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I'm talking about knowing the essentials that will make you an expert on the opposite sex. There are universal rules to becoming likeable to the opposite sex, and once you know what they are you can decode a person's desire right off the bat. To some, it's known as their language of love. Every person is different, and everyone responds to you differently. However, there are five ways that you can actually activate desire, passion, and lust in others and when you actively pay attention to their love language (which is essentially how they receive love from another), then you can always win at the dating game and become someone that magnetically attracts people to you! The Five Languages of Love are words of affirmation, acts of service, affection, quality time and gifts. "Sitting still with all these feelings just does not feel like an option." But what would happen if you did? Could you go to a safe place and just breathe? Could you do a cycle of five diaphragmatic breaths, check in with how you're feeling, and then do another cycle? "But I don't want to calm down. I'm right!" It's okay to let go of being so angry or upset right now. Your point may be perfectly valid. Can you resume the topic later and, for right now, make it your only objective to decrease your heart rate and increase your slow, deep breathing? The more you nurture yourself in the moment, the more effective you will be in communicating clearly and getting your needs met in this challenging situation. "How can I stop feeling this way?" Your go-to strategy may be to distract yourself by engaging in a potentially unhelpful behavior like drinking, shopping excessively, or partying. Try to consider how that strategy--though helpful at first--will impact your ability to get the next five things done on your to-do list. Will your choice create more stress when you wake up tomorrow morning, making you feel even more vulnerable to HN or LN feelings? Will that stress increase your potential to procrastinate? I encourage you to nurture your desire for distraction in a different way. Try to set your focus on external things so that you can get the emotional part of your brain to give way to the controlled, thinking part.

There are alternative ways of distracting yourself that won't set you up for more stress further down the road. Here's a list. It's not exhaustive but can offer food for thought. Keep in mind that for many of these distractions, it will be crucial to set a timer. This is because when you allow yourself to calm down with a game or movie, you can still get yourself in trouble if you get lost in the game or movie for hours on end. Set a timer--maybe for 60 minutes if you have that luxury or smaller brackets of time if you don't--and when the timer goes off, reevaluate how you feel. Crossword and Sudoku puzzles are phenomenal at focusing your thoughts externally and activating your prefrontal cortex, which is your rational, planning, executive mind. Do you have favorite TV shows that make you laugh or get caught up in the moment? Identify them when your mood is level so you don't have to think so hard when you need to pick them out, and turn them on in a pinch. Sing aloud to just the right music. Is there a secret space, be it a basement, shower, or car, where you can just belt it out? Throw yourself into your tunes. A favorite video or online game can help, just watch your timer. There are thousands to choose from. I personally like to pretend to shop online. I don't let myself buy anything, but I act as if I'm going to. Focusing on all the decisions needed to make a purchase is very engrossing for me: Do I like it? Does that color go with the rest of my wardrobe? Is the price reasonable? Could I get it at a better price somewhere else?

I even add it to my cart, which feels satisfying, but at the end I simply close the browser. Being able to not make the actual purchase is vital, so only choose this option if you can stop yourself. You can look for household appliances or best-selling cars, search ways to fix up your home or apartment space, or download free e-books. Tap into other ways to engage your senses. What feels good to touch? Will a warm shower soothe you? A quick stop at the nail salon or spa for a 10-minute massage? Do you want to work on a craft or hobby or house project? Suicidal ideation, sometimes called "suicidal thinking," is the stage in which a person consciously thinks about suicide. The thoughts of sleeping forever, not waking up, or being dead fall into this category as do more detailed fantasies about how death by suicide could happen. Suicidal intent is the category in which thought is accompanied by intention to perform the suicidal act. For some children and adults, intent is expressed but with no active plan to carry it out. I've thought about taking a handful of pills, but I'd never go through with it. Others, though, express intent to act on their suicidal urges and express a specific manner in which they intend to carry out their intentions. I'm gonna wait till everyone's asleep and then take all the pills. Preparatory acts toward imminent suicide is the category in which suicidal ideation and intent move into full-on action. A number of children and adults start taking care of personal issues, like giving things away or asking for others to oversee matters. Some make remarks like "This won't be a problem anymore" or "I won't be a burden to anyone much longer." I've worked with adults who made sure the house was clean and the bills were paid, children who gave away prized posses-sions to others, and those who wrote a suicide note. This is the stage when the suicide plan becomes actualized and the items or methods for suicide are needed--like drugs, firearms, rope, a knife--and are made available for use. Interrupted suicide attempt is the category in which a child or adult initiates a death by suicide but is interrupted by either another person, an outside circumstance, or by their own self-reflection.

No physical harm or injury occurs in this category. Nonfatal suicide attempt is the category that describes a suicide attempt that was carried out by a child or adult but was not fatal. Perhaps the overdose wasn't toxic enough, the rope frayed and broke apart, the cut wasn't lethal, or the gun misfired. Results of nonfatal suicide attempts can range from no physical injury to mild, moderate, and serious injury. Completed suicide is the category describing a death by suicide. Back when I had my first depressive episode, I wasn't familiar with the different levels of suicidality. Then, unlike today, talking about suicide and its signs wasn't a commonplace thing. Back in 1980, I stopped myself in mid action, which places my behavior in the interrupted suicide attempt category. It's hard for me to recall specifics of my life that long ago, but it's likely that I moved through the other levels of suicidality before reaching that lethal stage. Had I known about risk behaviors and signals earlier in my life, maybe I would've reached out for help sooner. Perhaps, family and friends would've picked up on my solitary and hopeless behaviors and intervened. Though I can't change any of that now, I'm thankful that I reflected and put a stop to my suicidal plan. There's no single identifying risk factor for depression, and the same applies for suicide. Research suggests that certain multiple experiences increase the risk for death by suicide--the most significant of which are a previous suicide attempt and hopelessness.11 Other risk factors include a family history of suicide and mental illness, severity of depressive and rapid cycling symptoms, alcohol, drug, and cigarette use, and being the victim of child abuse. Take time to familiarize yourself with the other causal risk factors for suicide. The knowledge you gain can help monitor your own mood disorder--and assist in the detection of suicidality in someone you know or love. While celebrating good news is beneficial, the way that you interpret rocky times is also key to a happy relationship. The practice of framing difficulties in one's relationship in terms of how it brought you and your partner closer together, rather than as a sign you might be incompatible, has been found to be a key predictor of relationship success. It's a concept psychologists call "glorifying the struggle" and there is evidence to back up the assertion that it works. In one survey, 200 college students who were either in a relationship or had recently ended one answered questions about their relationship satisfaction, trajectory, and feelings of loneliness.

The study found that respondents who tended to agree that marriage is difficult, but worth the effort--that is, who glorified the struggle--described higher levels of relationship satisfaction. By glorifying their struggles, the subjects were able to discuss how the couple worked together to overcome obstacles and focus on the relationship's "ability to survive." Don't ignore relationship challenges. Embrace them and even elevate them as a normal, healthy part of a successful long-term relationship. Celebrate getting through a difficult patch. Unhappy with your relationship? Your sleep habits might be to blame. A University of Arizona study of twenty-nine heterosexual couples found that men who reported better sleep gave more positive ratings to their relationship the next day. Interestingly, women who reported negative interactions with their partners during the day reported poorer sleep that night. "Shelly Gable, a professor at the University of California, Santa Barbara, uses the term active constructive responding, or ACR, to describe the way to cultivate more life satisfaction--higher positive emotions and greater relationship well-being. There are four ways to respond to others' good news, and only one of these four builds stronger relationships. The other three actually break down the relationship. A passive constructive response is brief and often distracted. It might involve a `that's great,' but you turn your attention away from your partner; it lacks connection. A passive destructive response ignores the event completely, hijacks the content, and turns the conversation to yourself. An active destructive response takes the wind right out of their sails and highlights what might be wrong or worrisome about the good news. An active constructive response (ACR) shows genuine interest by asking simple questions to help your partner savor the good news. Not only are you letting your partner experience the joy of the event, but your shared experience is a happiness multiplier." Divorce can be contagious. A team of researchers led by Rose McDermott of Brown University conducted a longitudinal study on how a person's social network can impact his or her relationship. Looking at data for thousands of people over three decades, they found that individuals were 75 percent more likely to become divorced if a friend got divorced, and 33 percent more likely to do so if a friend of a friend did. All told, the findings suggested that if a close friend or family member divorces, your chances of divorcing your partner increase by 16 percent.