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Ideally, we'd all be conscious of who we are and what makes us tick, and we'd feel able to communicate that clearly and effectively. But the opposite is quite often the case. In most cases, however, procrastination is a symptom of stress; However, we are all familiar with the staggering long-term distress caused by this behavior. Firstly, take a moment to consider what you want out of life. Don't worry about setting it in stone for now, just slow down and re-introduce yourself to your guiding principles before we go on. Now, we can begin to reframe how we look at tasks. We tend to procrastinate, or put off unpleasant tasks, when we feel we have to do them. This is because we're implying to ourselves that we have no choice, and that the task is inevitable anyways, but we don't want to do it now. This is all false. The truth is that you do not have to do anything, but often you choose to do even things you don't like because you know that in the long-term they'll help you get closer to the life you want. When we frame our activities in the mindset of choosing instead of having to do something, we empower ourselves through the reminder that we are still active participants in our own lives. We left the convention venue and strolled down to the water. An Interview with an Expert: What the Heck Is Money, Anyway? A quick digression before we move on with Maddox's story. I want to talk for a moment about money. When I ask you What is money? We all know money. We use it every day. We think about it all the time, including late at night, when we'd rather be thinking about anything else.

You know those thoughts . What if I lose my job? Perhaps we're not entirely sure about who we are, what bothers us, or how to communicate our needs. Maybe we've never quite felt as though we measured up. Perhaps we've always felt as though we're in the way, that we don't matter. That feeling of insignificance then permeates how we view ourselves and all that surrounds us. It dominates the jobs we apply for, or don't apply for; Make no bones about it, learning about boundaries and what they mean for us is the easier bit because that's on us. It's the holding steadfast in them when it comes to other people and external circumstances that can cause a bit of a ruckus, some friction, and plenty of deep breaths as we have the courage of our convictions. We're all worthy of boundaries that keep us safe, happy, and healthy. It's in our cohabiting with others in a safe, comfortable, and healthy way where boundaries are vulnerable to going off script. We want others to be happy and might forgo our happiness for that to happen. It also helps us remember our motives. When you tell yourself you're choosing to do something, you'll naturally ask yourself why you're making that choice. A dull task doesn't seem so bad when you remember it means bread on the table, jelly for your bread, sugar for your tea, and satisfaction in your downtime. When we remember the rewards that depend on us choosing to do an action, that action becomes easier to perform with enthusiasm. Likewise, changes that seem scary now can become easier to start with when you remember the positives attached to them. Note that fear can distort our perception of a task's difficulty, just like it can distort risk probability. If you're feeling overwhelmed, venting to a friend or seeking guidance from a mentor can be a great help, as can undertaking cognition-boosting actions. Next, do not aim to achieve perfection.

When we plan a project or task, we often procrastinate because we're afraid we won't get it done perfectly, or exactly as we want. No plan survives first contact with reality, so treating your plans with a binary success or failure mentality will not help you. Is there enough for the kids' college? What if I get sick? Will I have enough to retire? To help with these late-night lashings, I want you to remember something: money isn't money. Money, like everything else, is all about people. Money couldn't exist without people. To help you better understand this, I called on my favorite economist, Paul Thomas. I was the chief futurist, and he was the chief economist, which made for many spirited water-cooler debates. He also had been the chief economist at Continental Airlines as well as a professor. But that's not why Paul is my favorite economist. It's not our role in life to sidestep, duck, or move out of the way to make life easier for others. It's truly not. We're allowed to take up space, too. We're allowed to feel joyous, heard, seen, significant, equal, lit up by life, and as though we matter. And so, here we are, about to dive headfirst into a article about boundaries, a article that explores our understanding of what boundaries are and how they can be applied to different situations, allow us to find our feet and our voices, and to unpick the unhelpful lessons we've learned along the way. You can start by asserting your boundaries in how you read and use this article; You might dive into the articles that speak loudly to you as areas of your life in which you feel you have boundary deficits. And you might tackle the worksheets first to help figure out what's causing the most amount of life-chafing for you right now.

There might be notes filling the back articles or writing in the margins, highlighting, screenshotting, and talking to others about what crops up. Your article, your way. There are many degrees of success, all of which can help you towards your ultimate goal. Without action, there can be no degree of success. Writers have a saying: You can edit a bad article, but you can't edit a blank article. It's better to try something, fail, learn, then try again than it is to simply never try and never learn. If you never try and never learn, you'll never succeed. If you have done a lot of learning so far, attempting a try with comfortable levels of risk can help you identify gaps in your research, shoring up your knowledge with practical experience for little cost. Always remember to forgive yourself for any failures; Sometimes, we put a task off because of the sheer size of it. It seems like it'd never be achievable, so we just don't try. There are several ways around this. Over the years, I've worked with many economists, and what sets Paul apart are his unexpected insights and his sense of humor. So what the heck is money, anyway? I asked Paul during a recent phone call. Well, you know, BDJ, there's a story about that, Paul began. Economists like to tell it, which means there's probably no element of truth to it whatsoever, but it illustrates what money is quite nicely. Sounds great, I said. Supposedly there was this tiny island in the South Pacific, he began. The people of the island decided they would each own shares in a set of rocks located just offshore.

The more rocks you owned, the more money you had. They all agreed on the system and used it for transactions. PS: You can find me online--come and say hi! Who Am I to Write This article? When I started learning about the concept of boundaries, it was like opening a window into a parallel world: a world where I felt more in control, calmer, and not so trodden on; It was somewhere I could sense my backbone, stand tall, feel better, and not be scared to take up space. Albeit, that world made me panic slightly at what all of that meant for someone who had lived their life, thus far, people-pleasing--how on earth did I get there from where I was? That window into a parallel, magical, healthy-boundary world came from a really tough period in my life, and it would take considerable time before I felt brave enough and centered enough to start constructing boundaries that served my health and happiness without feeling incredibly selfish for doing so. Boundaries are a funny ole thing: They can keep us safe, they can keep everything out, but they can also keep us in our place. To challenge them often means going against a grain that somebody somewhere has carved out. For as long as I can remember, I wanted to be a good girl. It felt like high praise from my parents and teachers, and so I became intuitive about what that meant for me: doing as I was told, not causing trouble, and avoiding disappointing anyone or being told off. Firstly, abolishing perfectionism as suggested earlier can already make your task seem infinitely more possible. Next, do what you can to break your task into smaller pieces, then split these pieces up so that you can get the most comfortable pace possible within the deadline you've set for yourself. Do not forget to include any research or preparation needed as part of your task. If the amount of work you need to do each day seems impossible to sustain, then give yourself more time to work with right at the beginning; You do not want to give yourself endless extensions, but if you can feel you won't make a successful habit of working at your task, then extend the deadline while things are still early and easy to change, giving yourself more room to breathe. To get the most out of that time, treat the time during this project or task as a special kind of work-based me-time. This is time you take out for yourself to get something that's challenging you out of your way, so that you can enjoy the rest of your day unimpeded, knowing you're on track. To do this, only keep open apps and devices needed for your task;