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And so I'd stop whatever I was doing and drag down at twelve with the group. Well, now I say, occasionally, Well, that isn't convenient for me. I'd rather eat later, or I'd rather eat earlier. Well, ah, before it was easier for me to say, O. And then another thing is that, ah, with the group of kids that I was eating with, I felt that I had just sort of been dragged into the group, almost. They weren't people -- one or two of them were people that I really liked, and they had sort of pulled me in with a group of their friends that I wouldn't have picked, myself, especially. And ah, so that I found that all my time was being taken up with these people, and now I'm beginning to seek out people that I prefer myself, I mean people that I choose myself, rather than being drawn in with the bunch. C347: You find it a little more possible, I gather, to express your real attitudes in a social situation, like wanting to go to lunch or not wanting to go to lunch, and also to, ah, to make your own choice of friends, and people that you want to mix with. S348: So, that seems to me -- I, ah -- that also isn't going ahead by great leaps and bounds, but I, ah -- C348: It's a slow process. Salt is used to preserve and enhance the flavor of food. What this game does is preserve and flavor the whole drama of our life, our own masks, and our own money scripts in which we are playing a role. Bodies of water become full of salt when there is significant evaporation and nothing flows out. The Dead Sea and the Salton Sea, in California, are two examples. They do not sustain much life, and if you are actually in them, they will draw the water and moisture out of your body. Remember, water is a symbol for money. The Sea of Salt allows people to float along on the surface and to appear to move from one place to another, but going deep into the water is a challenge. Your money script remains hidden from full view while the salt is drawing out the moisture and money from your life. The Sea of Salt receives the flow from the River of Gold but diverts and collects it. Getting out of the sea and back into the larger flow means stepping out of your old view of how things work in your life.

If you're more of a night owl, you can practice MBC techniques in the evening or right before bed. I'll talk about self-motivation in a later article, but the important thing is to feel comfortable doing the exercises and to use them enough long enough to see if they will work for you. No two people are alike, so you have the unique opportunity to create your own sustainable and effective exercises for pain relief. As you begin to try out these practices, you'll discover that some techniques may work better for you or simply resonate more than others. In other words, you may have a friend who swears by yoga's healing powers, but perhaps you'll discover that breathwork is what seems to work best for you. Because there are so many MBC techniques to help you manage your pain, I encourage you to give them all a try. If you can, take some notes so that you can remember how you feel after the different practices. You'll start to notice which ones work best for you. At the same time, if you find yourself getting in a rut with some of the exercises you can switch it up. The variety of exercises I've collected here really puts you in charge of finding the right method to help ease discomfort and reduce your pain. S349: But I, ah, I think I'm getting to that. Ah -- and I don't know whether -- I mean at first, ah, I tried to see if I was just withdrawing from this bunch of kids I'd been spending my time with, and I'm sincere in thinking that, ah, it's not a withdrawal, but it's more of an assertion of my real interests. C349: M-hm. In other words, you've tried to be self-critical in order to see if you're just running away from the situation, but you feel really, it's an expression of your positive attitudes. S350: I -- I think it is. Here the client is not only asserting her own evaluations of friends and social activities in contradistinction to the values of the group, but she is able to check her own evaluations to see if they are actually based upon experience. I tried to see if I was just withdrawing from this bunch of kids . She finds that she is able to determine, upon the evidence of her own experience, which of her acquaintances have value to her and which do not, which activities significantly enhance self and which do not, which behaviors are escapist, which are positive assertions of purpose. Here is at least a small example of the change which takes place in the valuing process. Since the above discussion was written, a study has been completed by Raskin (157) which tends to confirm some of the ideas presented.

Feng Shui and the Sea of Salt In the Sea of Salt, there is no movement forward and what accumulates is not really what you want when you take a deeper look. From a feng shui perspective, you may have an abundance of something that is out of balance, say too much metal energy in your Wealth Area. Look again at the diagram of your living and work space, your Wealth Area, and the Five Elements. Many imbalances in your physical space are direct reflections of the various masks you wear, the personas in your life. Once you have begun to tease out your roles in the various dramas, you can see the specific ways you and your varying personas impact your environment. Walk around your own space looking for things that are out of alignment with the various Ba-gua energies and with your deep heart longings. For example, perhaps you have symbols of money and abundance in your Relationships Area, travel symbols in your Wealth Area, a missing Wealth Area at your work, or too much wood energy and a feeling of stuckness. Review the cures and Five Elements sections. Put the various cures in place only after you have sat with them for a few days to know that they fit your challenges and that your intentions are clear. Use the Body to Your Advantage Medication, surgery, and therapy for pain management all come at a price, whether it's psychological, physical, or financial. That's not to say that medication or health care within the system isn't important. If you break a leg, you need a cast to help you heal. Medications that calm nerves or help with depression are all important tools that help you feel better. But you also have the power to learn new techniques and develop an awareness within. MBC doesn't look outward for solutions--it's an inward journey that allows you to tap into your own internal wisdom for self-care. Learning to harness that energy in a way that helps you ease whatever physical discomfort or pain you experience will give you a sense of agency that you can't get from external sources. Using your mind--how you think, what you focus on--to help manage your pain can be a profound endeavor--one that can bring about positive, life-long implications. What's more, once you've figured out techniques that work well to ease your pain, you'll also begin to feel the positive effects on your emotional well-being and outlook.

Raskin investigated the extent to which the client's locus of evaluation could be shown to have changed during therapy. The phrase was defined in terms of the client's personality organization -- the extent to which his values and standards depend upon the judgments and expectations of others, or are based on a reliance upon his own experience. The first step was to determine whether interview items pertinent to this concept could reliably be selected by judges. More than 80 per cent agreement between two judges was found. The next step was to construct a scale for estimating the locus of evaluation. Twenty-two interview items involving material related to this concept were rated by eighteen qualified judges, and from these judgments an objective rating scale was constructed with values from 1. The third step was the establishment of the reliability of this scale. In fifty-nine items, one from each of the interviews rated, there was 76 per cent agreement between the investigator and another judge, a correlation of . This scale was then applied to the fifty-nine interviews of the ten cases studied. These same cases had been used as basic data for several coordinated studies (43), so that various types of data were available for each case and each interview. Looking at someone else's life may clarify the issue. Penny shared with me that she is beginning to enjoy her main drama of waiting for permission. As a child she was admonished many times to wait and to be good and do the right thing, which in her family meant not giving her mother any trouble. To receive love and approval for who she was, she went along. As a child and, as a teenager, she became a good girl. She continued to wait for permission and approval, which resulted in going along with her parents' choice for college and a major. She also waited for them to indicate their preference for a husband. And for years she allowed her husband's preferences to take precedence over hers. Her home had a stuck feeling. There was too much wood energy in many areas and no red, fire, or passion energy.

It's a true win-win arrangement for both your physical and emotional health--one that you will play a part in achieving. Preventive Measures and Fewer Side Effects In essence, the MBC exercises in this article are designed to help in two key areas in your life: The first is to maintain wellness while preventing illness and injury, and the other is to help you find relief in a more holistic and integrative manner. Regular use of these exercises may help you stave off serious complications as a result of acute or chronic pain. They can also be integrated in your recovery plan as you work with your doctor and healthcare practitioners. You may find it useful to use some of these techniques to prepare for or even avoid surgery. For argument's sake, let's say that you do elect to have surgery to help with a chronic pain issue. What follows is weeks of recovery. Most likely you'll be holed up in your home or in a rehabilitation center to restore your balance and stability with the help of medical professionals. Once you get the green light to move around, you'll need equipment to help you walk and maybe a handicap placard for easier parking. In general, the locus of evaluation scale showed a shift away from placing the locus of values in others, and toward keeping it in self. The average of the ten first interviews was 1. When one takes the five cases which were judged by five objective criteria as being most successful, the shift is even sharper. For these five cases the average on the locus of evaluation scale was 2. However, the most striking finding was the fact that the measure of the locus of evaluation correlated positively with other measures which had been used with these cases. With the self-acceptance scale developed by Sheerer (189) the correlation was . The scale of attitudes toward self which was developed by Stock (203) correlated . The index of insight developed by Seeman (180) correlated . The correlation with the defensiveness scale as used by Haigh (76) was negative, as would be predicted, but was only -- . When these five separate measures are combined into a single index based on standard scores, the correlation with the locus of evaluation measure is .