Disciple: So although many people including myself are attracted to yoga as a means of increasing flexibility, you are saying it's not ALL about that? After all, you've just seen and experienced everything that's about to unfold, haven't you? Now I invite you to send this confidence to a button in your dominant index finger. So whenever you need a dose of this cool, calm, creative energy, all you need to do is press this button with your thumb. And now gather any residual self-doubt--visualizing it now as you blow it all into a balloon tied to your nondominant index finger. Now untie that balloon with your thumb . Can you see it becoming small? Now board that elevator . Ten floors up, becoming more alert. Seven floors up, wiggling your fingers and toes. Four floors up, conscious with confidence I'm angry because I feel like I'm losing control of this project and if she takes the lead I may not get the credit I deserve. CEO #2 could've asked herself if CEO #1 had done anything else to justify her feelings (such as trying to usurp her authority in other areas) or if she was simply getting insecure. She might have said to CEO #1, I want to feel like an equal partner in this venture because it's going to do a lot of good. How can we figure out a schedule we're both comfortable with and move ahead? Reframing the situation in this way would've helped CEO #2 realize that she was reacting because a need wasn't being met. Then she could more calmly move forward to achieve that goal. The second way to access compassion is to realize that it's not the burden of your mate or anyone else to heal your emotional issues. Read that sentence again. Facilitating such healing is the function of therapists and spiritual guides.

While someone may opt to change a behavior, that's very different from him or her fixing you. Among them are Jeremy Bentham and Voltaire, representing the atheists. These gods and philosophers, armed with bows and arrows, are shooting at random into this herd of rather self-important, smug buffalo. So do not ask, `Why me? Tom Carter, 1955-2006. Loved and missed. Acknowledgements Although I don't want this to read like a gushing Oscar-winner's speech, I do have to thank my agent, Julian Alexander, and the team at the Soho Agency, namely Ben Clarke and Isabelle Wilson. On Boxing Day 2018 I sent off my first draft of this article as a then untitled manuscript and within a week I had a positive reply. I had no idea what an agent did, but whatever it was, Julian guided me and put the word around. His sage advice has made this all possible. The key is balance and a constant search for this balance? Is this correct? When I say finding balance, I am not referring to the balance that you seek in a one-legged pose. I am referring to the balance between opposite forces in your body - the balance between the left and right side or the front and back of your body. If balance is created (in terms of flexibility/strength and so on), then flexibility can be a by-product of this new-found balance. But balance is not a by-product of flexibility. So, it does not work the other way around. If you think of a standard forward fold as an example, I don't want to feel more of a stretch or sensation in my left hamstring as I do my right. This is referred to as a muscle imbalance.

In this scenario, if I do feel more of a stretch in my left hamstring than I do in my right, it would be fair to assume that my left hamstring is tighter than my right. Cool and confident you. Bonus SVT Practice for Spiritual Connection As you already know, SVT is part of a holistic approach to wellness. It's a bio-psycho-social-spiritual approach. Scientifically speaking, the subconscious brain can change consciousness--affecting your perception of time and space, self-orientation, and attention. But you can also use the subconscious to deepen your spiritual practice or beliefs. It's been said that if the soul lived in a part of the brain, it'd be in the prefrontal cortex--an area of the brain that lights up when activated by the subconscious. In terms of brain waves, angels would reside in theta, which, as you know, are the signature of the subconscious. Where do you find spiritual fulfillment and connection in your life? Do you find it in nature, in a place of worship, or both? For instance, your mate might agree to examine his rageaholism so that his temper doesn't flare with you anymore, but that's very different from expecting your mate to heal your low self-esteem which gets inflamed by his outburst. Anger is deceptive because the view we take of an emotional struggle determines how angry we'll feel. For instance, I might periodically get mad at not having a significant other to pick up the slack in my life, whereas you might be relieved to have that autonomy. In your relationships, convey what your triggers for anger are so that others can be more sensitive to you. The key to addressing anger is compassionate communication. I'm defining this as an information exchange for the greater good that involves both expressing yourself and empathically listening to another. Then the people in a relationship have the possibility of transformational bonding--the ability to grow deeper as a result of communicating well--rather than pulling away or silencing angry feelings. Of course, it's wise to pick your battles. You don't want to die on just any hill.

But once you've determined an issue is worth addressing, the following exercise will yield optimal results. I had even less idea what an editor did. We all need an editor in life, as in writing. Someone who can advise if you are going in the wrong direction. Susanna Wadeson of Transworld had faith in the article, took it on and made it readable. When you write something, you hear your own internal voice in your head. When someone else reads it they hear their internal voice, which may be subtly different from yours. An editor taps into the internal voices of both the writer and potential readers and helps synchronize them. Well, that's what I think. Susanna has done a brilliant job and I greatly admire her perception and clarity. I also was touched by the letter she wrote to me before we first met, reflecting upon her own experiences of loss and frailty. If I continue to stretch further, I only exacerbate this imbalance. We have to create that feeling of symmetry. We need to create an even sensation in the back of our legs. Remember the story of Shiva and Sati/Parvati? We want a harmonious balance between the left and right side of our bodies to create optimum physical health - Guru Zee A hamstring that is tighter on one side is a muscle imbalance and is more likely to cause me an injury than both my hamstrings being equally tight. Muscle imbalances tend to refer to the strength or flexibility of contralateral (right versus left) muscle groups. The late Dr Vladimir Janda, an expert in chronic musculoskeletal pain says, Muscle balance is necessary because of the reciprocal nature of human movement, which requires opposing muscle groups to be coordinated6. Muscle imbalance occurs when the length or the strength of opposing muscle groups prevents normal movement.

So, my first approach when doing yoga for myself and in teaching is to address the balance within my body - is my body symmetrical? Dreams are another potential source of spiritual connection. Most people have had a dream with some sort of deeper meaning, so you probably already understand how the subconscious can enrich this part of your life. Of course, I'm not here to tell you what to believe. In my private practice, I treat people from all faiths while respecting their beliefs. SVT is equally open and affirming. Whatever your beliefs may be, this therapeutic partnering with the subconscious brain can enhance and deepen your spiritual practice. By becoming profoundly still via the subconscious brain, you can feel at one with the universe, all living beings, the divine, your loved ones, or a higher power. Which imagery speaks most to you? The subconscious can help you have an out-of-body experience as it changes areas in the brain associated with self-orientation, time, and space. I wonder how SVT will help you tap into your unique set of gifts--and how you will use these to be of service. Emotional Action Step Use these along with this article's spiritual strategies for transforming anger. Rule 1: Calmly express your feelings. Rule 2: Be specific about why you're angry; Rule 3: Request a small, doable change that could meet your need. Clarify how it will benefit your relationship. Rule 4: Listen nondefensively to another's position; Rule 5: Empathize with the person's feelings. Ask yourself: What pain or shortcoming is causing this person to act so angrily, to behave in a manner that doesn't meet my needs?