You're Still Remarkable, No Matter What You Decide I would argue that it's so easy nowadays to be remarkably awesome. Do you have a healthy marriage with great kids that behave? Do you work at a job that you actually enjoy? Does that job give you enough income to pay for vacations and allow you to adequately save for retirement? Are you healthy with your physical fitness and don't face limiting physical issues? Do you volunteer your time and contribute to help out your community in a positive way? News flash, you are remarkably awesome compared to the vast majority of people on Earth. You have every reason and right to be angry. But you want to get to a point where your anger no longer interferes with how you care about yourself or how you live your life. Forgiveness doesn't happen by making a one-time decision. No matter how sincerely you want to let go of the past and move on with your life, you cannot just wave a magic wand or flip a switch and blithely make the past disappear in one moment. What he did was not okay. I hated him for it. I trusted him because I wanted so badly for him to be my knight in shining armor. Now I know I blindly trusted. It's been a couple of years now in recovery for both of us, and I have forgiven him. My ability to forgive him came as I found my strength. Curcumin, a vital anti-inflammatory with anticancer benefits, can only be found in turmeric. Thymoquinone is a potent immune booster and only exists in black cumin.

Piperine has neuroprotective effects (protects the brain cells) and is unique to black pepper. Eugenol, found only in cloves, is a powerful painkiller. Rosmarinic acid is a potent antioxidant, and the only source is rosemary. Capsaicin is a great medication for arthritis, and its only source is chili peppers. The list goes on and on. The data on the benefits of spices is not optimal. Small animal studies are all we have to go on. But we think the potential benefits based on those studies is encouraging. Good job, you. And, if this isn't you, be encouraged that doing the steps in this article WILL make you remarkable. Who the hell actually uses a calendar this effectively? Who is intentional with how they use their time? Who plans out their day and blocks out time to execute their most important activities? Who says no to things all the time because it conflicts with their personal schedule? Who writes down their goals and breaks down how they can actually achieve those goals on a weekly basis? Who's actually consistent with their disciplines and commitments? The more and more people I talk to, the more and more I realize that nobody does these things. Heck, I didn't do this before my consulting job! I set boundaries I had never previously had. I owned feelings I have spent my life avoiding.

As I started to take care of me and think about me, I insisted on recovery practices for the marriage that I hoped would ensure our relationship. As he moved forward in recovery, I could be more compassionate to who he was. But during this time I did not focus on wanting to forgive him. That wasn't even in my realm of thinking. I was just trying to make sense out of what had happened in my life. I didn't want to live with self-loathing and pain. I came to understand us in a way I hadn't before. We are lucky as we were both in search of wholeness, which ultimately has only been found in our recovery. Let's talk about a few of our favorites. Turmeric--Our Gold For centuries, the people of India have been studied because until recently they suffered very little chronic illness. Yes, diseases of poverty and poor medical attention are rampant, but chronic illness was not--at least it wasn't until the modern era. This is likely because of something called the thrift theory: For centuries, Indian people lived in villages and walked as their form of transportation. They subsisted on diets consisting primarily of rice, vegetables, nuts, seeds, and spices. Turmeric is one of the spices that is used widely in that country, and it has many potential benefits. Turmeric's vital ingredient is curcumin, and it appears to have anti-inflammatory properties. In small studies, turmeric has been shown to decrease inflammation in joints and reduce symptoms of arthritis. In a recent study, one group of participants took 2,000 milligrams of turmeric compared to participants who took 800 milligrams of ibuprofen. I lived for 23 years as a pathetically apathetic human. What will you be satisfied with?

Only you can be the judge of that. What this article should do is wake you up to being intentional with all the time you have. Think about your death bed. I brought up this hypothetical situation earlier, but it helps clear up what you truly care about accomplishing. If you were on your deathbed and you looked back on your life, what would really disappoint you if you didn't learn or do something? (On your deathbed, thinking about what you wish happened) If you really wanted to blaze a career helping to drill wells in Africa, why don't you apply to serve or work at the current organizations who do this? I mean, literally, if you just type into Google, organizations that drill wells, you'll find plenty of people to send applications to. From that strength of being more whole, I could come to the place of forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn't mean reconciliation. Sometimes you fight against any form of forgiveness because you think that means you have to stay in the relationship. Reconciliation is a choice. You may choose to leave the relationship, or he may opt out. Whether or not the relationship survives, the recovery process is your opportunity to let go of self-defeating thoughts, feelings, and behaviors; Too often the relationship ends, and even if that is your choice, you stay angry and depressed and continue to act in ways that erode your esteem. That does not have to be you. After some time in recovery there was this quiet acceptance. I didn't know if I forgave him, but I quit hating him. Researchers found that turmeric provided at least as much relief from peoples' symptoms as ibuprofen and without the side effects that come from taking anti-inflammatory medications. Turmeric can be used to treat arthritis pain instead of ibuprofen.

Turmeric may also be a powerful antioxidant. It has been shown in animal studies to lower risk of cancers, such as breast, colon, prostate, and even skin cancers, when ingested regularly. The incidence of cancer in India is much lower than in the West. Turmeric may also play a role in treating Alzheimer's disease, due to the spice's anti-inflammatory effects. Alzheimer's disease affects 5 to 6 percent of the population older than 60 years of age worldwide and 10 percent of the American population over 65 years. Our brains contain cells called neurons that are responsible for making connections so that our thoughts can manifest in actions. But in people with Alzheimer's disease, plaque forms between these cells, reducing the ability of these neurons to communicate. These communications are the key to cognition, memory, and judgment, and without these functions we see the impairments evident in Alzheimer's patients. If they don't respond, don't stop harassing them. Show up at their freakin' door if you have to and say, Hey, I want to work with you and I'm willing to do it for free. Please, LET ME HELP! What this article should hopefully sparks in your brain cells is the decision to figure out what will satisfy you. If you really wanted to make your career digging wells in Africa, you would find a way. You would slave in your current job for years and build a storehouse of cash for savings. You would research about digging wells and figure out what these current organizations look for in job applicants. You would improve your personal knowledge and skills to go above and beyond what they look for. You would find a way to move to the city that the organization is based in or move to the village in Africa where these wells are actually built. If you really wanted it, you would do whatever is necessary to make it happen. I started to see him differently. He was no longer this monster to me.