Mr Shoaff answered, What if you said, I love to pay my taxes because I know that it is my part in the care and feeding of the goose that lays the golden eggs'? <a href=''>What</a> if you said,I love to pay my bills, reduce my liabilities, and increase my assets'? What if you said, I love to part with my money and put it into circulation where it can help build a dynamic economy'? <a href=''>Wouldn't</a> it be a better way if you learned tolove to' rather than hate to'? <a href=''>Jake</a> never took time off following the shooting. <a href=''>Part</a> of the job, he told himself. <a href=''>Telling</a> oneself that trauma is no big deal is much different than making that wish a reality. <a href=''>For</a> weeks after the attack, Jake ping-ponged from absolute numbness to overwhelming anger. <a href=''>He</a> blamed Roger for helping the gunman survive and was so repelled by his presence that he quit their second Saturday poker game. <a href=''>Jake</a> knew he'd lose his shit if he had to listen even once more to Roger's gleeful account of how he told the White gunman that the Black community was already donating blood just for him. <a href=''>Roger's</a> morbid sense of humor, which Jake used to like about him, now got on his last nerve. <a href=''>Attempts</a> to make Jake laugh were met with a stony gaze, and once, he lunged for Roger and tried to choke him. <a href=''>Jake</a> would have done it, too, if two firemen hadn't held him back. <a href=''>While</a> Jake's temper was an unpredictable geyser at work, his wife, Holly, lived with a stoic, silently seething version of him. <a href=''>For</a> those brief moments, you are completely out of touch with the world--while driving a two-ton machine at 60 mph down the freeway. <a href=''>Bad</a> news. <a href=''>Alzheimer's</a> disease - Alzheimer's is one of our most feared diseases. <a href=''>Scientists</a> have long known that people with Alzheimer's disease usually have poor sleep. <a href=''>We</a> are now starting to understand that poor sleep may be causing Alzheimer's disease. <a href=''>For</a> example, we know that the sleep disturbance caused by shift work in midlife appears to increase the risk of dementia. <br /><br /><a href=''>Why</a> would poor sleep contribute to dementia? <a href=''>Recent</a> research shows that your body actively removes the toxic, Alzheimer's-promoting chemicals tau and amyloid-beta during deep NREM sleep. <a href=''>When</a> your slow-wave NREM sleep is disrupted (shift work, all-nighters, sleep apnea), you accumulate more of these dangerous chemicals in your brain. <a href=''>The</a> buildup of these harmful substances may increase your risk of Alzheimer's. <a href=''>Never</a> believe anything in politics until the fact is officially refuted. <a href=''>Liars</a> avoid talking about themselves in the first person. <a href=''>I</a> and mine are infrequent words in their dictionary. <a href=''>In</a> this way, they distance themselves from lies. <a href=''>For</a> the same reason, a liar often tries to summarize information, using such words as always, never, all, no one and so on, just not to talk specifically about whom or what it is about. <a href=''>The</a> Distance in Time <a href=''>Another</a> way to distance oneself from a liar is to tell a lie in the past tense. <a href=''>A</a> person who is aware that he is saying things that are very far from the truth often uses these kinds of preambles to give his words credibility. <a href=''>Thus,</a> he seems to be telling his interlocutor: I know that you have doubts, but believe me, I am telling the truth, no matter how strange it may seem. <a href=''>This</a> is a very frequently used trick, so it's only for a person to utter a similar phrase, as the alarm sounds in our head. <a href=''>In</a> the next section, when we ask you to think of the things you are grateful for, you will be thinking about the things and the people that you love in your life. <a href=''>So</a> perhaps compassion and self-compassion are about being kind to yourself and to others and, for most people, the positive emotion that underpins this compassion will be love. <a href=''>It</a> will, almost certainly, be closely aligned to the meaning you have thought about over the last few articles. <a href=''>If</a> it is this important, then we must surely choose what we love wisely. <a href=''>As</a> far as you possibly can, love what is good for you and not what is bad for you. <a href=''>The</a> seventeenth-century Japanese saying,See no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil' implies that we should act only with positive generous compassion.

Consider that just for a moment. Think, then, about how often we gossip or talk badly of people in a single day. On the level of neuroscience, this applies also to our thoughts. If we think evil', we are filling our brains with negatives, imagined or real, to which our mind, body and emotions will respond. <a href=''>It</a> just says that if your ultimate goal is to achieve success, you should first focus on your superpower-the unique skillset and knowledge you already have- and then slowly, over time and with discipline, expand those skillsets to include mastery of something new. <a href=''>So</a> how exactly do Charlie Munger and Warren Buffet utilize this mental model in their business? <a href=''>I'm</a> glad you asked! <a href=''>These</a> wealthy and successful investors use the circle of competence mental model when training their specialized investors which stocks to choose. <a href=''>In</a> one of these interviews, Buffet discusses this mental model in relation to one of his top business managers. <a href=''>I</a> know what you're thinking: how can you be a business manager in America, where the primary language is English, and your primary job is to do business with people verbally if you don't speak English? <a href=''>The</a> English language was not one of Mrs. <a href=''>Because</a> of this concentration, she was successful. <a href=''>Your</a> specialized experience and knowledge is your superpower. <a href=''>It's</a> what's going to make you successful. <a href=''>What</a> an incredible way to look at life! <a href=''>And</a> although it took me a while to learn to say, truthfully, I love to, the change in my life from hating to loving made a tremendous difference. <a href=''>Mr</a> Shoaff even taught me to pay my car payments with enthusiasm. <a href=''>He</a> said, Next time you pay a hundred dollars on your installment loan, put a note inside the envelope that says,With great enthusiasm I send you this one hundred dollars. Smiling broadly, he continued, You won't believe what a stir this will cause on the other end. They don't get many notes like that.

But most important, you won't believe what will happen on your end. You'll feel in control, carrying with you a philosophy that brings joy instead of frustration. Financial independence? You can achieve it. Prior to that fateful Wednesday night, they communicated well. Married just 9 months, they rarely fought, and when they did, the fights quickly resolved, mostly because of Jake's ability to stay calm in spite of Holly's tendency to blow up when confronted: the way she witnessed her parents' arguments as a child. Jake's willingness to talk out problems was one of the things Holly loved most about him, but in spite of her efforts to get him to open up, he would not speak at all. In fact, he accused Holly of manufacturing drama. not an act: Jake's feelings were so overwhelming that when Holly pressured him to let down his guard and confide in her, he added another brick to the wall. It was possible that he did not have the words to talk about what he had experienced. Jake was bewildered: he wondered what had happened to the self he knew before the shooting. He was never the type to get angry and stay that way. Holly's refusal to drop the subject of the shooting felt unreasonable. He dug in his heels, and rage masked as stubbornness took over where stability once was. While the research on this is evolving (visit my website for the latest info) securing high-quality sleep might be your best bet for preventing this dreaded disease. Emotional stability - You return home from a late family dinner and it is past bedtime. You unlock the door and your toddler, Sophie, bursts in and starts jumping all over the couches. She's giddy with excitement. Smiling, laughing, making froggy faces. Then, you tell her that it's late and you need to brush her teeth for bed.

In a flash, her smile turns to tears. Sophie screams, yells, and collapses on the ground. It will be a tough night. You've probably noticed the same thing about yourself. But sometimes it works, even in such absurd statements: It cannot be true! Do you know what happened? I find it striking that at the moment when people lie, they tend to speak more competently than usual. A person who is very casual about his speech, choice of words, phonetics, and intonation, suddenly begins to speak like a diplomat. I think this is not caused by nervousness, but by the subconscious desire to give weight to your words, to make people believe in what he says is true. A liar compensates for the lack of true content with an excess of beautiful phrases. You get the picture. You are kind of quiet. You are hiding something from me? The future promises the liars little good. This means that the act of compassion is self-compassion. And the opposite, of course, is also true. The final note on compassion comes from science. When we anticipate eating a bar of chocolate or drinking a glass of wine, the pleasure hit comes largely from a release of the chemical dopamine. We are likely to get a much larger hit from an act of generosity or compassion. It seems that those through the ages who said that kindness is the way to find happiness have been proved right.