Furthermore, I believe everyone should pay -- even the poorest person. I don't care if it's just one dollar a year. That would be enough. The point is that everyone should enjoy the dignity of paying his or her fair share. Morning was breaking when kitten-like cries attracted the attention of a firefighter searching for survivors. He found 18-month-old Casey under debris 100 yards away from the decimated mobile home. She was unresponsive and near death. Hunter, his face ashen and his head bandaged, could barely look at Jennifer and her parents when they entered the pediatric ICU waiting room. Casey was on life support; the swelling in her brain needed to recede before surgery could be performed. If she survived, it was almost certain she would be severely developmentally delayed. Although Jennifer refrained from recriminations, her mother did not. In no uncertain terms, she made clear that she held Hunter responsible for her granddaughter's condition. Uncharacteristically, he had no response. [Author's note: There is some interesting new research about radiation exposure and hormesis. As you recall, the concept of hormesis is that a small amount of a stressor is actually good for you, while large doses are dangerous. Radiation hormesis postulates that a bit of radiation exposure (like living in high-altitude cities like Denver), might actually be beneficial. Perhaps this minor stressor ramps up your body's cellular repair systems. There is no dispute, however, that large amounts of radiation are toxic. Stay tuned to more research on this fascinating topic.

] Radon is an odorless and colorless gas that may be responsible for 21,000 lung cancer deaths per year according to the EPA. The risk of lung cancer from radon is increased in smokers, but 3,000 people die from radon-induced lung cancer who never smoked. Radon is found in buildings and homes--possibly yours. He looked at me as if I were a midge on his plate. I could have ignored it and finished the dish later, but I had to perform that evening and did not want to think that the public would react to me in that way. I decided that I had made a mistake without looking at the person at the table: I simply plopped down on a chair and started talking about myself. Therefore, it was necessary to take a closer look at him. It turned out to be a classic kinesthetic: full, in a flannel shirt and with a beard. Yes, yes, he even had a beard. The fact that he was sitting alone also spoke in favor of my theory: he ate slower than the others (at a kinesthetic pace). I myself came running all over, plopped down on a chair and started telling a typically visual anecdote. No wonder he got so angry. So I continued eating, gradually setting up a rapport with a man, adjusting to his sign language and pace (which was slower than mine). While aiming high is good, it is essential that we look properly at the difficulty of anything we choose to undertake and allow ourselves time to get there. If we don't, we will torture ourselves for failures that are inevitable. We have to allow ourselves to be mediocre or even inadequate on the way to success and, as we have said before, we have to recognise the necessary and legitimate role of failure in our process of learning. We must trust ourselves to keep inspired and course-correct. As you undertake a task at home or at work, give it a difficulty score. Then, afterwards, you can say,' It was difficult, but I knew it would be.

We torture ourselves only if we thought it would be easier. And, of course, although many tasks, projects and undertakings of new learning are incredibly difficult and complex, they will be achieved more easily when you have changed distorted thinking to rational thinking and stopped getting in your own way. I (AB) once worked with a well-known actor and author who was super productive. He planned his days meticulously, writing efficiently by day and arriving breezily at the theatre for the evening performance where he spent time off stage researching and reading. If you have any interest in Psychology or were forced to take a general education requirement at some point, the name Ivan Pavlov might ring a bell. Pavlov was a Russian physiologist that made a serendipitous discovery that changed the world of mental models and psychology forever. His experiment wasn't on people, though: Pavlov was studying canines when this epiphany struck. His theory was that when a dish of food is placed in front of a dog, it will stimulate a response: salivating. He would have his assistant place a dish of food in front of the dog and then measure the amount of salivation produced in the dog's cheek. After time went by, though, Pavlov realized something was occurring that he didn't expect. He noticed that the dogs actually began to salivate before they even saw the food in front of them. They were triggered to begin salivating as soon as they heard Pavlov's assistant walking down the hall to bring the food into the room. Fascinated, Pavlov began another series of experiments. He played the metronome (similar to the rhythm of his assistant's tapping feet) for the dogs. There is the story about Jesus and some of his disciples who were watching the people come to offer their contributions to the temple. Some came with large amounts. Others gave smaller amounts. Finally a little old woman came and carefully put two pennies in the treasury. Jesus pointed to the woman and said, Look at this wonderful woman who gave her two pennies. The disciples were puzzled.

Of all the magnificent donations given here today, why are you pointing to this poor woman as an example? Jesus said, You don't understand, but she gave more than anyone else. They said, Two pennies -- more than anyone else? Explain that to us, Rabbi. Hunter returned to work on the offshore oilrig a month later, but he was not the same guy who cracked jokes with the office clerk and rolled his eyes at Jennifer's tornado concerns. Fearing the inevitable nightmares, Hunter did not sleep willingly. Even when exhaustion insisted on surrender to sleep, he startled awake multiple times. Loud sounds, especially crashes, caused Hunter to wince and hunker down, and it did not matter where he was or what he was doing. He had no control over his response to his surroundings. Rainy weather undid him, and he became obsessive about knowing exactly what he would be doing every moment of the day. Unexpected changes to his schedule triggered irritability, but Hunter was short-tempered even when things went as he thought they would. He communicated with Jennifer only when absolutely necessary, and always through email. Maintaining focus while communicating with her was hard enough, but when Hunter had to discuss his daughter, words were especially difficult to find. Three months after the tornado, Casey was released from the hospital. It seeps in from the ground and the only way to know whether your home has radon is to get it tested. Do-it-yourself radon testing kits are easy and affordable. If your house has radon, there are some options you can do to reduce your exposure. There's no excuse, go out and get tested. You go to the spa after work.

But instead of a dip in the whirlpool or a trip to the massage table, you enter a special chamber. The attendant flips a switch and you're bathed in the warm glow of a deep, red light. You emerge after 12 minutes, rejuvenated. You just enjoyed one of the hottest trends in wellness medicine (pun intended), red light therapy. When I noticed that the anger disappeared from my face, I gently asked a few questions to check if he really was kinesthetic. I asked slowly: was the food tasty? What does he think about the conference? And told the same story again. Now I carefully chose the words to make it clearer. I described the weight and dimensions of the items that took part in the story, and this time he laughs. By the end of dinner, we became friends. It would be very difficult to notice the difference from the side: at first, I told something and met a look full of disgust, then I told the same story and was rewarded with a laugh. I used all my knowledge of rapport, expressing feelings, sensations, and reactions to turn a negative situation into a positive one in just a few seconds! I just stopped thinking about myself and became interested in another person. He was an incredible chap, wonderfully talented and amazingly driven. I'd say that he'd be classed as a workaholic and I'm also sure that his phenomenal output and workload gave his life huge meaning. He made those choices in his lifestyle and always appeared to be an extremely happy, balanced and fulfilled man. That approach worked well for him. But workaholism can be dangerous if it leads to anxiety and stress. Balance is the key.