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I can't be found to be the boring, tragically unfunny human disaster I think I am. It's all down to fear. The fear of being judged unworthy of another human's company, the fear of embarrassment, the fear of being a disappointment. If I am worried about a task on my plate, I try to keep busy and distract myself. Disengagement When I have a long to-do list, the first thing I want to do is take a nap. I find myself on social media, websites, or apps when I should be doing other things. When I am overwhelmed, I tend to zone out. When I have a new task, I will do anything to turn my brain off and not think about it. When I feel stressed about my responsibilities, I tend to use downer drugs and alcohol. Sometimes I just can't get going on a new project, even when it's important. I find myself binge-watching television even when I have responsibilities to handle. I often want to give up on my goals when I feel frustrated or overwhelmed. This will instill confidence in my leadership. As a leader, I have the ability to encourage and inspire others to greatness. It is true: an army of sheep led by a lion would defeat an army of lions led by a sheep! I am a person of action. I can make a decision. I can make it now. God has given me a healthy mind to gather and sort information and the courage to come to a conclusion.

I am not a quivering dog, indecisive and fearful. I am a person of action. I am daring. Social anxiety could be a disastrous nonsense caused by an under-evolved amygdala, or it might be a defence mechanism, a chemical-based safety blanket for our minds. With fewer threats in the real world, our brain is attempting to overcompensate, to protect us from newly invented threats, replacing threats to our physical selves with threats to our personalities, our reputations, our sense of self. Next for me comes GAD (Generalised Anxiety Disorder), the nice blanket name for a myriad of conditions. Anxiety is universal as well as unique, because pretty much everyone will feel anxious at some point in their life. It usually goes hand in hand with stressful events: going to the doctor, job interviews, meeting the in-laws for the first time; Feeling anxious is the brain's way of dealing with high-pressure situations. It's normal. The difference between mild anxiety and severe anxiety is the way the brain overanalyses the outcomes of a situation. While a mildly anxious person would think, I hope I make a good impression meeting the in-laws for the first time, but I'm a bit nervous,' the severely anxious mind would think,Oh God, OK, don't be sick when you meet them, don't accidentally punch the mum in the face, why would we think that? It doesn't matter, oh God are you saying all this out loud? When I have a pressing task, I find myself daydreaming about other things I wish to do. A very high score means your body really does not like handling tasks that spark anxiety. It's great that you're here, so you can learn to support your system like it needs to be supported. If you mobilize, you may find yourself extremely busy around final exam time doing everything except studying. Or you may over-study to the point of exhaustion. Obviously, neither of these two options are going to help your exam score. If you disengage, you may be all caught up on the last five seasons of your favorite television show, but struggle to focus on what is most important.

Remember, no matter what your response, it is your system's way of trying to protect you from something that feels scary. While that exam or work presentation isn't a saber-toothed tiger, your body doesn't necessarily know that. If you score high in both mobilization and disengagement, your reaction may vary depending upon the task or situation. I am courageous. Fear no longer has a place in my life. For too long, fear has outweighed my desire to go for the things I really want. Never again! I have exposed my fear as a vapor, an impostor that never had any power over me in the first place! I do not fear opinion, gossip, or the idle chatter of monkeys, for all are the same to me. I do not fear failure, for in my life, failure is a myth. Failure exists only for the person who quits. I do not quit. I am courageous. Why are you sweating so much? Did you just accidentally kick the dog? Why are you talking about Chinese politics in the 70s? You're rambling, put your trousers back on. GAD is one of the most frequently diagnosed anxiety conditions in modern society. It is an overarching term for what happens when our brains are trying to deal with a huge number of negative stimuli at any one time. Perfectly normal scenarios quickly become terrifying feats of immense pressure.

Commuting becomes a chore, speaking to other humans becomes a nightmare, you quickly begin to hate yourself and fall victim to your own absurdity. Then five years have passed and you're a hermit person living in a pillow fort in your messy apartment who only communicates with other human beings through Twitter or a series of semaphore-like arm movements to a human in the apartment opposite. Too over the top? Once you bring your system into a state of greater equilibrium you will be able to handle life's challenges much more easily. 34 - 41 = High A high score means your nervous system could use a hand. That's okay because we all need help sometimes, don't we? As a mobilizer, you might stay up too late double checking your work spreadsheet or starting a new craft project, despite the fact that your presentation is due in the morning. If you disengage, you might spend more time than you mean to absent-mindedly scrolling through your phone, unable to find the energy necessary to get up and get working. When you return to your center, where your true power lies, you will be able to focus as necessary in a healthy, balanced way. 26-33 = Medium A medium score means that you struggle with task approach to some degree. Awareness is the first step to change, and by taking this inventory you're already on your way. I am a leader. I seize this moment. I choose now. I am a person of action. The nausea was much stronger this time. When the rock wall disappeared behind Michael's back, he immediately felt a swaying sensation drawing him down, back up, and then down again. He balled his fists, ducked his head, and wondered when the time shift would be over.

The sickness was almost overwhelming. Carefully, Michael opened his eyes and immediately understood. The movement was not part of the travel; Now you're starting to understand my brain; Once again, on a chemical level GAD is down to too much cortisol and adrenaline, and a lack of serotonin. It's the art of seeing danger everywhere, and your brain blue-screening like a defective laptop you bought from a car boot sale. The next winner on our list is separation anxiety. The anxious mind will only find peace in a comfort zone. Something familiar. Something safe. Nine times out of ten this will be the anxious person's bed. It's an area we control, so it's an area where we feel comfortable and secure. I have spent a large percentage of my anxious hours safely nested in my bed, surrounded by biscuits and binge-watching bad American shows about beautiful people who find themselves in situations beautiful people wouldn't usually find themselves in. You may only find yourself going into mobilization or disengagement at certain times or under specific situations. Applaud yourself for the times you do approach your to-do list in a healthy, head-on fashion, and have compassion for yourself in the times you simply cannot. By allowing yourself to mess up, you also give yourself an opportunity to observe just how your system is reacting. 18-25 = Low A low score means this form of task anxiety is only occasionally a problem for you, or that it is of low intensity when it does happen. You may be annoyed by yourself at times, but still manage to get most of your important tasks completed, even if they're not fun. Pay attention to when you do find yourself in mobilization or disengagement and the circumstances surrounding it.