There is one part that is generally forgotten in the sat nav' analogy. <a href=''>It</a> is unquestionable that this world of ours is a magnificent place full of sublime mysteries, profound pleasures and delightful secrets, just waiting for our wits and senses to sharpen! <a href=''>Amid</a> the busyness and distraction of this time and place on earth, our free spirits are calling us to embrace things unseen but deeply felt as a way of returning to our innate magic and the magic of life. <a href=''>It</a> can be said that seeing is believing, but it is equally true that believing is seeing. <a href=''>The</a> more we believe in the magic, beauty and delight of the universe, the more we will see and experience it around us. <a href=''>The</a> more we believe in the kindness and goodness of others, the more we will see the kindness and goodness in others. <a href=''>The</a> more we believe that we live in a magical and generous universe in which we are unconditionally held and loved - in which coincidences, synchronicities, signs and symbols abound, guiding us each step of the way - the more enchanting, meaningful and fulfilling our lives become. <a href=''>Judging</a> yourself to be either "on" or "off" a diet, or "bad" or "good," is a typical pitfall for people trying to maintain weight loss. <a href=''>On</a> the other hand, cutting yourself some slack and getting right back on track when you veer off the path is a common attitude among successful maintainers--and not only those among the NWCR group. <a href=''>Researchers</a> at the University of Western Australia, for instance, found that 73 percent of people who gained back lost weight were black-and-white perfectionist thinkers, as compared to just 7 percent of weight maintainers. <a href=''>It's</a> so easy to gain back the weight when every little cookie or missed workout signals failure. <a href=''>The</a> occasional rich dessert, the business trip that interferes with your gym day, or other ways you stumble are normal and inevitable. <a href=''>To</a> survive them, you'll have to roll with it. <a href=''>The</a> key is that my indulgences are only in small portions and aren't an everyday thing." Strangely enough, I've found that some people who are prone to perfectionist thinking are actually subconsciously waiting for a slipup (a twisted ankle, a bad eating day) so they have a reason or excuse for returning to their bad habits. <a href=''>If</a> you subscribe to the all-or-nothing train of thought, you'll need to give yourself an attitude adjustment. <a href=''>Slipups</a> are inevitable. <a href=''>You'll</a> need to be somewhat flexible and forgiving if you're going to stay the course. <a href=''>The</a> work of perfectly hidden depression leads inward mentally and especially emotionally. <a href=''>Rather</a> than trying to reengage outwardly, the goal is to allow and let go--to see the constrictions of your existence and confront some of the rules you're telling yourself you have to follow--and to deeply feel the change that begins to occur as you do. <a href=''>Take</a> a little time to go through your journal at this juncture. <br /><br /><a href=''>Go</a> back to the beginning and remember how you felt when you first began to write down your actual thoughts and feelings. <a href=''>See</a> how you've progressed and changed. <a href=''>What</a> did you think you'd never write that you did? <a href=''>Or</a> are you still struggling to allow your own discovery? <a href=''>Many</a> perfectionistic people find it hard to write because they're evaluating as they go, trying to sound "good." If you've struggled in this way, know that it's normal. <a href=''>But</a> it's also something to try to tweak as you go further. <a href=''>Challenge</a> yourself to go deeper. <a href=''>Risk</a> writing something that you never thought you could. <a href=''>Or</a> if you don't want to write it down, simply say the words aloud. <a href=''>Perhaps</a> "I hated my mom" or "I feel so lonely sometimes I feel like I'm going to break apart." Let the words go. <a href=''>And</a> breathe through the emotion that comes with it. <a href=''>That's</a> a problem. <a href=''>It</a> means you may have powerful beliefs about yourself that you can't challenge or change, because you're not even aware that they exist. <a href=''>It</a> means there are an awful lot of things influencing you, and how you present yourself to the world, that you don't even know about. <a href=''>Your</a> self-concept may be constantly changing or it may seem to have been set in stone a long time ago, but you do have a self-concept. <a href=''>It</a> is there, and it determines your life. <a href=''>Everything</a> you do and feel and, more importantly, how you do it or feel it, stems from this perception of self. <a href=''>It</a> should be obvious, then, why self-concept is so important. <a href=''>A</a> person whose self-concept is flush with confidence will engage the world differently than a person whose self-concept is riddled with doubt. <a href=''>What</a> you believe about you, what you treat as your own self-reality, is dramatically important in your plight in life. <br /><br /><a href=''>In</a> fact, it is so crucially important that it is not an overstatement to say that there is a direct link from your concept of self to the ultimate outcome in your life. <a href=''>The</a> sat nav will only be able to calculate your route if you or it knows your location. <a href=''>Simple</a> logic, is it not? <a href=''>To</a> tell you which way to go it needs to calculate the journey from where you are to where you wish to go. <a href=''>A</a> lot of frustrated people only know where they want to go. <a href=''>Take</a> a little time to find out where you are. <a href=''>Powerless,</a> angry, frustrated, a little low, panic state, worried, concerned. <a href=''>Spend</a> a little time determining what emotion or feeling it is, as if you were taking a good look at yourself, from outside of yourself. <a href=''>History</a> is just that. <a href=''>The</a> past, has (re-read that please). <a href=''>Passed</a> that is. <a href=''>In</a> your sat nav you may well have history settings that are useful. <a href=''>If</a> you have not updated yourroadmap' that can be a problem. In terms of computers, your search history can prove a hacker's dream. Who are the hackers in your mind? Outdated programmes installed by teachers, parents, people of influence etc. Even you, as your own hacker? What will continue to serve you in your journey and what needs deleting? In infinite ways, life calls us to look more closely at things. Synchronicities, connections, messages and signs that we are meant to notice wait patiently for our acknowledgement every day.

When we slow and quieten ourselves as often as possible, we begin to sense the humming magic and effortless perfection in all things. We feel our place and sense our belonging here. We notice our oneness with the tremendous energy of nature, each other and all life. We experience the fullness of our feelings, know sensory pleasures of all kinds, become attuned to our rhythms and the rhythms of our earth, and grow more deeply in love. While our unseeing selves suffer, disconnected and far from home, our seeing selves cannot help but experience deep joy, abundance, inspiration and peace. In times gone by and in different cultures and places around our earth, `knowingness' has been our natural state of being. Spirituality was organic, celebrated and central to human life. Healers existed in communities of all kinds, treating the whole person - body, mind and spirit. Natural remedies from the earth, such as herbs, flowers, pigments, scents and stones, were balms for strength and restoration. Signs found in dreams and in the stars were seen to offer meaningful guidance. Rituals coloured life, bringing a sense of togetherness and sacredness to daily experience. Human beings lived in awe-inspired congruence with the moods, seasons and wisdom of the natural world. If losing weight is or has been a struggle, and your attempts at maintenance have been no picnic, here's some welcome news: The longer you maintain, the easier it gets. Former drug or alcohol abusers have the same experience. The longer they stay clean, the less likely they are to relapse. Two years seemed to be the magic number for NWCR participants. If they stuck it out for that long, their odds of gaining back five or more pounds were cut in half. Those who maintained for five years had even better odds: just a 30 percent chance of gaining back more than five pounds. As they say, old habits die hard--but they do die if you work at it, and I think that successful losers prove that point. After a certain amount of time, preparing a healthy meal at home, ordering the leaner dish at a restaurant, or making it to the gym doesn't feel like a big deal anymore.

"The longer people eat well and exercise, the more these may become ingrained habits that require less conscious effort," explains Dr. Phelan. There is also some other positive news about maintaining weight loss. Ninety-five percent of the NWCR successful losers say that their quality of life has improved. They have more energy, an improved mood, and increased self-confidence. Most of them also reported that their relationships with spouses, friends, the opposite sex, parents, and strangers also improved. Remember, tears are about intensity, not weakness. Whether you cry because you're mad, cry because you're joyful, or cry because you're sad, your tears reflect the depth of the feeling or perhaps the sensitivity you have to a certain issue. If tears flow, let them flow. And continue patting yourself on the back for work well done. Let's talk briefly about each of the five stages of healing for perfectly hidden depression: consciousness, commitment, confrontation, connection, and change. And for a visual, refer to the book's introduction to see the five stages of healing diagram. Based on that bundle of self-relevant and self-generated identifying characteristics and its presentation to the world, you make a statement to the world and everything that happens: Every success or failure, every result in terms of love, money, achievement, recognition, peace, and harmony, flows from that self-determined identity. When I say you make a statement to the world, know this: I mean you send messages verbally, behaviorally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and interactively. Only 7 percent of all communications are verbal, and for every thought you have there is a physiological correlate. Ask yourself what your other 93 percent is screaming if your self-concept (which you thought you hid so well) is compromised. Think about your demeanor and your attitude of approach to the world. What is it saying about you? Imagine you have a new sat nav in your car. As traffic appears and roadworks or a distraction causes you to take a wrong turn, what would you hear?