all levels in an industrial organization. Chronic activation of our stress system also increases our allostatic load, which ups our risk for a long list of conditions and maladaptive behaviors, including anxiety attacks, metabolic disorders, and yeast infections, to name but a few. BRINGING IT HOME Being treated poorly, being oppressed, is painful not just materially and emotionally, but also physically. Being excluded, rejected, insulted, demeaned--or, in my case, misgendered--contributes to a physiologic stress response, making stress not just biological, but inherently political. Reading this stuff isn't easy, is it? The good news is you always have opportunity to rewire your brain to better support you. Just as stressful events can forge neural pathways, so can healing practices. You can harness this phenomenon--called neuroplasticity--to build new and better neural pathways in your brain and come out stronger and better for the adversity you've weathered. We'll learn how in article 10. But first, we should talk more specifically about trauma and how it alters your brain. What's the bottom line of what you're doing there? I'm grocery shopping to get nutritious food for my family. While this may not be a great adventure, it is a noble deed. That small shift changes this from a drag into an active, engaged choice. ADD IN THE GOOD STUFF What nourishes you?

What makes you smile? What gives you that internal lift of joy, contentment, or pride? A little later, you'll identify your personal good stuff and make a plan for easily adding it in. DO ACTIVE ACCOUNTING Thus, decision-making is seen as a process -- a procedure by which relevant data are obtained from and examined by the total group. Those of us who have tried working in a group in which all members are given opportunity to participate in making decisions sometimes wonder how it was possible for us in past leadership roles to base our decisions on such inadequate data and on so few of the pertinent elements, the most important of which are often the attitudes and feelings of the members. Freedom of Communication A second condition which the group-centered leader attempts to create is the absence of barriers to free communication between all members of the group. In most groups or organizations this condition is seldom met. Why is it necessary for all the members of a group to be able to communicate freely with one another? There seem to be at least two important reasons for this. First, if there are barriers to free communication between individuals, hostile attitudes developing as a result of normal interpersonal conflicts are much less likely to be resolved. This is Newcomb's thesis in his stimulating article on autistic hostility. Hostile impulses commonly arise, then, when status-relationship is so perceived that another is viewed as a threat. This belief denies the inequity in opportunity. We'll discuss these in more detail later in this article. The -x suffix replaces the standard -o/-a that is typically used in Spanish to denote male or female. As you will read later in the text, I consider obesity to be a stigmatizing term. Hereafter, the word obesity will occur in quotation marks, signifying that I am using the term to refer to others' usage. It takes time, effort, and practice to dump diet culture thinking and regain body trust.

That's why I wrote an entire article about it, Health at Every Size, with more updated ideas in the coauthored Body Respect. THIS IS YOUR BRAIN ON TRAUMA These are all common symptoms experienced by traumatized people. While most of us can check off hell, yeah to a number of these questions, not all of us would qualify for an official trauma diagnosis. Balancing the good and bad events is an ongoing endeavor. It's something you'll need to do every day, and the way to keep yourself on track is through active accounting. Deploying this skill in your daily life is startlingly easy. For every bad, irritating, annoying, or aggravating thing that happens, consciously try to create something good to counteract it. Try to keep it in the same domain: home, work, physical, achievement, social, and so on. For instance, if you have a difficult morning with one of your kids, spend some time that day thinking about something positive you can do with them that weekend to balance it out. If you have a setback at work, reach out to someone you've been thinking of getting in touch with to launch an idea that you're excited about. At first, this will take conscious effort, but within just a few days, it will start to become habit. Take Action Follow these steps to strike the Four Corners of Balance in your daily life. If, as a result of a hostile attitude emerging from the newly perceived status relationship, communication with the other person is avoided, the conditions necessary for eliminating the hostile attitude are not likely to occur. Freedom of communication, then, is a necessary condition for friendly interpersonal relations between members of a group. A group fighting within itself and not communicating is seldom capable of adequate adjustive behavior. A second reason why free communication is a requirement for an effective group is that it is important for group members to develop mutual understandings -- sign-processes common to all the members, as the semanticists would say. It is difficult for a group to reach agreement as to the most appropriate action in a particular situation if the various members interpret the situation in radically different ways -- that is, if the situation for each person has a different meaning and this meaning is not shared by the others in the group. The writer recently carried out a project aimed at the development of a more objective method of evaluating pilots than the methods in current use.

Strong opposition to the project was encountered almost immediately, forcing the researchers to engage in extensive communication with those who were blocking the project. Only after many conferences and discussions did it become clear that the proposed evaluation procedures had different meanings for different groups of people, somewhat as follows: The researchers: The proposed procedures meant a more reliable, more objective, more diagnostic, and more valid measure of pilot performance. They would help the airline companies by weeding out the poorer pilots, and they would help the pilot by insuring him against inaccurate and prejudiced assessments of his skill. Regardless of whether we meet the criteria for a trauma diagnosis, we can all benefit from trauma-informed care. Trauma-informed care recognizes that mean, harmful, or antisocial behavior usually arises from a person's harsh experiences rather than from malicious intent. In other words, a trauma or a trauma-like experience triggers your survival system and sets your current behaviors in motion. Consider the above behaviors from a survival perspective. If your life is threatened, you're going to want strategies in place to protect yourself and survive. This means you want to be hypervigilant, you want to avoid situations where you're not in control, you want to react quickly to events or unfamiliar noises, you want to sleep lightly and be awakened easily, you want to have intense memories of specific painful events in your life so you can watch for them again. Distrusting others is extremely helpful. After all, people have let you down and you're not going to allow that to happen again. Being angry at times helps you protect yourself. Being depressed at times stops you from being too active--and putting yourself out there spells more danger. Step One: Ditch the Drudge We're going to start by getting a handle on how you spend your time. At the start of your day today (or tomorrow, if you're reading this in the evening), think through your schedule and to-do list, and identify the activities--big or small--that you hate to do. Your list might look something like this: My Drudge List Delegate to De-stress

Does the idea of delegating make you want to slam this article shut and say we just don't understand? Rest assured, we do. Jan has helmed multiple large corporations, and she knows firsthand the pull to do everything herself--as well as the enormous value in trusting your team and delegating. If delegating causes big emotions to come up for you, use the skill you learned on Day 6 to identify and navigate around your control beliefs (eg, I have to do everything myself if I want it done right). The pilots: The proposed procedures meant debasing the pilots' profession by assuming it was possible to quantify their performance as has been done for unskilled workers. The procedures meant a powerful tool which management could employ as an excuse for firing pilots. They meant a means of making public the quantitative differences in the abilities of pilots -- that is, pilots would be graded and classified. The examiners: The proposed procedures meant more paper work. They also meant a method of checking on the accuracy of the examiners' grading. The new procedures also would devaluate the significance of their job by taking the fine judgment and skill out of evaluation, thus making them mere clerks or recorders. It was naive to expect that these people would work cooperatively on the development of the new procedures. Only after these different perceptions of the new methods were eventually understood and shared by all the persons involved did it become clear to all what the requirements were for any new evaluation procedure. Cooperation was effected only after a large number of conferences with representatives of each interested group. Free communication between these groups had the effect of creating a new perception of the proposed evaluation procedures which was shared by all. You're going to avoid making yourself vulnerable. Substance abuse? That, too, is adaptive, allowing you to temporarily escape your circumstances when you don't have other coping skills. Understood in this way, those behaviors are brilliant responses intended to help you take care of yourself. They are good skills to cultivate in dangerous times. Yet these adaptive behaviors become maladaptive over time and contribute to difficulties with regulating emotions and connecting with others.