I allowed myself to make mistakes, friends, and a fool out of myself. I wasn't worried about the steps, for the most part, because I had triumphed over my biggest insecurity just by being there. Now, today, I think back on those Facearticle messages without any trace of that emotion. It's hard for me to understand how something as simple as going to a movement class could shake my world so much that I would lose my ability to function. Yet it can often be neglected and overlooked - a magnet for clutter. First impressions count, so it's important to give this spot some TLC, making it an inviting space to welcome you home, too. I always remember how much my nan used to love sweeping her steps and cleaning and polishing the front door and entrance every day. She took real pride in presenting this area as neat, organised and welcoming. Life is super-busy, and even I don't have the time to do this on a daily basis, but if you can declutter, clean and tidy your entrance space bi-weekly, it will be easier to manage it in a calm and organised way. Getting started As usual, empty all the items in the room before sorting them into those you are going to keep and those that will be donated or binned. Think about how you are going to store the things you need or love. There are many ways to add value to this space to make it not only more functional, but also more welcoming and pleasing on the eye. Hang some paintings or set a bowl or vase of colourful flowers on the hall table, if you have one. Dyson explained that it's not that we don't need education. Obviously there are things that a citizen ought to know, he continued. But, [we're using] the entirely wrong approach. Dyson believes that American schools teach kids to, metaphorically, drive on bumpy grass instead of to pilot cars on highways. Memorization of facts and figures is the primary culprit. What we really need, he says, is to teach kids to use tools that do math for us.

In other words, no more multiplication tables. Calculators at age six. Parents and teachers, prepare your pitchforks. Whether or not children should be allowed to use calculators in school has been a subject of hot debate since the devices became affordable. With smartphones, we switch apps on and off when we need them. With lots of practice, we can do the same with our brain apps. Although the Threat app switches on by itself sometimes, if we use the Soothing app enough, our brains will be calmer and better able to make all the apps work well together. Ask your child which apps they're using right now, and which ones they use at times when they feel anxious or overwhelmed. Encourage them to practise switching them on and off as they need them, and to think about what might get their Soothing app working optimally (eg more time with friends or family, exercise, sleep, doing something they love). Reflection Parents are naturally eager to help their children when they're struggling, and parents of anxious children even more so. Having looked at their own anxiety and how that might affect their children's anxiety, readers might now feel primed for action. First, though, it'll pay to think through how anxiety works, how anxious cycles are made, and how anxious ways of thinking are maintained. As part of this process of reflection, compassion-based therapy asks us to consider how the child's anxiety may have developed. The result? We bury our own needs; We forget about putting our oxygen mask on first. In fact, we may as well throw it out the window. The thing is that putting your own needs first is not being selfish; Think about it for a minute.

If you don't have your own oxygen mask on, then you might pass out before you can fit someone else's! So, if you're always doing, if you're ticking off all the things on your to-do list, never taking a break, attending to the demands and pressures of everyone else, then what do you think is going to happen? You're going to burn out, that's what. I think we're being unconsciously told to push past our limits -- to not listen to our inner voices telling us to stop and relax, but instead listening to the external voices telling us to keep on going . In this system of thought, the heaven is yang, and the earth is yin. Yin exists in yang, and yang also exists in yin. The energy of the heavens descends and moves on the earth, and the energy of the earth ascends into the heavens. It is the balance between yin and yang that gives birth to the world we live in, which is reflected in the sun and the moon, the day and the night, summer and winter, and other similar pairs of opposites. Just as the imbalance between yin and yang on earth will cause natural disasters, so the imbalance in our bodies will cause disease. Those whose yin and yang are balanced have strong vitality and psychological endurance. They eat well, sleep well, and look great. They are happy and spirited, and they enjoy a strong capacity for dealing with emergencies, great adaptability, good stamina, and strong resistance to disease. By contrast, those whose yin and yang are imbalanced are prone to illness. What is the yang energy? Pitfall thought patterns have been extinguished. You probably will already feel a sense of cool, calm, and carefree ease at this point of SVT. Now you'll have the opportunity to see your future unfold in your mind's eye. Step-by-step, you'll see your best tomorrow. This is the power of cognitive rehearsal, which you'll experience in each SVT script. It will probably feel as if you're actually experiencing your best future right here and right now.

With the brain's occipital lobe lit up and a skewed perception of time, 30 seconds of intense visualization feels as though you've already pulled off mind-boggling feats. And if you've already conquered something in your mind's eye, then it's so much easier to do it in the real world. After all, your brain thinks, I've already done this before. For instance, the Olympic diver who practices in her mind's eye may feel like she's actually in that back dive, doing two and a half somersaults in the pike position. Solution: Encourage self-soothing. Put your baby to bed when he or she is drowsy but not fully asleep. For both babies and older children, use the camping-out method (see box, p. Limit-setting Sleep Disorder This disorder occurs more frequently in pre-school age or older children and is characterized by your child refusing to go to bed, even when you repeatedly call for bedtime. It's estimated that between 10 and 15 percent of toddlers and pre-school children resist bedtime in this way. Solution: It's never too late to establish a bedtime routine and to adhere to a strict bedtime. Schedule some wind-down and settling time to help him or her prepare for going to sleep. If routine isn't the problem, you need to be firm. Every time he or she gets out of bed, take your child back lovingly but without talking. Eventually children learn that it's very boring to resist. I'm going to fling open the windows and finally sort out the sitting room. Shouldn't take too long. But what am I going to do with all those articles? And that little table I bought in the junk shop with the wobbly leg? I suppose I can fix that. But no, I can't get the tool box out of the cellar without scaling Mount Laundry and attempting to traverse tricky What's The Point?

I'm hopeless at this. Oh well, the sun is out, seems a shame to miss it. Perhaps I'll take the dogs to the park and get to this tomorrow. First thing. As in earlier visits, your zeal for adventure had us both lost inside. Like usual, hunched over, cramming myself into the barrel hallways and spiral climbs, I was one of the few, if any, parents inside. Especially endearing were your repeated calls for me to follow you whenever I slowed, your hand blindly reaching behind you to receive mine, Daddy, Daddy, come on, Daddy! There was no shame or embarrassment that I was with you. To the contrary, I was the cool enabler of your adventures--besides, you hadn't reached that age yet. Each time you called, the sound of your voice quickened my pace and filled my heart, helping me to forget the physical pain of the assignment. About an hour into it--an hour--my knees and back and neck were so tired, I casually let the space between us increase and you silently let me slide, aware but ignoring, or so I thought, the distance growing between us. Before too long, I was on the outside, looking in. When possible, I watched and trailed under you, far above me, though you were no longer reachable. It was clear you were getting quite good at navigating this thing and didn't really need me. I use that word very carefully. You do not find happiness. You discover it. It has always been there. A Zen master was visiting London. He went up to a hot dog vendor and said, Make me one with everything.