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Remember, it all counts. Getting better at managing your emotional and mental wellbeing and feeling happier is as important as engaging in self-care to fully thrive and nurturing strong relationships. First choose the area you think needs your most urgent attention. If you are unsure, try jotting down your three to five biggest pain points and ordering them according to the degree of pain they are causing. If it's a tie for first place, choose either one; This matters, because you can expend an awful lot of time, energy and emotion worrying, fretting and gnashing your teeth over things that you have no influence over. Infuriating as it is -- because I get that you want this fixed -- this is when it's time to pull back and consider letting this one go. Because no matter how much you would love things to be different, where they are totally out of your control, the question to ask yourself is, What is the cost to my health, happiness and wellbeing if I remain locked in this unresolvable struggle? The strength of your desire If you've lots of experience in setting yourself goals, you'll know how some are easier to achieve than others, some are abandoned en route and some end up getting tossed out because you realise you've set yourself the wrong target. Feel the remorse that may naturally arise from that. Offer gratitude that you are able to be where you are in relative safety. Contemplate the role slave labor has played in the building of the infrastructure that surrounds you. The establishment of agriculture and a healthy economy. The building of railroads and bridges that made the transport of the raw materials that built your town or city possible. Consider that these people only did this labor out of mortal fear of unspeakable punishment and because they were utterly trapped. Consider that many of them died on the job, and that you benefit from that. Feel into any remorse that arises here. Offer thanks from the heart for their unbelievable toil. Contemplate the labor of undocumented immigrants, often grossly underpaid.

Paying attention to the process of breath is one of the most direct ways through which we can contact the perpetual nature of subtle, resilient motion. The presence of breath belies the potentiality of stillness. Where there's breath, there's movement. If we hold our breath for any reason, we do so by holding the body still, and whenever we bring stillness to the body, we inhibit the breath. In that we breathe all the time, there's always going to be some accompanying movement even in the stillest of bodies. Furthermore, in an aligned and relaxed body this movement won't be limited to the area around the organs of respiration proper (the chest and diaphragm) but can extend throughout the whole body. Like a wave that moves without interference through a body of water, breath can be experienced as moving through the entire length of an aligned and relaxed body. The force of breath invites the body to respond resiliently. The action of breath is initiated through the involuntary contraction and relaxation of the diaphragm. The contraction of this powerful muscle creates a bellows effect that draws air into the lungs. What's important to determine is the strength of your desire. How much do you really want this? You might like the sound of a thriver's mindset, but is it an imperative no-matter-what or a nice-to-have, meh? It's time to assess the strength of your desire against your commitment to making the change. Rate it on a scale of 1 to 10, where 1 is weak and 10 is a passionate ambition. Say your desire to develop a thriver's mindset comes in at an 8. Great, you're definitely tapping into something you want. But if your commitment level is at a 3-4, uh-oh, Houston we have a problem. Unless your commitment is aligned to the strength of your desire and at a minimum of 7, success is likely to elude you. The magic trifecta to win the day is commitment to the cause, consistency of application and persistence.

If you live in the United States, it's very likely that you have been consuming food all week that undocumented immigrants picked, cleaned, packaged, and shipped. Consider that they paid taxes that support the infrastructure and economy where you live. Consider that they can never live without the fear of being deported--sent back, in many cases, to unlivable and life-threatening circumstances. Consider that they have parents and children and dreams of a good life, just like you do. Acknowledge the reality that many of them will be returned to circumstances that ensure torture and even death. Let the remorse and any other feelings you have about this arise. Thank them for their contribution to your well-being. Finally, contemplate how your family came to live where you were born. Did your ancestors immigrate? Were they brought to your homeland involuntarily? Its relaxation encourages the oxidized waste to leave the body. With every contraction the belly can be seen to expand slightly; This amount of movement, so directly associated with the action of the diaphragm, exists in everyone (including the meditator who interprets the instruction to sit still to mean to sit with complete immobility). In an aligned and relaxed body, however, the movement associated with breath need not be confined to this one small area. Like ripples moving across a still pond into which a pebble has recently been dropped, the movement initiated by the involuntary action of the diaphragm can expand joint by joint through the entire body. As the diaphragm contracts, the belly and lower back expand slightly. In an aligned and relaxed body the force of this expansion can then be felt to move simultaneously up the torso through the top of the head and down through the pelvis and legs. The amount of actual movement may be very small, but its existence is real. Pioneering somatics teacher Ida Rolf (1896-1979) once stated that in a completely relaxed and balanced body the motion of breath would generate subtle movement at every joint in the body and that this would include the sutures in the skull and the joints between the small bones in the feet! Moving upward from the belly, the force of the belly's expansion can stimulate the chest to open.

Without the strong desire for and commitment to making things different, nothing will change because your deep attachment to your existing habits makes successful habit change a challenge. Anything less than a 7 for commitment might mean one of the following: You're not ready. There's other stuff happening that needs to be dealt with first. Best to wait. You're self-sabotaging. What is your head telling you? That you can't, that it's not possible, that it's selfish to focus on yourself? These are typical excuses, justifications or rationalisations your mind can come up with. Side hustles can sideswipe the best of intentions. What were the conditions? What was their land of origin? Contemplate what earlier generations of your family might have gone through living where they did at the time that they did. Have compassion for their struggle. Thank them for their contribution. Seeing these things, how will you go out and live today? How will you acknowledge all your human and other-than-human relations and ancestors, and what kind of ancestor will you be to the beings of the future? Hopefully it is clear from the practices at the end of part 3 that many of the approaches we can take to get to know our inner parts better are also helpful in deepening our insight into and connection with other people. In this final part of the article, we'll be synthesizing what we've used so far--parts work and neuroscience, working with our inner parts and with other people--as we look at certain kinds of challenging daily-life situations we all face. The parts work approach opens the door to experiencing the incredible nuance and richness of our inner lives.

The chain reaction continues as the force from this opening is immediately transferred to the shoulders, down the arms, and into the hands, all of which can be felt to respond to the force of the breath and to move ever so slightly. Finally, the neck and head can be felt to bob on top of it all. With the exhalation, the movement retraces its path. As the cycle of breath continues, the whole body can be felt to expand and contract in the manner of an amoeba. The movement down through the pelvis and the legs on the inhalation and back up into the navel on the exhalation is even subtler but can still be felt distinctly. If this kind of resilient movement is unavailable, it's a sign that the body is still holding and bracing itself and hasn't yet relaxed as fully as it possibly can. In addition to the movement of the breath, the sensational presence of the body itself is another strong force to which we're challenged to respond resiliently when assuming the posture of meditation. The significant letting go of tension that the posture of meditation activates powerfully loosens the lid on the long-contained canister of the inner world of the body's tactile sensations. The body is revealed to be a dynamic process of vibratory phenomena, all of which can be felt distinctly. We feel the sensations of the body flow, shimmer, throb, and vibrate. Best to deal with them first. You're kidding yourself that this matters to you. You're actually managing the expectations of others. Time to regroup and check in what's right for YOU. Time for action and responsibility This is where the rubber hits the road. While not wanting to sound like your mother telling you what to do, this is where it's up to you, to take action and assume the responsibility that goes with it. You may believe you need to catch the 347 bus to your destination, but you could still be sitting at the bus stop in three weeks' time if you forgot to check the 347 is still running on that route. Oh, and you are the driver. Did I forget to share that small detail?